Wedding Dresses for Older Women

Wedding Dresses for Older Brides

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Wedding Dresses for Women Over 40

I don't consider you to be old if you are over 40. Many women go through years of college and get advanced degrees before they settle down. Other women like to wait for the right guy and have their careers in place before they get married for the first time.

Or, maybe, you are over 40 and you are on your second (or third) try. If you don't hit it right with your first marriage, it is quite likely that you are going to get remarried and keep on trying until you find Mr. Right...or Mr. Fabulously-nice-guy-who-likes-your-kids. Well, Americans and Canadians are an optimistic bunch. If at first they don't succeed, they try, try again. And, I think that's a good thing.

I've Been Married Three Times

I was recently remarried at age 52, so I'll give you what I think is the latest and greatest, current advice. I have written other articles, so you when you are done reading this article, you may also want to read Wedding Dresses for Older Brides: Women Over 40.

What Are Older Brides Supposed to Wear?

If this is your first wedding, you can wear whatever you want. You can wear a fou-fou wedding-cake gown and have ushers and bridesmaids and flower girls and whatever your little happy heart desires. You can wear white, you can wear pink, you can wear black, you can wear red. It's your choice.

My Wedding Dress for Over 50

Wedding photo of Tina Boomerina's third marriage.
Wedding photo of Tina Boomerina's third marriage. | Source

Bridal Dresses for Your Second Wedding

If it's your second wedding (or third or fourth or you are competing with Zsa Zsa Gabor) you can wear anything you want, except for a blusher veil. A blusher veil is that thing that covers your face.

Other than that, white is accepted as a second-time wedding color. I wore a light gold colored dress for my remarriage at 52. I actually think I looked pretty good for being so "old". I didn't feel right wearing stark white (and bright white is not a good color on me), but if you like white, I say, "It's your party and you should be happy."

I also believe that you should not invite anyone who cares what color dress you wear. If they aren't happy for your new-found happiness, "Let them eat cake...their own cake at their own house."

Short White Wedding Dress for Any Age

You can wear a short white dress if you are over 40, over 50, over 60 or whatever. I am giving you permission to wear a white dress of any length. If your family doesn't approve, let me know and I'll tell them about life in the modern world.

Your people should be happy for you. Your children should be happy for you. If your adult children are giving you a hard time, let them know that you have seen a lawyer and you've signed a prenup. If you own a house or you have other assets, you have talked to a lawyer, haven't you? I don't care how much you love this guy...you must ask your lawyer about protecting your assets.

Bridal Suit for Older Brides

Elgance Metallic Raw Silk Suit 329
Elgance Metallic Raw Silk Suit 329 | Source

The Absolutely Proper Bride

If you are totally old school, you can wear a pastel-colored suit. This is how precise, punctilious, priggish, and puritanical brides dressed for their second weddings back in the 50s. That was before people (mostly Baby Boomers) decided that we should only follow rules that made sense.

These days, you should follow your own rules for your wedding dress.

 

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Kim Lynn 5 years ago

As a baby boomer, I agree. Wear what you want and Rock On! Who cares what anybody thinks. I will not tell you how awesome you looked in your dress(you did)because, it does not matter(I'll tell you anyway) what I think. Great hub!

Many Blessings,

Kim


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Rhonda Waits 5 years ago from The Emerald Coast

Great hub. I say if you are happy in white wear it. Valerie bertinelli got married again in a blue dress. It was beautiful. It is your wedding. Beautiful pictures.


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tinaweha 5 years ago from Seattle (and the world) Author

Thanks for your support, Kim & Rhonda. I wanted to go to Vegas to be married by Elvis but we ended up having a church wedding. It turned out cool. And, we had our reception at an Italian restaurant and the staff made a big fuss over the whole thing. It was a fun wedding with no stress. I don't think I'll ever need to get remarried, but if I did have to try again...I would have my wedding in Italy. Italians know how to make a happy occasion.


Sophie 5 years ago

Can you tell me where the dress at top of the page is to be found?


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tinaweha 4 years ago from Seattle (and the world) Author

I'm so glad you liked what I wore. I wasn't planning to wear an off-white dress, but everything turned out fun and fabulous.


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tinaweha 4 years ago from Seattle (and the world) Author

Yes, the photo of the older (blonde) bride is, indeed, me. Now if I can only get a photo of my sister in her white pantsuit (worn for her third wedding).


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tinaweha 4 years ago from Seattle (and the world) Author

I'm sorry to say that I don't know. It's from the UK and it might be from a few years back...but you could search British websites or send a copy of the photo to http://www.rainbowclub.co.uk/ (The photo came from them.) Personally, I want the hat.


Alohalakay 4 years ago

They are nice,but sometimes some older women do not have a fine waist line,so where are those dresses with high waist or no waist at all


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Karen Hellier 4 years ago from Georgia

You looked beautiful on your second wedding day.Good for you for going strapless! I got married for the second time at the age of 50...I wore what they called Ivory, but it looked almost white, and I didn't care...I felt it was my wedding, not a prom so I wore a dress I fell in love with at David's Bridal online and it was perfect. Let's hear it for the older ( and wiser) bride!


boomer 17 months ago

Your article and picture made my day! These "etiquette experts" are smart, but they don't have the ability to know what is right for a second, third weddomg or vow renewal. You freed women to make their own choices. Wear what you like. It will be right for you.

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