Wrestling With Trust Issues

Divorce is one of the leading causes of trust issues.
Divorce is one of the leading causes of trust issues. | Source

Do you have trust issues?

You might. If you have ever had a broken heart, someone break a promise or lie to you than you probably do to some extent.

I think that most of us out here in the real world do hesitate to trust someone fully. It is so very hard to be able to trust again once you have had that trust broken.

Don't despair - you don't have to let these trust issues run your life. There is a way to repair the trust. The first step would be to trust in yourself.

Once you lose that trust it is hard to get it back.
Once you lose that trust it is hard to get it back. | Source
  • I may have trust issues, but some people seem to have an issue with the responsibility of being trusted. - Unknown
  • There are two reasons why we don't trust people: 1. We don't know them. 2. We do know them. - Unknown
  • I am not upset that you lied to me, I am upset that from now on I can't believe you. - Friedrich Nietzsche
  • You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough. - Frank Crane
  • If you give your trust to a person who does not deserve it, you actually give him the power to destroy you. - Khaled Saad
  • What loneliness is more lonely than distrust? - George Eliot
  • Trust is the easiest thing in the world to lose, and the hardest thing in the world to get back. - R. Williams
  • It takes years to build up trust and only seconds to destroy it. - Unknown
  • The inability to open up to hope is what blocks trust, and blocked trust is the reason for blighted dreams. - Elizabeth Gilbert
  • People ask me why is it so hard to trust people, and I ask them why is it so hard to keep a promise. - Unknown
  • In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hope. In a world filled with anger, we must still dare to comfort. In a world filled with despair, we must still dare to dream. And in a world filled with distrust, we must still dare to believe. - Michael Jackson
  • Trust in what you love, continue to do it, and it will take you where you need to do. - Natalie Goldberg
  • Trust no one, tell your secrets to no one and no one will betray you. - Bigvai Yolcy
  • Our distrust is very expensive. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • In our daily life, we encounter people we are angry, deceitful, intent only on satisfying ere is so their own needs. There is so much anger, distrust, greed, and pettiness that we are losing our capacity to work well together. - Margaret J
  • He who does not trust enough, Will not be trusted. - Lao Tzu
  • We're never so vulnerable as when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. Walter Anderson


Everything is possible with trust
Everything is possible with trust | Source

You might have trust issues if...

  • You become overly possessive
  • You react angrily to what you perceive as an attack on your character that is unapparent to others
  • You persistently bear grudges
  • You believe that others are being deceptive without any tangible proof
  • Mistrust causes havoc with your primary relationship
  • You have thoughts of mistrust of your family and friends for no reason
  • Have been through a number of stormy, dramatic relationships
  • You become jealous whenever a friend or loved one spends time with another person
  • Mistrust leads to complete lack of friendships and intimacy
  • You have a hard time forming an intimate relationship
  • You are preoccupied with unjustified doubts about the loyalty or trustworthiness of friends
  • You perceive threatening meaning into benign remarks or happenings
  • You feel there is no one who will stand behind you
  • You hesitate to confide in others because of the fear of the information being used against you

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Comments 14 comments

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Mhatter99 4 years ago from San Francisco

Good article. Unfortunately it took me years to trust my wife to be herself.


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greeneryday 4 years ago from Some tropical country

I agree with everything you have written! Trust issue is something that you have to overcome otherwise you might have unhealthy relationship that is difficult to nurture.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Mhatter99, trust for some is hard to obtain.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

greeneryday, trust many times has to be earned. We all seem to carry baggage with us that gets in the way.


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

Loved your hub and quotes that you have picked. A great selection and an awesome hub. Voted up.


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vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

Wow, this is a really unique list of quotes which shows both sides of the coin. We need to learn to trust those who are trustworthy and never betray those who trust us. Very well written and what an awesome reminder. Voted up and shared!


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Suzie HQ 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

Hi KoffeeKlatch Gals,

Trust is a small word but has a big knock on effect when broken. I loved your quotes and from such a wide variety of people. Trust is earned as you say and can be so hard to get back when broken. Great hub, voted up and interesting.


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livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I am going through a tough time right now. It will indeed take time for me to get better, and it has been cos of so many bad experiences and trusting the wrong people for all the wrong reasons. For me personally, it was that I trust everyone I came across in life, which turned out to be toxic later. Thank you for this hub. And thank you for sharing your thoughts!


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Vellur, thanks. I was looking for quotes that are seen as often.

vespawoolf, thanks for the rating and the sharing. We all need someone we can trust.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Suzie HQ, trust is so important. It's a pity that so many treat it so carelessly. Thanks for the wonderful comment.

livingsta, sometimes it's hard to know who to trust. You need to really get to know someone before you give them your whole trust. Take it in steps. Good luck.


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Break of Dawn 4 years ago

Trust is like a paper, once it's crumbled it can't be perfect. How true! We need courage to be able to trust again. Thank you for a lovely and interesting hub. Voted up and shared!


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Break of Dawn, it is hard to get back that trust once it's been broken.


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azure_sky 4 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

My favorite :"Imay have trust issues, but some people seem to have an issue with the responsibility of being trusted. - Unknown" Geez.....I am dealing with this issue as well.....thanks for making me see that I DO have valid reasons to have trust issues. Family.... Pffft! Thanks again for writing this! Sharing this one as well, if you don't mind :)


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

azure, sometimes there is a reason to have trust issues. Unfortunately it can involve family. Luck to you. Thanks for sharing.

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