The top ten marriage etiquettes. Follow it for mutual happiness!
' When a man marries a woman they become one- the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.'- Croft Pentz
Your married life can have unique happiness if you follow certain basic etiquettes in your day to day life with your spouse. It is very true that your interaction with your spouse should be natural and there should easy friendliness between you. But some extra care should be taken to make your marriage even better.
What exactly are the ways to happy married life?
Do you know most marriages fail because couples take each other for granted?
They are well mannered to the outside world, but do not think twice of being abusive to his\her spouse.
Why is it so?
You think marriage gives you the right to do what you want with your spouse and that he\she should understand your mood, without being too focused on the flash of mean behavior you show. If only you pause for a second and put yourself in the place of your spouse, you will never think of doing the thoughtless things you repeatedly do.
What are the important etiquettes you should follow?
1.The right for privacy
Just because you are married, it does not mean your spouse should not have any privacy. She\he might want some space for herself\himself, and you should be considerate enough to allow it. If you keep treading on your spouse, you both outgrow each other very easily. She\he has the right for her\ his own circle of friends and you should not question it as it causes unnecessary resentment and bitterness in the mind of your spouse.
2.The right for money of own
Do you expect your spouse to account for all the money he\she earns? This is a very wrong thing to do. It is very true that family financial commitments should be met together, but it does not in way take away the right of your spouse to have some money of his\her own. It takes so much of tension away from your marriage if each has the liberty of having some personal money for individual wishes.
3.The right for consensual sex
Do you expect your spouse to give you pleasure as and when you like even if he\she is not in the mood. Sex which gives such bliss can turn bitter when you always remain focused on your own need of physical proximity. When there is mutual romantic spark, the delight it gives you cements your marriage into firm love.
4.The right for respect
You should never pass snide remarks about your spouse and demean her\him before others. Such behavior makes your spouse resentful against you and sows seeds of dissatisfaction in the family. The respect and regard you give your spouse makes you both come closer.
5.The right for commitment
You cannot and should never dodge your responsibilities and draw away from family problems. Family commitments are always mutual and should not be tilted to one side. Monetary commitments, the future of your children, financial security of the family are the duties of both and never a one sided burden.
6.The right of loyalty
Trust spells success in any relationship and more so in marriage. You cannot doubt your spouse and have qualms about what he\she does when he\she is not home. It is the same with your spouse. You should have implicit trust that both are loyal to each other.
7.The right to acknowledgment
You should appreciate the contribution your spouse makes for the family and she\he should appreciate yours. If both think that the other is just doing her\his duty, it takes away the fulfillment from your relationship. When you appreciate the loving care of your spouse, it makes her\him feel treasured and cherished.
8.The right for care
You should take care of your spouse with true love. You should support him\her when he\she is in some problem, you should look after him\her with concern and you should shoulder his\her household chores. Attention to these niceties makes your family life compatible and attuned.
9.The right to belong
Do you just ignore your spouse when he\she is with you in some family functions? Does he\she not know all your family members ? He\she is going to feel completely left out if you do so. You should introduce your spouse to your relatives and include him\her in the conversation so that he\she feels belonged.
10.The right for having say in family decisions
Do you take arbitrary family decisions? Your spouse is going to feel left out if you do so. There should be mutual discussion between you so that both feel that he\she has been taken into account regarding important family issues.
Paying attention to such small aspects of your married life can enliven it in a very telling way. Protocol and set of rules are everywhere in life. So you should not think that you can do away with it in your marriage. Proper adaptation of such caring etiquettes is all that matters for a good family relationship.
© 2013 mathira
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