How To Romance Your Partner


To Be or Not To Be

Warning: This isn't your typical romance advice. I have a tendency to be anti-romantic. Yet, I do believe in romance, but in a rather unusual way. I believe having a good sense of humor is just as vital to a relationship as romance is.

It's not what you say, but actually what you do that shows someone how much you truly care.

Romance is expressed from the heart and not seen with the eyes. Being romantic is not about what you purchase your significant other, your love is revealed by how you treat them.

Romance is a two-way street. One partner shouldn't expect the other partner to romance the other without reciprocation.

Romance is an emotional attachment between two people who adore each other. We might view romance differently, but in the long run...romance is still romance.

Once a Romantic Always a Romantic

Some might think romance is all about roses, wining and dining. Some might think it's all about taking out the trash and warming up the car on a cold morning.

No matter how you view romance it's the actual act of showing appreciation that matters the most. If your partner's heart is happy then you've done well.

I don't believe one needs to shower their partner with love 24/7, but showering together could be fun.

We all like to know that we are appreciated, don't we? We just have to learn how to express it.

Love is like a flower. Water it daily or else it wilts and withers away.

There is no need to drown the flower. A gentle sprinkle can go a long way when done correctly. This applies not to just partners, but to friendships and family members.

Sure anyone could go and buy flowers and candy and say "I love you" ... but that's too simple!

Go one step further - give it your all.

We could all be a bit more romantic just by being ourselves and showing our partners how much we appreciate them.

Tips For Being Romantic

  • Be considerate of your partners feelings.
  • Shovel the snow on the sidewalk, but don't shovel shit.
  • Be honest and don't tell them what you think they want to hear.
  • Let them be in charge of the TV remote control. You might learn something new about your partner.
  • If a request is made, don't wait until the nagging begins. Just get 'er done!
  • Surprise them with their favorite home cooked meal.
  • Have their favorite section of the newspaper waiting next to their morning coffee.
  • Suggest a nighttime stroll and words aren't needed.
  • Place a romantic love note in a lunch bag.
  • Send them a text during the day just to say "YO."
  • Shower together and conserve water.
  • If you are sick with a cold, be considerate and get a hotel room until you are no longer contagious.
  • If you think your partner might be wrong, kindly tell them so. Then run.
  • Cheating isn't cool. If you are questioned about suspicious behavior...don't lie. You will get caught. If this situation should arise, hide the golf clubs first.
  • As Yoda says "Do or do not, there is no try" - I suggest doing and then doing your best to get it right.
  • When your partner asks a question, answer it. Don't say "whatever you want is fine" the question was asked for a reason. Voice your opinion.
  • Offer to take the kids to the park so the other partner could get a break.
  • Carve your initials into the trunk of a tree or into wet cement.
  • Get matching tattoos! Just be very, very sure.
  • Never leave your laundry on the floor, you aren't a child.
  • Never leave plates on the counter. Be considerate.
  • Grocery shop together. Don't forget desserts to be a bit risque with.
  • Never ASSUME! Chances are assuming might come back to haunt you!
  • Mow the lawn even if it's not your turn.
  • Don't expect to be treated like royalty unless you are royalty, even then be humble.
  • Don't get in a rut instead get off your butt and plan a date night.
  • Rekindle the romance that you had when you were first dating by looking at old photos or videos! You were a hot item once, you could do it again!
  • Don't waste your time keeping secrets. They will be revealed. Do you really want that drama?
  • Place their bath towel in the clothes dryer while they shower so they could have a warm towel.
  • Make them laugh until they can't laugh anymore and then do it again!
  • Understand what they're saying, don't try to always fix things.
  • Make memorable memories together as a team of two.

Haiku Ode to Romance

We are a mate match

A budding team of two halves

Becoming one whole

Romantic Disclaimer:

I am just suggesting tips. I assume no responsibility for another's actions UNLESS they are on a positive note. Then I accept responsibility.

I'm not an expert on romance. Some of these tips came from experience.

Most of them came from Facebook and Twitter news-feeds. Some of them came from friends.

No matter how you enjoy each others company, be thankful for the good times and the bad. What's important is that we continue to live and learn and not repeat mistakes.

Happy romance to all.

Martina McBride & Jim Brickman - Valentine

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© 2012 Linda Bilyeu

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loveandsex 5 years ago from NIGERIA

Yes! its all about reciprocation. TV remote??? LOL...Ok. i will try that. thanks for sharing.

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cebutouristspot 5 years ago from Cebu

I appreciate the tips. I will put some of this in practice. Thanks for sharing

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tammyswallow 5 years ago from North Carolina

Awesome! These are very good tips to have a wonderful relationship. I LOVE a warm towel out of the dryer. I am going to print this out and leave it on the refrigerator. Well done!

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christianajohan 5 years ago

You are so romantic I guess. I like your tips. I have learned many things here.

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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

"Romance" is a wonderful thing....a warm and comforting gift for the soul. At my age....keep the candy, don't bother with flowers, save the champagne and music. JUST GIVE ME MONEY. .........lmao

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alocsin 5 years ago from Orange County, CA

What wonderful ideas -- I'll try some of them out. Love the giant chocolate. Voting this Up and Useful.

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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

Great Hub! I'd also suggest organizing their car, because that's always appreciated, that is unless they are OCD about their things.

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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

Great romantic tips, Sunshine. The chocolate always does it for me - both ways.

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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States

Great tips, Linda, and just in time for Valentine's Day! :)

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Ardie 5 years ago from Neverland

Hahah Im glad I wasn't the only person to vote that I am not a romantic person. At least not in the traditional tv show way. I'd much rather share and remember the special tiny moments walking through a park than have some grand gesture with roses and an expensive dinner. Thanks for these tips because after so many years of marriage you kinda lose sight of being romantic :)

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SanneL 5 years ago from Sweden

Great tips!

I loved the part "Love is like a flower. Water it daily or else it wilts and withers away"

Wonderful and useful hub. I hope you don't mind that I linked this in to my Sensual Chocolate Dessert hub?

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Stephanie Henkel 5 years ago from USA

Lovely hub and great advice! You don't have to be an expert on romance to know that these tips will work - they just will! :) Voted up and shared!

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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you all for stopping by and commenting on my romance hub! I'm feeling the hublove!:)

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instantlyfamily 5 years ago

This is a lovely hub! I am so glad it was shared with me. I am going to try several of your tips on my deserving husband.

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shea duane 5 years ago from new jersey

Good hub. funny and interesting.

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Deborah Brooks 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Great hub and if we will just read them and apply them...I will let my hubby read it when he gets out of the voted way up..debbie

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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Wonderful ideas for 'happy romance'

I am into the love note idea - I leave notes on Nick's pillow, in the fridge, next to his toothbrush....

A lovely hub thank you and voted up

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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

I loved most of the tips but leaving a note with his lunch box is a never tried one...gotta do that!


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thebookmom 5 years ago from Nebraska

Very unique ideas! We'll have to give some a try, not the tattoo though, while I've very sure, I'm NOT very brave :)

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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I truly appreciate all your comments! I'm glad you have found some of these tips useful. Thank you all for your lovely thoughts:))

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Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

All the votes on this one, Sunshine! I love the idea about warming the bath towel in the shower. How sweet! I think the simple everyday things are the best. It forms a bond. Laughing together, making memories that only the two of you share is the most special thing. Great hub!

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Stokermm 5 years ago from Gainesville, FL

Sweet ideas!! I would love a warm, toasty towel after a shower. That would be REALLY sweet and romantic since we don't even have a washer or dryer in our apartment! :) I like the grocery shop together tip.. it really is a romantic activity! Nice hub!

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agegaplove 5 years ago

oh great article ,age ant nothing but just a number.

He is almost 11year older than me .i met him via ~~~???????Only.???????~~??

a nice place for younger women and oldermen, or older women and younger men,

to interact with each other,maybe you wanna check it out or tell your friends something in one way or another all of us deeply desire to be a part of. Caring for each other, showing we care, sharing... So not the Brady Bunch, but I would dearly love for someone to have fought against the inequities, the evil blood sucking, life depriving vicious ones that have attacked me in my life. The appeal is there enough for a series but if it is just about vampires, that so would not be what these stories were about.

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megsmom106 5 years ago from Pekin, Illinois

I LOVE this! Give it your gusto!! WONDERFUL! Far too many people are losing sight of the important details in life...the details. Just by going out of your way to remember them makes a BIG deal in most cases. The experiences often FAR outweigh the gifts. So, take the time to plan the moments and not the gifts. The most beautiful moments in my entire life were created without anything that cost any money after all. Thank you for such a down to Earth and honest post!

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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

@victoria and stoker, it looks like the warm towels have it for you two! It's a great idea. I should give it a try!

@agegap, Thank you for sharing! Good luck.

@megsmom, thank you for "getting it" :))

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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden

So many great advices here and I like most of them! I especially like the advice to never assume anything! It is always better to know and ask if we don't know! Laugh is a clear winner too! Thanks Linda, you take romance into a different level high above flowers and romantic dinners in the candlelight! This is romance in real life


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AudreyHowitt 5 years ago from California

I had to chuckle at the tv remote---then he will know that I love him! Great hub Sunshine!!

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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hello Tina, Romance in a whole new light is a nice change to the traditional way. Thank you for stopping by!

Hi Audrey, yes the TV remote could make or break a relationship! Haha! :)

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PDXKaraokeGuy 5 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

sunshine... my wife says I'm romantic but I don't think I am. It's just me being me. Thee are good tips! (we're actually getting matching tattoos... she's jealous that I have some and she doesn't. lol)

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Matching tattoos are very romantic! I hope you both enjoy them!

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Joanmaynard 4 years ago from St Kitts

Well you really did your home work. There is something in here for everyone. Thank it was a great read.

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Joan, I did do my homework, but I didn't purchase that box of chocolates :) Thank you for your comment.

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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Hint, hint... I LOVE your picture... Really sweet, girlfriend!

Speaking of themes my man called me his tigress... So after I laughed heartily, I enjoyed your tips so much! Warm towels, you say...hmmmm,

As the late Johnnie Bassett would sing: "I Can Make that Happen"!

Voted UP and across the board! Hugs, Maria

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Why am I not surprised Maria?:) Animal themes could take us many places:)

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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

Linda -

You were doing fine until Lady Gag all! Love your "shovel" comment!

After 32 years together, there's not a lot you can do that you haven't done before in this area. So, when I'm shopping (not just special occasions), I'll pick up my wife a top or two, maybe some perfume, and/or a bottle of wine, and keep it all in the car until she goes to bed. I'll then retrieve it, and hang the tops from the cabinets and place the rest close to the coffee pot. When she gets up the next morning a surprise awaits. She's usually very appreciative. At least it has kept me from losing half of what I own in a divorce!

Great topic and great humor within! Up & Funny & Interesting

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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Just sayin...

Are you finished packing for our cruise? Paula is bringing the opinion juice...!!

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Mar, my packing has been done for days. I even tossed some cowboys in there for extra curricular activities! :)

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Kudos to you Rich! You are romantic and a comic, you are just a gift that keeps on giving!:)

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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Great, lemme heat these towels and I'm out...

Cowboys?? Yee-Ha...!

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

That's my girl Mar! I thought you would like that suggestion. Bags are packed! :)

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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

Beautiful list of romantic tips! This sounds like a recipe for a happy marriage! One thing my husband used to do on weekends when our children were young was keep the kids quiet for a few hours to let me sleep in, then bring up a cup of coffee... Loved that! :)

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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Great list as ever from the queen of lists. Practical, passionate, cheeky and romantic ... Well that's sunshine for you! voted up and shared.

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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

How did I miss this? yes love is like a flower, wonderful ideas, and can I have that chocolate? lol!

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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Now if I just had a man in my life, I could practice all this wonderful advice. Oh, well. I'll pass it along to my married daughters. Great Hub, Linda. I voted it UP, etc. and will share.

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jenbeach21 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Loved these tips. My husband can't get texts during work but we do e-mail during the day just to say "Yo" There is no way he can go to the grocery store with me though. He spends way too much money!

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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Loved these tips Linda. The best one was never ASSUME. You made me think of my grandfather who would always, "Never Asuume, because you make and *ss out of you and me!" Sorry just couldn't resist. Great post and shared all over and voted way up!!

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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

This is great advice any time of year! You are a romantic soul, Linda!

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Mike Robbers 4 years ago from London

No doubt, these are the perfect tips to have a beautiful and practical relationship ..

I truly love my significant other but unfortunately I'm not an expert on romance,, I follow a few of your tips but I do serious mistakes at the same time :(

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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

I was fortunate to have a partner who was very romantic. I'll never find another man like him: I don't even try!

Great Hub, voted it UP.

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Steph, being able to sleep in while having young kids was very romantic of your husband!:)

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Docmo ~ Nell ~ Mary ~ Janine ~ Mike ~ Jen ... Thank you for sharing your romantic tips! :)

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DanaTeresa 4 years ago from Ohio

Tons for great tips here. For Valentine's Day or ANY day! This is gret to give women tips on what they can do for their man. Us girls can have it rough. We don't have that old Flowers and Candy thing to fall back on!

Thanks Linda!

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Happy Valentines Week to you Dana! :)

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lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Great tips and suggestions Sunshine. You're so right! There's no need to drown the flower to show you care. It's a big turn-off at least for me. I like the idea of showering together to conserve water. lol. Happy Valentine's Day my friend!

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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you kindly LoveDoc. Your thoughts are appreciated! :)

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ishwaryaa22 3 years ago from Chennai, India

A wonderful hub with a helpful list of tips! I am blessed with a romantic and caring fiancée. You are absolutely right that love is like a flower.....a gentle sprinkle can go a long way when done correctly. Well-said! Well-done!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful, Beautiful & Awesome. Voted up & shared on Facebook

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teaches12345 3 years ago

Yoda's words are wise ones to follow, as well as yours. If we followed half if your suggestions we would all have fantastic relationships.

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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Ish and Teaches...Thanks for stopping by! :)

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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thanks Jessica! :)

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