Marriage Tips for the Happy Couple

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High school sweethearts Michelle and David Stoker were wed on May 13, 2011
High school sweethearts Michelle and David Stoker were wed on May 13, 2011 | Source

WWSD - What Would Sunshine Do?

Congratulations! You will soon be husband and wife! What an exciting new chapter in your lives! I'm writing this hub as a gift to you. It's my way of sharing the knowledge and wisdom I've learned over the years.

I offer meaningful advice. It's kind of off the wall. It's not your ordinary type of teachings. Take it with a grain of salt. Learn from it. Laugh with it. Appreciate it. It's your choice.

Your life together will have many twists and turns. It's okay to miss a turn every now and again, it's part of your path. It's meant to be.

Decisions will have to be made. Some will need to be made quickly, some you will have time for.

WWSD... It's simple, it's my way or the highway, no ifs, ends or buts. OK, I do allow room for flexibility I'm not that difficult. We all live and learn.

Keith Urban - Only You Can Love Me This Way

Relationship advice

Relationships are teamwork. One partner can't hold down the fort solo. It's together forever. You jump, I jump. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. No one person has the upper hand. It's 50/50. WWSD....pretend it's 50/50 but on my planet it actually differs since that's how I roll. To each his own planet. You'll know the correct percentage once you've settled in.

If the occasion should rise that you screw up....play dumb. WWSD....The dumber the better and you will have one heck of a story to share with others. Sure you might be called an idiot behind your back BUT if this gets you out of a mess than more power to the idiot in you! You'll learn to ignore insults over time.

If you should happen to ever get pulled over by a cop for a traffic violation....FLIRT no matter the sexual gender, hey you never know! WWSD.... has been there, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

Life's short. It goes by quickly. With a blink of an eye your day will be over, followed by the week etc..... Take one day at a time and cherish the moment. WWSD ... "Be Here Now" as much as possible. Focus on today and not tomorrow.

U2 - Beautiful Day

The Bride and Groom

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Did you burn dinner again? WWSD... pretend it's a unique seasoning and savor the new found flavor! Who knows maybe you can market it or maybe just have take out restaurants on speed dial.

You might contemplate being someone you're not just to fit in. You might find yourself becoming like the Jones'. WWSD... ANTI-Joneser! ANTI-Wannabe! Do the total opposite of the Jones'! Be unique, be yourself. Imagine if we all lived in a world filled with Jonesers...what a dull world that would be.

Decision making can be tedious and cause petty arguments! WWSD .... prepare a list of the pros and cons and move forward. Arguing is a waste of time and no good really comes out of it except for.... well, that's another story. WWSD ... I have no problem being corrected when I am actually WRONG which happens on occasion.

YES honesty is the best policy. JUST in case there is a slip-up: WWSD ... blame it on the voices in your head. Works like a charm! You'll be amazed at how many voices we could actually have!!

Always remember with each emotion you feel, and each event you experience, you grow. Accept the moment whether happy or sad and learn from it. WWSD ... dust yourself off and move on after adjusting to the change.

You don't have to believe everything you think. WWSD ... ask for advice and contemplate whether your thinking made any sense. Chances are it might have or it could be those voices again. They can sneak up on you when you least expect it!

One of my favorite quotes is: "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you" WWSD.... I added a bit of a twist on the original. "Do unto others as others do unto you." It seems to work for me.

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Laugh! Laugh! Laugh! Laugh some more! Get the point yet? WWSD ... laugh until your face hurts or your belly aches. BONUS: Laughing burns calories. Eating chocolate while watching your favorite sitcom is a guilty pleasure.

Always have a shoulder and ear available. We all have times when we need to vent. WWSD ... LISTEN and don't always think you have to be a problem solver. HEAR and don't turn it around about you unless you think that direction would be useful. FEEL their pain or excitement. (See above "do unto others....")

There are only two kinds of plans. Plans that won't work and plans that might work. WWSD...you are on your own with this one, use your best judgement...plans and I seem to clash but it seems to work for some.

An overinflated ego has NO PLACE in today's society. WWSD....I talk to people, not at or down to. Don't offer information unless it's requested. Nobody cares for a know-it-all. Be yourself.

Common sense is mandatory in today's society! WWSD...USE IT wisely! SHARE IT frequently! TEACH IT kindly! We are all capable of having it, there are just many people who have no idea it exists.

Always remember your mother. WWSD ... My mother has passed away but I knew she brought me into this world and that she could take me out! I never forgot to call and visit her as much as possible. No matter the cost or lack of time due to busy schedules I always made sure my mother knew she was a vital part of my life. There is no other love than a mother's love.

Let's not forget the sweet, innocent, bundles of joy that will enrich your lives and forever change you. WWSD... Have a good time making grandbabies!

The most important gifts you can give are your love, time, and attention. WWSD ... Slow down, take time to smile & enjoy your loved ones. Always be "True to You."

You are now blessed with my advice to you, it comes from the heart. While on life's journey and faced with a dilemma ask yourself "WWSD" and immediately proceed with caution! May you live happily ever after!

The Stokers....Friday the 13th, 2011

Happy 3rd Anniversary Stokers...

You've accomplished much in the past three years, except for producing a grandbaby. If you remember you both were married the same time as Prince William and Kate, also Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert. Prince William and Kate beat y'all to the baby department. Nonetheless I'm proud of you!

You've both graduated college and enjoyed living in Gainesville. Yes, I know I never did get a chance to visit, but I do appreciate all the times you came to visit us.

Michelle, you have been a successful kindergarten teacher after graduating from UCF. I truly enjoyed hearing your stories of the little rugrats, you treated your students like they were your own. I thought that being around kids would entice you to give me a grandbaby sooner. I guess, I guessed wrong. Yes, I know between Dave and I we already have six grandchildren, but I always liked the number 7.

Congrats David on achieving your Masters at UF. Also for snagging the job at Nielsen! Move over Bill Gates, Stoker is on the move.

You lived in Colorado for a summer, traveled to Europe, took a couple of cruises, your photography business is booming. I think I might want to be like you when I grow up. If I shall ever grow up. Which is doubtful.

Tampa, Florida is next up on your journey. Well, first comes your cruise to Alaska. Let me know if you could see Russia from your porthole!

Wishing you many more years of wedded bliss. I'm thinking the name Sean would be good for a boy, Christina for a girl. Well, whenever you get around to the baby dept.

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© 2011 Linda Bilyeu

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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

I hope they and you have a great ceremony on Saturday. You have provided great advice for all soon to be married couples. Great selection of photos and videos. I could guess a Keith Urban song would make the hub.....but pulling out U2....kudos to you....hope the next couple of days go smoothly. Voted up and funny and beautiful.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thanks coger...u rock star u!!! They went to a U2 concert together plus it's a great song!! Friday The 13th is the wedding, they are daring!! I had fun sharing my advice! :)


Sue Parkinson 5 years ago

Wishing the happy couple all the best!!

Loved the piece and the pictures are great!

xoxo


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you SS and much appreciated for sharing...you are the bestest!!! xoxo


Bride 5 years ago

Thanks for the advice!!! I will remember all of your wisdom when I get married.... IN TWO DAYS!!!!! :-) thanks, Momma!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

You're welcome bride to be! Just be sure and proceed with caution when you follow Sunshine's advice!!! xoxo


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geegee77 5 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

Great advice you are a wise woman sunshine:) ge loved the videos too!!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Compliment accepted and gratitude extended ... just sharing the advice with my own twist ge!


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Tassie Devil 5 years ago

Firstly...CONGRATULATIONS to the happy couple!! (Was my invite lost in the mail??!) Jk. I LOVE the advice SS. Wish I had some all those years ago! ;-)

I do have one piece of advice of my own though: NEVER go to bed angry....stay up and annoy the crap out of him!! lol. Jk again. Seriously...this is an excellent piece and your daughter and soon to be son in law should be so proud of your words. Will be thinking of you all on your big day! MWAHS xoxoxox


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Haha I love your piece of advice!!! Wish you were here with one of your beautiful cakes!!! xoxo


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Whidbeywriter 5 years ago from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington

Hi sunshine625, this couple is off to a grand start in their marriage, you are a wise woman and I truly enjoyed and agree with your wisdom....blessings to you!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you whidbeywriter, your words are too kind. We just returned from rehearsal dinner....my baby is all grown up and about to become a bride, it's a bittersweet evening for me. Reality has hit.


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

I've always opted for optimism thru thick and thin...I'm glad to have a partner...thanks for sharing Sunshine!;)


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank YOU for stopping by mentalist! Next time bring wine :))


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Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Voted up, beautiful, awesome! As a born pessimist, I'm hoping that your SUNSHINE is going to rub off on me. I have enjoyed the hubs of yours that I read so far. Maybe there's hope for me. You remind me, too, of my mother, who was always the optimist! I need to see her, more, you are right about that. And flirting does help with cops. When I was younger and drove too fast, I never got a ticket! Knock on wood. haha Good morning, Sunshine!Love the U2 song, too. Nice reminder.


marellen 5 years ago

Sunshine...very good advice....Happy Nuptials.....


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Made 5 years ago from Finland

You truly are a very talented writer. Awesome hub!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

@victoria, I am an optimist on days that end with a Y but then again I could also be a pessimist on those days. It all depends on what the voices in my head decide on.

@maryellen, Thank you! The wedding was in May and so far so good!

@Made, right back at ya!


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Frank Atanacio 5 years ago from Shelton

Good share, good advice, and a great write up.. up and awesome


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

OMG....you never once mentioned your daughter's wedding! I can't believe it! where are all the pictures??/ Your daughter must have been a gorgeous bride of course. CONGRATULATIONS to them and to the whole family. I love this hub, Sunshine.....really LOVE it!!


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Michelle's pictures are on Facebook fpherj! :)


ExoticHippieQueen 4 years ago

The best advice ever!!! Great hub, Linda. I always adhere to this one: Stupid and cheerful. Found that it works very well in a variety of situations.............


kelleyward 4 years ago

Great hub Sunshine loved the pics and music. Beautiful..


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

This is a great hub! It's always good to apply common sense, regardless if your married or single. Because it can help you stay married sanely, get ready for marriage, or be single without seeming ridiculous. And you can't go wrong with Keith Urban and U2!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Amy, Great advice! Thank you for adding it! :)

Thanks Kelley!

I so agree Alecia! :)


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Totally wishing the happy couple a successful marriage and loved your bit of humor interspersed in this meaty topic. It seems like just yesterday I too was a newlywed, but alas that was over 6 years ago and much of what you said was spot and humor truly does help out the marriage cause too!! Voted and shared too :)


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

Don't know how I missed this but belated congratulations! What a mother-in-law you must be!

I love "its okay to miss a turn now and then" how true is that! The best advice of all, "Slow down, take time to smile & enjoy your loved ones!" A great hub with your wisdom and humor!

Voted up, funny, and awesome!


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Very enjoyable read. You had me smiling all the way through, not only with some of the sound and compassionate advice, but with the wonderful humor. If we can't laugh together, how can we live together?


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Wise advice blended with great humor, Sunshine! Thank you for the gems of wisdom all married couples should share. Am sharing, by the way!


KDuBarry03 4 years ago

Brilliant, Linda! I agree with Michelle, you always incorporate great humor in your informative hubs! :)


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Janine Huldie ~tillsontitan ~ Sally's trove ~ Midget38 ~ KDubarry03 ... I appreciate your comments and thoughts on WWSD. This hub was one of the best gifts I gave my daughter. At least I thought so! :)


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jravity1 3 years ago from bellevue, MI

Always...always...choose your side of the bed first.


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Great tip jravity!! Thanks for sharing!!


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

Sunshine,

when it comes to give advice you are among the best. I'm still a single, but will get married someday. I will remember these tips.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Great relationship advice here. I'm glad that you mentioned an over inflated ego, which is a turn-off for many women. voted up awesome!


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Vinaya and LoveDoc...I'm glad you found this advice useful :)


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blessing980306 3 years ago

Wow 2 yrs already they both accomplished a lot!So proud of them both!I know you want a grand baby from them. They both know when it is the right time.They wanna live and travel.I think that is great.Let them enjoy themselves for bit. Great hub! :):):)


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Ida, It's all in fun...I refer to it as Parental Entitlement :)

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