Top 10 Reasons to Have Sex With Your Spouse

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Not tonight, I have a headache

People come up with a plethora of reasons not to be intimate. We don't have time. I'm too fat. I'm too tired. The kids might hear us. I'm not in the mood. I have a headache. I'm still mad at you.


On of the hardest things on any couples relationship is determining when and why to have sex. The when could be anytime: In the morning before the kids wake up, and before you jump out of bed. In the shower. A quickie at lunch. Before the kids get home from school. After the kids have gone to bed. There is plenty of time to be intimate with your partner, but the bigger question is often why? Why should we?

Being intimate with your spouse has many benefits, and usually, after you've had sex, you are really glad you did. The most difficult thing to overcome usually involves the mind. Mentally, you just don't feel like it. You don't feel like getting in the mood. You don't feel like getting your spouse in the mood. It's easier to watch T.V. and fall asleep. With just a small investment of time, and a mental switch, you can enjoy the following benefits of having sex with your spouse.

How often is normal?

How often are you intimate with your partner?

  • At least once a day.
  • Every week, usually on Saturday.
  • Once a month, whether I want to or not.
  • It's an annual event
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Health benefits of intimacy

1. Having sex is good for your health: According to recent studies, sex once a week produces 30% higher levels of hormones that boost the immune system. Sex is also a natural antihistamine. It can help combat hay fever as well as asthma.

2. Having sex helps you lose weight: Passionate sex burns about two hundred calories, the same as running on the treadmill for fifteen minutes. British researchers have determined that the equivalent of six big macs can be worked off in a year by having sex three times a week. If you had a choice, and you do, wouldn't you rather have sex instead of taking a long run? Maybe you could run together, out into the woods, and enjoy the fresh air and sunshine, followed by a few intimate moments. And if you are busy getting busy, you won't likely have so much time for a big mac.

3. Sex leads to emotional well being: During orgasm, the parts of the brain governing fear, stress and anxiety are switched off. Oxytocin is released, which has an amnesic effect on the brain. (Read... You will forget, at least temporarily, why you were mad!) Endorphins are also released, producing a relaxing and calming effect, a sense of well being and euphoria. Sex is ten times more effective than Valium, without the negative side effects, although it can be addictive!

4. Having sex helps the bladder and prostate: For women, sex strengthens the pelvic floor muscles, which give you greater control over pesky bladder leakage. This can be a problem for women, after having children. Being intimate can help decrease the frequency of those issues, and will help you feel less self-conscious. For men, there is a link between infrequent ejaculation and prostate cancer. The answer, more sex. More sex will keep cancer at bay.

5. You will look better: Extra estrogen in women, a result of orgasm, makes hair shinier. Sweating during sex cleanses pores and gives your skin a healthy sheen. Seretonin produces a sexual afterglow. You will look younger and healthier after having sex. And you will feel better.

6. Sex improves muscle tone: Regular sex can firm not only the abdominals, but also the legs and glutes. And for those of you who are extra adventurous, you can firm your arms, chest and back muscles. Intimacy also increases muscle tone, helps with flexibility and elasticity of muscles, and improves cardiovascular conditioning.

7. Having sex slows the aging process: Sex lowers cortisol levels in the bloodstream, reducing stress and slowing the aging process. These lowered cortisol levels keep you healthy and younger looking. Not only that, but intimacy helps you feel younger too.

8. Regular sex fights disease: Women who have more sex have higher levels of estrogen, which protects against heart disease. It also protects the body against Alzheimer's disease and osteoporosis. There are a number of health issues related to low estrogen levels, including a more difficult time during menopause. Regular intimacy and orgasm helps regulate those hormones and eases the transition.

9. Sex transforms your relationship: Every time you have an enjoyable experience with your partner, your brain associates them with pleasure. Increasing the number of pleasurable associations improves your relationship. When you have a positive experience with your partner, you begin to view him or her in a more positive light. No longer will the small irritants seem so significant, when you know you're in for a good time.

10. Sex feels really good: Physically and emotionally, bonding with your spouse on this level creates an intimate bond. This bond is unlike any other. Your body feels good, your mood rises, you feel loved, and your spirit soars. Really, you need no other reasons to have sex.

Pick any of the above reasons to surprise your sweetie with a romp between the sheets. You will both be glad you did.

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Cheeky Girl 6 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

Great hub! Any time is a good time for it really! Heh! Cheers! : )


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englightenedsoul 6 years ago

Excellent Hub!! Rated Up!


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Missi Darnell 6 years ago from Southern California

Love this hub and your reasons for "doing it".


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mhuze 6 years ago from USA

Great article! I will have to agree.


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Chicagovision 6 years ago from Chicago

great one


Divorce in Nashville 6 years ago

I'm going to have to start "losing more weight".


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MFB III 6 years ago from United States

Men should laminate this to their headboards, then if there's any arguments about headaches or not feeling well, they can refer their partner to all the healthy ways a good sexual romp will make them feel better...lol~~MFB III


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thevoice 6 years ago from carthage ill

splendid hub right great love hub thanks


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GeneralHowitzer 6 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

I think I need to bookmark this hub, it is very interesting..


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

Thanks for stopping by and reading.... It's true, a good romp will make you feel better.

Namaste


Al Bell 6 years ago

Good job... this goes for us old duffers too; maybe even more so. For us old guy's to have sex with out Viagra, you have to exercise and get the blood pressure medicines down. Just remember Mama has some special needs after menopause that require some attention. No more "Wham Bam thank you Maam." Happy romping.


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

Hey Al, You are right. Get the blood flowing. It does wonders. And you are right about menopause. Actually, mama always likes it with some extra attention.

Namaste.


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carolina muscle 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

It's all about 'use it or lose it'!

Fine post!!!


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

Hey Carolina, thanks for stopping by, You are right. Use it or lose it.

Namaste.


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tom hellert 6 years ago from home

DD,

Hell ya #10 oh yay for 1-9 too...

nice hubbage

TH


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

Thanks for your enthusiastic support Tom.

Namaste.


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Trsmd 6 years ago from India

Very good... But s.no 8 I am not convinced. Actually sex creates disease...


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blessedmommyof3 6 years ago

Great hub! Sex truly is wonderful when it is with your spouse! The love and bonding between the two is priceless.


legendindia 6 years ago

Great hub.your hub is a very informative.it is true that sex has a important role in the life.your 10 reason are best.

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Deni Edwards 6 years ago from california

Great hub, Deborah! On that note, I think I'm due for some exercise!


Amy 2 years ago

I hadn't had sex, intimacy love from my husband in about 45 years. He won't even speak or sleep with me, I'm just a nobody. He eats and sleeps in our basement. I'm sure the reasons are great, never had a chance to enjoy it.


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Naveed Ahmed 624 12 months ago from Pakistan

I came to this hub from another one of yours "Top 10 ways men destroy their marriage". I left my comments there that I read only some paragraphs and had a look at the titles of the rest. But this one was so interesting to read that I couldn't just let myself skip by only looking over the paragraph titles. It indeed touches upon an important aspect of our contentment and happiness in life, and these tips are worth an advice besides the valuable information.


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Naveed Ahmed 624 12 months ago from Pakistan

I came to this hub from another one of yours "Top 10 ways men destroy their marriage". I left my comments there that I read only some paragraphs and had a look at the titles of the rest. But this one was so interesting to read that I couldn't just let myself skip by only looking over the paragraph titles. It indeed touches upon an important aspect of our contentment and happiness in life, and these tips are worth an advice besides the valuable information.


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Deborah Demander 11 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

Thank you for your comments, and thanks for reading.

Hope this helps in some small way.

Namaste


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kiddiecreations 10 months ago

Interesting insights here! I didn't know regular sex makes your hair more shiny! Good to know! Thanks for sharing all your knowledge


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Deborah Demander 10 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

kiddiecreations,

Thanks for reading my article. I'm hoping you will use some of these excuses to have a good time with your man!

Namste


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PDXBuys 9 months ago from Oregon

Hard to believe that "sex feels good" was way down the list at number 10!


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Deborah Demander 9 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

PDXBuys,

Thanks for the comment. And I agree. But I kind of thought I ought to offers some "legitimate" reasons to have sex, aside from the obvious one!

Namaste


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Dean Keak 7 months ago from Ethiopia

Wow! what a good article is it that has touched my heart like this. Excuse me Mrs. Deborah D., I do not even have sexual intercourse for 8 years now, but I have been felt in love with a girl from our Congregation where sexual is not allowed before marriage, so what do you think then? Even, when I read your hub I actually noticed that semen droplets have fallen for good, but no sex since then. Could you help me?


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Deborah Demander 7 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD Author

Dean, Thank you for reading and commenting.

Unfortunately, there is not much help I can offer.

Best of luck to you,

Warmest Regards,

Deborah

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