Twelve reasons not to sleep with your partner or spouse tonight.
I have written this hub as a means of giving a number good reasons for couples not to sleep together, tonight, or possibly most other nights. Yes it is of course nice to sleep with your partner, and many may say I am mad to even consider a loving couple should not share the same bed, but this is not about sex, this is about getting a good night's sleep.
Having been in various relationships throughout my 39 years on this earth (today being my 39th Birthday), I have always found I slept better when I was alone in my/our bed. My guess is my partners probably found the same thing, and that all in all we would both have slept better if we had our own bedrooms, or at least our own beds within one room.
Having spoken to other couples I have found that largely they feel much the same, no matter how much they love their partners. I propose the best time for a couple to share a bed is when they are having sex / making love, and the rest of the time they would be more relaxed and better rested if they had slept alone.
My arguments to back up my case are as follows:
1) One half of the partnership inevitably tends to steal all the duvet, leaving the other poor soul to frantically try to drag it back over to their side of the bed whilst meanwhile freezing their socks off.
2) At least one partner frequently snores so loudly (especially after a few drinks), as to keep the other partner tossing and turning all night with a pillow welded over their ears trying to block out both the noise and the vibrations.
3) It often gets simply too hot for two people in one bed, therefore it is more comfortable to be alone, or if you are on your own and too hot, it is easier to spread out or change to the cooler side of the bed if you are not sharing. It is also pretty unpleasant cuddling up to someone who is sweating profusely, especially when it might not be the case if you were in separate beds.
4) Not sharing a bed leaves more room for your furry pets to share your bed with their own unique brand of loving.
5) There is no danger of "Roll Together" if one partner is a lot heavier than the other, (this is when the heavier partner causes such a dip in the mattress so that the lighter partner keeps on rolling into both the resulting crater, and their partner).
6) If one of you is prone to needing to get up in the middle of the night for a visit to the toilet, a cigarette or a drink of water, sleeping apart removes the risk of disturbance from lights going on, duvets being thrown back etc.
7) If your partner is prone to sexual advances towards you in the middle of the night when you would prefer to be asleep so you are suitably rested for work the next morning, sleeping apart will make it far more effort for them to try and sneak a hand (or other unwelcome appendage), into a place you would prefer they left alone until a more convenient time.
8) If one of you has to get up for work at a completely different time to the other, sleeping in separate rooms ensures their alarm clock will not also wake the person who does not yet need to be awake or need to surface from under the depths of their cosy duvet and fascinating dreams of being chatted up by gorgeous film stars.
9) Partners who meaning well, and wanting to be affectionate, treat you like a glove puppet, and keep on sliding their hands up inside your pyjama top to cuddle you. Very sweet, but also can be very uncomfortable when you are trying to sleep. A separate bed ensures this problem will not be one you have to deal with!
10) Partners who can't help but fidget in bed, twitching, kicking, jolting etc. A real blessing is to have them in a different bed so you can relax without your bed becoming a vibrating nightmare.
11) If your partner talks in their sleep this can be quite frustrating, especially if it is incoherent, and you are straining to understand what they are saying in case it is something you 'need to know'. Usually it is only nonsense, but by now you are wide awake and asking them questions, to which you are receiving unintelligible or crazy answers due to them still being asleep.
12) Partners who sleepwalk. This would scare most people as well as disturbing them. Imagine waking up in the middle of the night to find a glassy eyed Husband standing over you who seems to think you are the bloke who stole his ex-girlfriend 20 years earlier. You do hear cases of people sleepwalking who have murdered their partners without knowing what they are doing, and my advice is not only sleep apart, but get a lock on your bedroom door if this is their problem.
I have known many very happily married couples who sleep in separate beds or bedrooms. They still have sex, they still love each other, but they both get a good night's sleep. It saves so many arguments such as whether to sleep with the window open or closed, the light on or off, and not to mention if one half of the couple wants to read or use their laptop computer well into the night, whilst the other wants to be asleep in the dark.
The obvious solution is to have separate beds or bedrooms, and simply share a bed, a kitchen table, a rug etc whenever you wish to make love together.
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