Who is the other woman in a man's life? Home wrecker!

Being the Other Woman doesn’t make you special; it makes you a runner-up. Second place doesn’t get the prize.–Home wrecker’s quotes

My friend was unhappy as her husband was behaving rather indifferently with her. 'He is always late from work and would not explain the reason to me' she was inconsolable. My friend was a good wife and I knew she looked after her husband with love and care. Her husband too had hitherto loved her, but of late something had happened to make him act callously towards my friend.

She was breaking her head as to the reason for this change in him and soon she found out why. She went to see her mother and when was returning in the bus she could not believe her eyes when she saw her husband walking in the street laughing with a highly made up woman. He had forgotten to smile at her for a long time and to see him in such a mood pulled her heartstrings.

There was a harsh fight and the children could not understand why their parents were fighting so bitterly. My friend's husband demanded divorce and my friend cursed the woman who had wrecked her life.

Whose mistake was it that a marriage of eight years had to end?

  • My friend or her husband!

The main culprit was the other woman in my friend’s husband's life.

  • She knew that he was married.
  • She knew he had children and was duty bound to look after them.

Why then did she allow such intimacy to develop between them?

She should have known that she was destroying a family and lives of two tender children who were suddenly thrown into the yearning world of a single parent.

Deviate from a married man

When you know that the man you are attracted to is married, you should immediately deviate from him. You might argue that love does not come with planning, but you should also realize that you are intruding into the peace of an innocent woman. You should show him that you cannot be taken for granted and would not allow betrayal of trust.

Love may be blind, but you are sensible with discerning brain and in total control of your emotions to have power over your feelings.

Are you working with a colleague who makes the situation charged with emotions?

Do you feel you might give in to your emotions?

Then it is time for you to act! Do not hesitate to ask for a transfer to another work branch. This move of yours does not mean you are running away from the situation because you are meek, but shows your empathy towards the to-be affected- family.

You are in fact behaving in a magnanimous way, with a clean intention of not spoiling the life of another person.

  • Are you are a strong person?
  • Do you think you can control the situation?
  • Do you think you can keep the man at a safe distance?

Then you can work in the same place, but you should not behave aggressively, but be friendly in an aloof manner with that person. He recognizes the signal and he too maintains a dignified distance and the situation will be back to normal.

When you master your feelings, you do not suffer the guilty conscience of breaking a marriage. You retain your peace of mind, but if on the other hand you let your feelings rule your heart and slip into a relationship with a married man, the result will be disastrous to say the least.

‘If he cheated on me with you he will cheat on you with someone else!’-Home wrecker’s quotes

When the man feels his interest dwindling, he does not think twice before leaving you to return to his family fold. You are left in the lurch and you undergo immense stress and pressure to pull your life back to normalcy. You should not allow yourself to be a stopgap interest to a married man, and when you keep away from such a person, you too will find a life partner who is your own.

© 2011 mathira

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Comments 17 comments

PerfectJumpOff 5 years ago

If you're not a homewrecker and just looking for fun,it's up to you what you do.


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mathira 5 years ago from chennai Author

I personally feel it is better to maintain a safe distance from married people, be it a woman or a man.Anyway thanks for visiting my article, Perfect JumpOff.


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carolinemd21 5 years ago from Close to Heaven

Mathira I love this hub! Very interesting. I think married people are taken and it's horrible when people try to ruin that.


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alexadry 5 years ago from USA

I think it is awful when women decide to go rob a husband. Problem is that at times men do not admit to being married and even surf the singles websites!


mathira 5 years ago

You are right alexadry, men can be very sneaky in this matter.Thank You.


mathira 5 years ago

Thanks caroline21. Marriages become so complex when couples are not true to one another.


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Great work. I think woman who finds that the husband is meeting somebody else, can do something positive. She can be positive in her mind. Once she is stable, she might decide to move out for some time. During this time, the husband might realize his mistake and come back.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

You are right Ruchi Urvashi.


mikeq107 4 years ago

Great hub....speaking as a married man I have put up healthy boundaries in this area...anyone no mater how strong they think they are can fall....Lust has been around since Adam and eve and its not going away its what we decide to do when it comes knocking on our door..God gave man and women two legs to walk or run in the other direction...no big mystery there LOL

Later

Mike :0)


mathira 4 years ago

mike, I am happy that you have healthy boundaries in your interaction with the opposite sex, and if everyone can do the same it will do a world of good to the institution of marriage.Thank you for visiting.


anonymous woman 4 years ago

you can't blame it all on the other person,if they know the other is married then sure they should stay away from that person BUT

the adulterous person who cheats knows they are married & arent supposed to cheat.so therefore they are the most responsible..cause if it isn't you then they will find somebody who will..either way cheating is totally wrong


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harinarayan 4 years ago from Kerala, India

You did blame only towards the girl, who destroy the family.what about the man, he forget his children also. Sometimes the girl didn't know he has a family or he is not disclosing that matter. Actually he destroys the life of two girls and his children.

Anyway good hub.Thanks for sharing your ideas. voted up and awesome.

keep smiling!!!!!!!!


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai Author

You are right harinarayan, when there is commitment you never cross the line.


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Qua International 4 years ago from San Francisco, CA

This is so true - you never want to be the other woman in a man's life. No matter how well he treats you, how much he loves you, how perfect he is, no matter what.

Even apart from what cheating on his wife says about him, every woman deserves to be her man's main woman.


Samsara 3 years ago

As I have found out first hand, my husband told lies about our marriage and me to other woman (married). She believed his lies, thought our marriage was bad and over (according to him) thus making her a "soft target". But she is also to blame for letting things develop from an emotional affair to a physical one, and hurting me, her husband, in the process. My marriage - it is over due to husband's disgusting behaviour towards me. Lies, cheating, verbal and then physical abuse! Enough is enough!


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Kathreen 24 months ago

I found just what I was needed, and it was engretainint!

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