The online dating game. Scream and run, or stay and fight?
Online dating has become hugely prevalent over the last few years. At one time, saying that you met your partner online carried with it a huge social stigma. People would look at you as if you had an extra head sprouting out of your shoulders. Nowadays it still carries a social stigma, but everyone's doing it. The official rule seems to be 'don't ask, don't tell', and if that's good enough for the US Military, why then it should certainly be good enough for the rest of us.
It's not enough to just go online and set up a profile though, that won't get you the man or woman of your dreams. It will get you one of two things, depending on which sex you are. If you're a man, it will most likely get you overwhelming silence. If you're a woman, it will get you inundated with pictures of penises, and lewd sexual propositions. The sad fact of the matter is that you could probably go into your local biker bar and be less harassed than you will be if you go online to date, and if you're a guy, there may be more chance of getting some action at your local convent.
That was all very negative wasn't it? Yes. And of course, I am speaking in generalities, which is really the only way to speak. Some people do find the loves of their lives online, but not before they have ploughed through screeds of semi illiterate pornographic text to get there.
The Internet is certainly advantageous in that you don't have to leave your house to go find someone, and people are plentiful online. The question most people ask is how can you tell the difference between someone genuine and someone faking it for fun? Unfortunately you really can't, not at first anyway. Are you talking to the sexy stud of your dreams, or a ten year old who knows how to Google for body builders? Only time will tell.
However, this is not the huge problem it seems to be, the major problem on the Internet is in fact, people actually being themselves. Social morays go out the window, and men who would normally be too scared to approach you are suddenly coming up with charming opening lines which involve vivid (though usually poorly spelt) descriptions of what they would like you to do with their genitalia. It's not pretty, and it just goes to show that being yourself is sometimes a little too much for the rest of the world to handle.
So, scream and run, or stay and fight? It is up to you, just be aware that even greater than the risk of being scammed, is the risk of dealing with hundreds of people who have suddenly lost all sense of decorum and sociability and behave with all the decorum of rabid sex offenders.
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