Linda Goodman's Love Signs: Aries Woman, Cancer Man

Aries woman
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Use Astrology to Your Romantic Advantage

Do we truly have Zodiac love matches? For many years I dismissed horoscopes as mere entertainment. It was only when I dated my worst possible Zodiac match that I started to see undeniable links between birth signs and behavior patterns. Please note that I am not stating, "You are this way and will stay this way." Patterns or trends have exceptions. Also, they are malleable. People can and will adapt for love. Sometimes adaptation makes them better individuals and sometimes it does not. Overall, this article explores how and why one particular Zodiac match -- Aries woman, Cancer man -- can be difficult. It draws from personal experience and Linda Goodman's Love Signs: A New Approach to the Human Heart.

Fond memories of my Cancer Man - Aries Woman relationship
Fond memories of my Cancer Man - Aries Woman relationship | Source

When is Enough Enough?

When my previous romantic relationship became difficult, I wondered whether the problems we had were natural for any couple or whether they were especially rough. Linda Goodman’s Love Signs made it clear that I could be a lot happier – either with this guy and a lot of hard work, or by dating someone more compatible. Some Zodiac matches just make loving more fun.

In Linda’s book, you get more than separate astrological profiles. You get a profile for all Zodiac combinations: Aries woman with Aries man, Aries woman with Taurus man, etc. Your needs, wants and communication styles will become clearer than ever.

The Bible of romantic astrology
The Bible of romantic astrology | Source

An Example of Goodman’s Love Match Insights

As an Aries woman, I was almost certainly doomed when dating a Cancer man. The relationship began how Linda said it would: As an Aries woman, I was accustomed to men feeling threatened by my macha or masculine independent self. Then the Cancer man came along and made me feel more feminine than anyone ever had. But then, things fell apart...

What happened? For one thing, I communicate directly. I believe in sharing facts and saying it like it is. Meanwhile, the stereotypical Cancer man communicates subtly. People with these particular differences need to figure out a way to avoid serious miscommunication.

An Adolescent Man?

Linda Goodman has explained the Cancer man, when not well-developed, as someone at an adolescent life stage: overly self-conscious, sensitive to real or perceived criticism, moody and afraid to grow up. She explains that the Cancer man hides and sidesteps issues, moving side to side like a crab instead of straightforwardly like an Aries ram.

For an Aries like me, the Cancer communication style was maddening and seemed highly manipulative. From his perspective, my Aries directness was experienced as downright threatening to his soft crab insides.

His Emotions Get You Hot - Or Leave You Cold & Alone

At his best, the Cancer man is an emotional poet. At his worst, he's an emotional mess -- and that's the kind of Cancer whom it hurts the most to love. He might not even understand his own emotions, so good luck with him understanding yours.

Aries optimism
Aries optimism | Source

Cancer Pessimism vs. Aries Optimism

Aries are known to be optimists and Cancers are known to be pessimists. In a healthy relationship, partners' different tendencies toward optimism and pessimism can work together. They can balance out and create a unit that's stronger than either person on their own. That's not likely to happen with Cancer-Aries unions. And as Linda Goodman warns, when the Cancer gets pessimistic he crawls away to hide, sometimes seeking "the solace of alcohol's seductive siren song." Have fun dating that.

Is the Relationship Doomed?

Is an Aries-Cancer relationship doomed? Not necessarily. Your Aries-Cancer relationship could work if both parties are self-aware (or willing to become so through counseling), emotionally mature and willing to put a lot of energy into understanding one another's subjectivities.

An Aries-Aries match can be sweet & productive or a match made in Hell. Take your chances!
An Aries-Aries match can be sweet & productive or a match made in Hell. Take your chances! | Source

Some Classic Love Matches

While Aries-Cancer unions tend to be challenging, certain matches have encouraging odds for success. For example, Goodman points out that the Libra man's optimism is a good match for an Aries woman. Some other recommendations for Aries women are Aquarius men and Leos.

For detailed descriptions of every love match possibility, get a copy of Love Signs. You'll find yourself returning to it again and again.

Poll! Aries Woman, Cancer Man

Compared with other relationships, how challenging (in a bad way) has your Aries/Cancer relationship been?

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SantaCruz 4 years ago from Santa Cruz, CA Author

It's exciting to see some poll participation! I'd love to read details... You can leave them anonymously ;-).


Pooja 4 years ago

i am an aries female marrried a year back to a cancer man. he is a very homely person , wants to hide away from problems whereas i wish to face things boldly. i am a social person..

totally opposite we are to each other . He tries to avoid the detail conversation most of the time so that we both don't fight . but that leads to communication gap which is more bad.. i try to clear things but being blunt i use some harsh words which breaks his heart a thousand times.. :(


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SantaCruz 4 years ago from Santa Cruz, CA Author

Dear Pooja, thank you for sharing. The relationship sounds painful for both of you and it was probably once so beautiful :-(.

Have you gone to a therapist/priest/etc? Therapy is usually helpful to couples, but not when a person "wants to hide away from problems." That's what make these relationships so hard!

It's possible that your guy has been hiding things away for his entire life. If so, therapy could be extra-intimidating if he fears that he'll be asked to explore his childhood, blah blah blah.

So, maybe you could just work on communication skills in therapy. That might change your world. I hope so, Aries sister :).


Helen 4 years ago

Aires women are the most complex of all the signs in that with them you get the trinity: male, woman, child and each is strong. At heart Aires are and remain childlike. They simply do not see the world as other adults do; afterall they are the infants of the zodiac. You will not see their sensivity and if you could see inside them you'd see a million bleeding paper cuts. Not all are into rough-housing- in sex - it's variety, and never any brutish brutality for this Aires woman-


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SantaCruz 4 years ago from Santa Cruz, CA Author

Hm, I'm not sure if you mean "sensitivity" or "vulnerability." I agree that you won't necessarily see an Aries woman's vulnerability -- and also that it's there. The Aries infant need for basic comfort regardless of context is not a good match for a moody Cancer adolescent.


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SantaCruz 3 years ago from Santa Cruz, CA Author

Hi Don. I have lent out my Linda Goodman book, so I don't have any great quotes for you. Very generally speaking though, Virgo men are not as demonstrative of affection in the clear-cut ways that Aries women tend to prefer. Remember though that with all of these Zodiac pairings, astrologers would consider full birth charts. For example, if there is some fire in the Virgo, there would be a stronger prediction for easy compatibility.


3 years ago

Fire it up Don!


arunima 16 months ago

Hi,

I started dating a cancerian man 5 years ago. I was elder to him and am a capricorn. He was the love of my life.

He stood by me,helped me out and took care of me. But he was unable to deal with the fact that i had exes. Suddenly this man gets verbally and physically abusive. After a year of trying to understand his insecurites and delaing with them,i madethe mistake of cheating on him. We got back together and stayed toger for the next 4 years. But it was abviouslt worse than before. The abuse physical verbal continued an i took it as punshment for hurting him. He woukd speak of marriage but his parents didn't approve of me as i didn't meet their physical requirements still we pursued. His mother being the dominant chracter in their household i told him i wanted to marry him but stay separately.From the beginning he was secretive and of and on i have caught him speaking with women while acting single. We broke up abiut 6 months back and he said he was getting married to whoever his parents wanted. I did agree to marry him and live with his parebts and he asked me for some time to figure out who he wanted to be with as his parebts had found a girl they liked. He was worrried about hurting the other girl and his fathers reputation since the marriage had been fixed. He also told me that he feels he can do better than me, is attracted to her but emotionally attacted to me.Now hes dating an aries girl , he has said no to the girl his parents found and told me that he never loved me and that it was a mistake,i am his bestfriend , she is his life his destiny. They've been dating for 2 weeks.

Im absolutely shattered and confused as to what happened .

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