Tips for Men - What Women Want While Kissing

The first kiss is important to a woman. VERY important. There... I've said it. Unfortunately most of you guys just don't realize that, so consider this: when you kiss a woman for the first time, she decides right then and there if she ever wants to kiss you again.

Did that sink in ? It means that a woman decides she will never ever have sex with you if you're a lousy kisser.

But how do you know if you're not that great at kissing ?

Ten signs you don't know how to kiss a woman :

10. She french kissed once but never again

She slipped her tongue on you, but didn’t ever again. It could be that you’re much to eager with the tongue. Slow down, dude.

9. Makes excuses when you’re going to kiss her

She says, “I have to get up early” or “I need to floss my cat”. You might need to reevaluate this relationship, you might have ruined it.

8. She’s tired when you want to kiss her

If she’s constantly yawning when you try to lay the smack down, then you need some improvement.

7. She wants to get busy with other parts of your body

This isn’t that bad. But you still don’t know how to kiss a woman. Try and improve it, so you can complete the package.

6. She never starts kissing you

If she doesn’t initiate, then you did something wrong. No girl no matter how shy, won’t want to make out with her lover.

5. She doesn’t give you compliments

If she doesn’t say something like, “you know how to kiss”, or “I’ve never felt like kissing this much” chances are you’re not that great.

4. She suddenly springs up “Let’s be friends” after the first kiss

You need immediate attention.

3. She pops breath mints

If she’s popping breath mints, it could be a good sign for kissing. She might be self-conscious about her breath, or it might be yours. Always come prepared and pop them when you’re about to kiss her.

2. If her lips are bruised or bleed

Try chewing on them less, and let her lips heal so she doesn’t get some weird disease through an open wound with you.

1. She’s cheating on you

You need help. For sure.

So, just exactly what makes you a good kisser ?

The key is to be soft and gentle and follow her lead...that's all there is to it.

And whether it is your first kiss ever or your first kiss with a new partner, there are bound to be butterflies in your stomach and fireworks in your head and if you play your cards right that is exactly what you both will get. First thing to do though is to kiss a woman gently and allow yourself to feel how she is kissing you.This is key! Don’t focus on kissing her, focus on how she is kissing you. She already has an internal checklist of what a kiss is supposed to feel like for her. By paying attention to the way she kisses you then kissing her back exactly the same way, you validate her model how things work, demonstrate you are just like her and you perfectly fire off all the signals that tell her mind body and emotions its okay to go to the next level. Once you have matched her particular style of kissing and you’re effectively doing it back to her the same way, you can start to direct her a bit more.

A few tips to be sure she'll be begging you for more:

10. Do it in private

One of the biggest mistakes that too many guys make, is going for a kiss in the wrong situation. Every woman wants to feel special, so they prefer to share the moment with you and you alone. Take her to a back room or better yet a completely more personal location if you're out with her somewhere. Most woman don't like to be kissed passionately in a public place.

9. Know when to pull out

A first kiss should always feel like a preview of more kisses to come. Don't let a first kiss last for hours, and don't attempt to pack all of your feelings into one long-lasting kiss. Instead, keep it short and sweet and be the first one to call it quits. Don't go for gold on your first or second kiss ! Show her you're in control and be the one to slow down. You'll leave her dying for more, believe me.

8. Feel her out

When you feel the moment is right, reach over and touch her hair while you're talking and make a comment about it. Say something like, "Your hair looks so soft," and lightly touch the tips of it. If she smiles, reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time shift your glance between her lips and her eyes a couple of times. If she lets you keep touching her hair, you know that she's ready to be kissed.

7. Be a tease

What every man should know: woman love to be teased ! Let her know who's in control by driving her crazy with your lips. Act as if you're going to kiss her, then at the very last second, pull away and give her a naughty smile. Use this sparingly to keep her turned on and on her toes. Don't overdo it though or you'll piss her off and your chances of kissing her are ruined.

6. Ease into it

If you're a little nervous before going for the kill, ease into it by leaning in and smelling her neck. Say romantic things like "Mmm... you smell good" or whatever comes to mind. Make eye contact with her after you've slowly brushed your nose and cheek along hers. When your eyes lock, close them and go for it.

5. Show some passion

Every woman longs to be ravished, so why not make her fantasy come true? As you're kissing her, reach back behind her and pull her head back by gently grabbing the hair right above her neck. Please do that gently or you'll be overpowering. Slowly kiss your way down her neck and give her a playful bite, then pull back slightly and breathe heavily on her neck and in her ear. It'll give her chills.

4. Dip her down

Remember the 'Do it in private' tip ? If the mood is right, add some sensuality and chivalry to your kiss by gently dipping her down. Do it slowly ! There's no better way to make her feel like she's with a powerful and confident man. Believe me... if you do this right she'll never forget the moment.

3. Use your hands

Caressing is a huge turn on for women, especially while they're being kissed. Starting above her ear, run your fingers through her hair, down to her neck and all the way down her back. Then slowly slide your hand back up again. Use both hands, and alternate between using your whole hand and just the tips of your fingers to give her an experience she won't soon forget.

2. Spice it up

Once initial contact has been made, spice it up a bit with some variety. Move from short, soft kisses into longer, deeper ones, then back again... and don't use your tongue any more than she does. I know you guys like wett kissing, but don't come on too strong ! Change the angle by moving your head to the other side, and alternate between sucking on her lower and upper lip. Be sure to stop to breathe after every few kisses. These little moves will let her know that you know exactly what you're doing.

1. Explore her body

When you're ready to really turn up the heat, kiss her on her neck and move your lips slowly up to her earlobes and give a light nibble. Don't be surprised when she starts breathing heavily.


If you are done kissing for a little while stare into her eyes and enjoy what the two of you just shared. Show her that you liked it by smiling, holding her hand or a simple comment about how soft her lips are or good the kiss was. It makes her relaxed and not feel awkward. The twinkle in your eyes as well as that cheesy smile on your face should make you feel like you are on top of the world. Enjoy !

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Lilitu.Bau 5 years ago

Here's hoping there are men out there following your advice!


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Great hub which sounds so real and i love this.


ladi cole 4 years ago

kind of makes sense


david 4 years ago

i will give a try to the i feel shy of kissing her


Jordan 4 years ago

The fact that you begin this with saying if you don't kiss a woman right she wont sleep with you is a little stupid. Maybe a little degrading as well. And most of us aren't this easy.


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Kenja 4 years ago from Long Island, NY

Love it. Now THIS is useful info. Best, hugs, soft, breathy kisses, Ken


tattuwurn 3 years ago

I love this hub... so far my boyfriend doesn't fall into any of these faults. Except when he's sucking my tongue so hard I end up complaining. Hahahaha. Up and useful. :)


yy 2 years ago

Thanks for the tips!


mike 22 months ago

Great Tips!!!!


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JasonT987 10 months ago

Thanks for those tips!


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schoolgirlforreal 9 months ago from USA

Nice hub. Good work!


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hubber8893 8 months ago

Very interesting hub. Thanks for the tips.


HammonEggar 8 months ago

Great tips,,, but us experienced men already know this.


Hannah 7 months ago

Thanks, I really turned my boyfriend on.

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