What A Man/WhatA Mighty Good Man
A good, well rounded man is something that every woman dreams about and wants in her relationship. Unfortunately this is is not always the case due to issues that both men and women sometimes have with each other. Whether the woman has emotional baggage that she hasn't unpacked and put away or the man has stagnant issues that he refuses to sift through and lay aside whats not condusive to the union, the old cliche "a good man is hard to find," is being echoed throughout the nation! What I'm about to share is strictly for the ladies, not hating on you men just giving the sisters something to think about. While we know that no one is perfect we do pray for that "mighty good man!" That one who is mature and sensitive to our make-up as a woman and everything that this entails. Ask yourself, does he listen when you talk and actually hear what you say. Does he provide for you to the best of his ability and does he respond to your needs. Are his answers to you soft or hard, meaning does he speak rationally to you in a calm manner or is he always harsh in his reply. Does he appreciate you, his helpmeet and is he helping you in life or hindering you. Is he aware of your dreams and goals in life and not just his own. Does he go first in a conflict, as the breadwinner, as the head of the home. I know that in a lot of homes both the man and woman have to work, especially with today's economy, daycare, bills, motgages and so much more, but does he say let me spend first in a financial situation. Does he understand his role as "head of household" and work in it. Does he hold you when you need to be held, will he massage your feet even if he dosen't feel like it. When you hurt does he hurt, when you cry does he give you his undivided attention because he is so in tune to how you feel. When you are with him do you feel protected and know for a certainty that he will dare any one to do you harm in his presence and will fight for you to the end. Will he lift you up in prayer when he dosen't know what else to do. If you have children does he react with patience and love. Does he discipline and teach with love and is he gentle when he needs to be and stern when he needs to be whether its dealing with the kids or dealing with a situation or important decision within the home. Does he know how to say no(even to you ladies)and does he know when to say yes. Does he show respect, teach truth and show honor in the home. If you're not married is he respectful in the relationship. Does he have his own home to go to and is he not up under you waiting for you to take care of him. Is he a working man, does he tell you you're the bomb even when you don't feel like it and does he know your likes and dislikes. Lastly if you have a quarrel or a disagreement does he run to the phone to call his friends, his mom, etc. or, does he know how to be discreet and deal with you to resolve the issue. I know that sometimes relationships need outside help but I'm speaking of things that you know you can work out on your own. If you have been able to answer yes to all or most of these questions than you are truly blessed! In closing, ladies be appreciative of your other half! Don't be gosssipy, always argumentative and never satisfied. Realize that he is not perfect and commend him for striving to be the best that he can be. Don't forget to say thank you and please and for sure let him know that you love him too. Compliment him also when he's looking nice! The most important thing is his love and affection for you, along with his respect, treatment of you and his honor. Remember if he says he loves you then he will show you as well. Once again if you have answered positively to all or most of the things mentioned then in the words of the song made popular by the super group EnVogue, you can say, "WHAT A MAN, WHAT A MAN, WHAT A MAN, WHAT A MIGHTY GOOD MAN!!!!"