Those Who Cross Our Paths

I have met so many people in my lifetime. Some are still in my life , some just briefly passed through. I am grateful for each one of them. Each person that we meet teaches us something, brings something into our lives or many times they need something from us. I am happy to give whatever it is that they need, be it a kind word or deed or maybe just a hug.

I have friends that are so close to my heart and they will never know the depth of love I feel for them. Love is not something you can measure or hold in your hand. It is a deep feeling that only each of us can feel ourselves. We can try to convey to others how we feel but it is impossible to let them feel that love completely.

I am a simple woman that loves life. I love people and try to see the good in all I meet. I met a woman 31 years ago that I thought was my friend. As I got to know her I saw that she was self-centered but just kept overlooking that as we all have our faults and our good points. Many times over the years she hurt me, but I continued being her friend. She would stay out of my life for a while then sweep back in as though nothing happened. I would welcome her back each time. After 29 years of this behavior she cut me out of her life once again for a silly selfish reason. I have read that sometimes when people walk away from you you just have to let them go. This last time I did, I tried to make amends with her but to no avail. She wanted nothng to do with me, would not even acknowledge me. It hurt, but I was tired of working at a friendship that seemed like a one way road. So I let it go. I hadn't spoke to her in 2 years when I got a call a couple of months ago from her daughter that she was in the hospital and was not expected to make it. It hurt my heart as I loved her and wanted her to be well. She passed away in August. It is still hard for me to beleve.

You have to share the love you have, it is who we are. There is a lady that lives in the building where I live, she is very bitter and angry. It is written all over her face and in her mannerisms. I feel sad for her. Her words and voice are filled with anger, as if to say ' Leave me alone'. A heart beating inside, a spirit that is held in prison. Such a sad way to live. I see her and send blessings her way. How can someone be so cold?

I have a friend that is full of love and life. She laughs a lot and never ceases to lift me up and tell me how much she loves me. We have been friends for 40 years. I guess you could say she is my soul sister. Always understanding, never judging. She gets down at times and it is my turn to lift her up.She has been my rock, my friend, my counselor, my sounding board, a soft place to fall. we have been there for each other through so much. It is comforting to know that I can depend on her and she on me. I try to do this with people in my life. Tell them of their good qualities, tell them how much I love them. Tell them how much they mean to me.

I have another friend that blows my mind. I only met him 15 months ago and yet I know he is the smartest man I have ever met and has so much common sense. He is a wonderful person, very kind, good heart, very compassionate, Great dad, excellent cook, works hard, takes his responsibilities very seriously, loves his family. I am in awe of him. He has a sharp memory and has so many good ideas. Sometimes I wonder why he doesn't run for President or at least some office that can begin to make a difference for this country. He would be a breath of fresh air for all of us. He says things that are thought provoking for me and for many others I am sure. I am happy in so many ways that he crossed my path, he has taught me much about myself and about how each of us should be on the inside.

We are all just human beings trying to make it in this old world. If each of us would just touch each person that we meet in some kind way. So many are so angry with life, with the way things are going, with others, that that anger kind of pushes the love to the back burner. We need to push the anger aside and look at each new morning as a chance to show our love to those who cross our paths. We all need it and we all have it, some of us just have to reach a little deeper to find it, but it is there and it is alive and well. We are all the same on the inside it is what we do with we have on the inside that makes a difference. we can share or keep it to ourselves, but I have found that when we share ourselves, our goodness, our love, it will always come back to us in some way, some day. I choose to love and do or say what I can to lift up those who, I am so humbled to have them, cross my path.

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ahorseback 6 years ago

Beautiful hub ,Singlemom , this life is full of relationships and someone once said "if you're lucky in life, you can count real friends on the fingers of one hand", or something similar. I believe the count can be small but even one is as powerful as any love we can know. I will be happy with even this alone , in the end. Hey , I'm the first to comment! How about that?


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Hi ahorseback, thank you for being the first to read and comment on my hub. You are so right, I know I am more than blessed to have true friends. Many do not have friends at all and that is so sad. I enjoy people, I like to see how they unfold under tender loving care. Sometimes you get a beautiful blooming rose and sometimes you get one that is not quite ready to open up. All in all we are all blooming somewhere on the spectrum. Some take a little longer than others. thank you for stopping in and for your nice comment. I am glad you liked it. As you can see by now my Hubs are written from my heart, as that is where most of me lays. I am not book smart, but my heart feels deeply and that is where my Hubs come from.


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ahorseback 6 years ago

Singlemom, The heart is the most valuable part of friendship. And the best part of us all.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Yes it is, well said. Ty!!


"Quill" 6 years ago

Morning singlmomat52... we have all experienced much the same but you have wrapped it all up in a sentence which is powerful and full of meaning.

"We are all just human beings trying to make it in this old world. If each of us would just touch each person that we meet in some kind way".

We all face situations in life which hurt, I have had a friend for 30 some odd years who has heard little or nothing of what I have said... it is all in the eyes as when I speak with her you can see she is so busy attempting to formulate what she will respond with she misses the point of what you are saying.

I think the key in all relationships is accountability, when we speak it in love and genuine concern, we either loose them or they come back to hear more and stand corrected. Some we can never change, we need to let them go and move on as there are many out there who need us.

Above all my dear sister, know and understand the Father loves you dearly, you are His daughter and a child of the King most high.

Blessings and Hugs


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Well Thank You Quill!! I do appreciate you stopping in and reading my Hub. Your comment is all so true. Life can be very hard, but we have to have the valleys to enjoy the mountains. And sometimes finding our way through the valleys can be trying. But oh to see that light coming over the top of the mountain!!! What a beautiful sight it is. And I know what are speaking of when you say you can see her mind work as to the next thing she is going to say and not hear a word you are saying. I have seen the same thing as well. We all need to slow down and listen. Thanks again and Blessings and hugs to you and yours as well.


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Minnetonka Twin 6 years ago from Minnesota

Hi singlmom-I really like your uplifting spirit that comes through so loud in this hub. Love is really the best thing about life. I agree with Quill that there are some people in our lives that we do need to let go of and others that you hold close. I had a friendship like you with a girlfriend that had to end. I finally saw she was never going to change and be the friend that I had been to her. Sometime loving ourselves means letting go. I really enjoyed this read. Thank you.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Beautiful thoughts. Without these bright lights, it gets gray and darker. God bless!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Glad you liked my Hub! Thank you for your comment!!


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Specialk3749 6 years ago from Michigan

A good friend is priceless! To have a friend we have to be friendly. Like you, I know some miserable people because they are so bitter they do not know how to be a friend or accept a friend "as is". Thanks for a great hub!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

You are welcome Specialk, I agree with you. We all have our days and I always take that into concideration, but some people can be downright mean. Still I smile and say have a good day. I just keep hoping that it will make a difference for someone sometime. Thanks for reading my hub and for your comment!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Hello Minnetonka, thank you for stopping in to read my hub!! It wasn't the fact that she wasn't being the friend to me that I was to her, I am going to be a friend regardless, but it just got old the way she, out of the blue, would stab me in the back. I was never ugly to her nor argued with her. I wished her well and still loved her, but could not take her senseless abuse anymore. Thank you for your nice comment!


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drpastorcarlotta 6 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

Well, I am blessed to have met you on Hubpages. And I do believe that it is by no mistake. I am honored and blessed to know you. May God watch over you and keep you!! Be BLESSED!!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you so much. I am always amazed when someone blesses me or prays for me. I humbly appreciate it. Nice of you to stop in and leave such a nice comment.

Blessings!


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lifegate 6 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

singlemom,

I'm glad we crossed paths via hubpages. What a beautiful way of looking at things. Thanks for sharing.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you for stopping in and taking the time to read my Hub!! And thank you for your nice comment!


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

A beautiful message from a beautiful heart. Friends are priceless. Love your neighbor as yourself. Which also means to love yourself. I enjoyed your warm words. Well done!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you James!! I do appreciate your kind words and that you stopped in to read my Hub!! And yes friends are priceless!!


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Dim Flaxenwick 6 years ago from Great Britain

You are simply one of those wonderful human beings that you mention. You´re the best., simply the best.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Dim I thank you for that but it is not my intent to seek compliments, I am just hoping that we can all do just one thing to make a difference in this old world. Thank you so much for your kind words and for stopping in to read my hub. You are always welcome here and you are pretty great yourself!! xxxxxxx


Justsilvie 6 years ago

Lovley Hub. Your words "You have to share the love you have, it is who we are" says it all.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Hello Justsilvie, glad you stopped in to read my Hub and so glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for your nice comment!!


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zzron 6 years ago from Houston, TX.

This was a very wonderful hub singlmomat52. I know exactly what you mean. I have often thought and wondered the same thing. How many people have I actually known in my life? I just turned 49 this year and thinking about all the people I knew in the Navy 30 years ago and growing up and going to school.

People you have met on the job and just casual acquaintances. It's funny how some people's names and faces stand out in your memory and I find myself sometimes wondering where they are and what they are doing and even if they are still alive are or not today.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Yes I wonder that myself. How many people have crossed my path? Interesting thought! And no way to ever know. I just hope that I have done something kind for each. Thank you for reading my Hub and for your great comment!


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RunAbstract 6 years ago from USA

This was so lovely and heartfelt. It leaves me wishing I was one of the lucky people to be part of your world!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

But you are, we have crossed paths here on Hubpages and I am grateful for that. Thank you for stopping in and for your sweet comment. Blessings!!!!!


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DavePrice 6 years ago from Sugar Grove, Ill

Thanks for a beautiful hub - I know this was just the first of many hubs I'll be reading. Thanks for a wonderful glimpse into a beautiful heart.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

DavePrice thank you for stopping in and for your very nice comment. I am glad you enjoyed the Hub, I do love to write from my heart.


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Hummingbird5356 6 years ago

Thank you for this hub. These are very true words that you write here. You should treat others how you want them to treat you. If they do not reciprocate then it is their loss.

Some people waste their lives in bitterness because they blame someone or something outside of themselves for their situation. I know many people get into bad situations because of someone else's actions but you cannot let it drag you down for ever. We only have one life and we must put bad things behind us and not show it on our faces for all the world to see like the woman in your house.

You sound like my kind of person.


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lyjo 6 years ago

Sometimes, all we can do is be there when someone needs us, and that has to be good enough for us...even though it hurts. So many suffer, and we have no idea why? Although we too suffer, I try to remember that there are always, always, people that have it much worse than us! If they run into enough people that have a smile, or a kind word, when they are ready they might come around...maybe not to us...but eventually to someone...just know that you played a part in that, and stay the beautiful person you are! Take really good care!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Hummingbird it is so nice to see someone new and I welcome you!! I am glad that you enjoyed my Hub, I enjoyed writing it. I love people and have found that many do not want to be bothered with friendship, but I just keep on being me and hope to make someones day with a smile or a kind word, or just a touch. Thank you for stopping in and for your nice comment!!


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

lyjo welcome!!! You are so right, sometimes it has to be good enough for us. A few weeks ago a young man commented on my hub Why Does One Choose Suicide, but his comments led to the fact that he himself was contemplating this. I said all I could, but I have know idea what he did. I hope that he is well and feeling better. It breaks my heart to think of this young man taking his own life. Thank you for your kind comment and you take care as well.


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Judicastro 6 years ago from birmingham, Alabama

Hey girl

I haven't been over to see what you have written for a while so thought I'd try and catch up. I'm so glad I started with this one. I felt as if you were writing my story when you were talking about your friend that you let go her way. I had exactly the same experience only my friend is still living and we are still not talking. We had been friends since HS and I have just dipped over into the 60 range so you know it's been a loooooonnngg time.(-; Over the years my family would say how can you be friends with her, she does nothing but tear you down, she's negative and self centered. Somehow I felt that she needed me I guess but when she began to attack my family, my children I drew the line. We didn't talk for over 5 years. A friend of mine said maybe she's changed, you should try. So I did. Only this time she turned the tables on me and told me she was through when I tried to get her to see someone elses side of things. I've tried many times and finally I felt a release to just let her go. I'm fine with it now. I loved your hub, I felt like we could be sisters. I love people, all kinds, even the mean and cantankerous, because I believe like you that down inside they have a beating heart that wants to love, but maybe they just are too afraid to try again. Thanks for writing this dear friend.


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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Judi how nice of you to take the time to read my hub. I know exactly what you are talking about. It is very sad for those who are so self centered. Well, truth be told, we are sisters. There is only 6 degrees of separation between and of us, so yes you are my sister. And yes they may be afraid to try again or they do not know how, so it is up to us to a ceratin extent to show them that they can try. Take care and thanks for your comment!!!


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sligobay 5 years ago from east of the equator

Hello 52- You have a wonderful perspective on life and relationships. Friends are treasures.


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singlmomat52 5 years ago Author

Friends are very important and we all should have friends. They lift us up and make the world a better place. Thanks for reading my Hub and for your nice comment!!


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

11/13/2011--10:42 p.m./cst

Hi, singlmomat52, may I tell you something? You are a very wise lady. Very sensitive and aware of the life that is in and around you. YOU are so blessed. And talented. I am speaking the truth. Voted up and away. And I am HONORED to follow you. Sincerely, Kenneth Avery, from a rural town, Hamilton, in northwest Alabama that looks a lot like Mayberry on the Andy Griffith Show. You may check out my hubs and see my takes on life, things, and situations. I sincerely appreciate meeting YOU on hubs. Much peace to YOU!


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singlmomat52 4 years ago Author

Thank you Kenneth Avery for your very nice comment. I am sorry it has taken so long to reply as I just got your comment today. I am just a simple woman who lives from my heart and sometimes that is painful but that is the way God made me and I am proud of who I am and what I have in me. I just enjoy trying to make people happy and lift their spirits as much as possible even if I never meet them again maybe just maybe that chance meeting will make a difference in their life. Thank you again and I will try to read some of your Hubs as I have not been on here much in the past few months. Blessings!!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

1/172012

Hello, Dear singlmomat52 . . .no problem. And you are very welcome for my truthful comments about you and your writing. I would relish the idea of you reading my hubs and also being a follower of my various adventures on hubs. That, my friend, would make my day. I will be looking for you soon and you keep up those great hubs. Your Friend,

KENNETH

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