The Uniqueness of Friendship

A Powerful Bond

Friendships can often pull us through when we are too ashamed to tell our families, we are falling apart

Where would we be, who would we be without the ones who we refer to as our strength, crying shoulders, encouraging motivators and most commonly our friends? As much as we put emphasis on the importance of our families, often our friendships have a much tighter bond. Friends are the people that we meet and then grow with, they are the ones that we can call up when a heart has been broken, or a job has been lost. Some friends will take our side, no matter the fault. The best of friends will tell you when you have been in the wrong and tell you to wake up and smell the coffee; but they will also be the ones who will help you fix what is broken and come up with a spectacular fabricated story to tell everyone who asks what happened.

As much as we love boyfriends, siblings and children; our friendships can often pull us through when we are too ashamed to tell our families, we are falling apart. They are the people that most of us, are the most real around. They are there when we have money and when we are broke. When you are on the edge of having a nervous breakdown and want to scream at the top of your lungs, that you hate the world and everything in your life- and after you are done, they won’t hold it against you or even bring it up in a week or two, when you are feeling like you are on the top of the world.

Although we each need our friendships, we often let them fade when we evolve through our lives. When we fall in love again, we neglect our supporters and focus on the unfamiliar. When the unfamiliar never comes into focus, we are then welcomed back to the ones who have always been there to love us. These are our love stories- our soul mates and when we change, for some reason, we are always good enough for who we are when we are the person we become.

It is taught by society to tell our Parents, Children, Husbands and Wives that we love them and we appreciate them for all that they do for us. Parents celebrate their children’s birthdays, Husbands and Wives celebrate their anniversaries, and children go home for a visit on Mothers Day and Fathers Day. Each relationship has its own way and day of celebration. The uniqueness of a friend is that Friends celebrate with you when you get a promotion, when you get fired, when you get engaged, when you get divorced, when you find out your pregnant, when you find out your daughter is pregnant- and they are there by our sides and in our hearts when we face all the obstacles that can be put before us during our journey through life.

Without our friends, we would not be who we are today. Without our friendships we would never be whole. If we are lucky enough to have a friend that shares our best interest, hold on tight, and fight for them, the way that they fight for you-when you cant fight for yourself. True friends are often, a once in a life time gift, that we can’t afford to pass up. Make sure you appreciate your relationships, all of them-for how special they are to who you are and to your life’s story.

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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

What a beautiful reminder on the power of friendship. Thanks for sharing this with us.


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Paradise7 6 years ago from Upstate New York

Terrific hub. My best friend is my sister, so I'm very lucky there! She knows everything, she was there from the beginning, so she understands more than most.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

samboiam, Thanks for stopping by and commenting :) Friends can often be closer to our souls than our family---you cant pick your family, but you can pick your friends, perhaps that's why?


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Paradise-You are very lucky, I have two sisters-whom I love but I wouldn't say we are friends. My elder sister and I are very different in personality-so we have had conflicts, amongst other things in the past...My younger sister and I have a "big sister-little sister" relationship. I saw her last night and was answering a question she had asked-when I asked why she decided to asked me this particular question, her response, "Because you have more knowledge about more things than anyone else I know, so I know I have the best chance to find something out, if I ask you". I laughed, but it reminded me, she is my baby sister, and I will always be a guide for her as a sister-but I can't tell her all my secrets, as I can a friend, because of the role model, lead by example, wiser than most belief she has in me-but that's okay, what are sisters for :) thanks for commenting :)


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

You are so right H.C. True friends come few and far between. While I have a bevy of acquaintances, I have a handful of friends that I have known for some time - and it is so important to keep them close.


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Great hub, great pictures, HC. Thanks for reminding us how precious friendships are! Well done!


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

HC, this was a beautiful tribute to friendship and I agree with every word. I had a very close friend who I met in 1st grade--we were buddies for over 40 years and I considered him a brother. When he died suddenly a few years ago, I felt lost. He was everything you mentioned in your beautiful hub, and even though I have friends and lots of support in my life, he was the person I counted on most. I still miss him and have not replaced the support and comraderie he offered.

Well, this comment was a little darker than I intended, but I agree completely with your tribute to friends and friendships. I hope everyone can know a friendship that is strong and lasting. Voted up and beautiful.

Mike


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Veronica, very true-we often get so wrapped up in life when we become parents or spouses and forget about the ones who got us there... If we are able to balance the new home life and our friendships, we will be better for it in the long run, because we all need friends


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Ann, As always-thanks for stopping by and leaving a note for me. I appreciate it very much. I am glad that you liked it :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Mike, I am so sorry that you have lost such a special person in your life- The great friendships that we have in life, I dont think can ever be replaced with another. The bond is too complex and too many memories are shared to find a substitute. I am glad that you have had such a friend, but am sad that you lost him too soon. Thanks for stopping in and commenting on this hub.


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

Hi HC. This is a beautiful reminder of what is really important in life. I wouldn't be where I am today without the constant support, correction and love of my friends. Thanks for writing.

Namaste.


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Rafini 6 years ago from Somewhere I can't get away from

They say friendships are everlasting...but it can't happen until you've found a friend. Nice hub.


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ezzy1512 6 years ago

You are right H.C. Porter


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Why Thanks Ms Deborah, I appreciate you leaving such a comment. I think there should be a national friendship day-like Mother's Day and Father's Day. Friends really do stick by our sides when things are for good and for bad-many others don't or we arent able to open up in the same way to our families as we can with friends.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Rafini, Thanks for leaving a comment. I am pleased that you enjoyed my hub. It is important to appreciate all the souls in our lives that help us become who we are.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Ezzy1512- Thanks for reading and leaving a comment. I appreciate your feedback and am glad that you enjoyed this hub


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Richieb799 6 years ago from Cardiff, Wales UK

Hey H, It was a coincidence when I glanced over at your profile the other day I noticed you also did a friends hub! I've been thankful for my friends recently and thinking a lot about them..I added a back-link to your hub in mine, maybe we could trade links? - Rich :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Thanks for reading Rich, sure-lets trade links :) You dont have to ask... You should know that-you always write in good taste, so I have no issues linking to your hubs :)


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Richieb799 6 years ago from Cardiff, Wales UK

I put a link in mine so feel free to drop one in here somewhere! :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

I did- Check it out under photos...Unless I linked to the wrong hub, lol :)


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Richieb799 6 years ago from Cardiff, Wales UK

aw yeah sorry babe, I was a bit slow there, you gave me a special box :D your great! :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Not a problem :D


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

This is a lovely hub H.C. Acquantinces come and go with the hands of time but true friends stay with us throughout life through all the trials we face.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

blondepoet, Thanks for stopping by and reading my hub. I am always happy when you decide to leave a comment. I hope that you have some great friends to lean on when you need them :)


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Research Analyst 6 years ago

uniqueness of friendship is a great way of describing how 2 or more people can keep a connection going over the years no matter what changes happen in each ones lives, it such a blessing to meet people who really enhance and inspire.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

research analyst,

thanks for the insightful comment :) I agree...friendships are so important, yet we often take them for granted, when they deserve so much more :)


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Sylvia Leong 5 years ago from North Vancouver (Canada)

I've read both this & your other Hub about friendship. Very beautiful. I too have one girlfriend on whom I can rely. I have noticed that as I get older, these types of close, quality friends seem more & more difficult to find.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Sylvia Leong- thank you for the comment and you are right-we are lucky in life to have one true friend.

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