What I Like About Men

I've known many men in my life; my father, my grandfathers, my uncles, my brother, my friends, a few ex-lovers (one which became a good friend), and if there's one thing I've learned, men can be frustrating and difficult, but I'm really appreciative of good men. Growing up, I knew that when my Dad went to work, that I'd see him later that evening. I knew that if I did something that was considered morally wrong, my lay minister grandfather would lecture me and discuss it with me (and was made to feel very bad about it). I knew that my uncles looked after me and made sure I felt at home when I visited my cousins for the summer. I didn't know it wasn't the same for everyone.

As I thought about the relationships I've had and my female friends have had, it occurred to me that there are certain things that I admire about men and I thought a list would be a great way for men to know this. Now this list is subjective and it's really about traits that men have rather than talents (such as intelligence, creativity, business acumen) or physical appearances but I think in general, that a lot of women would agree on this list.

Men's Admirable Traits

  • I like that men are forthright. They tell you what they honestly think. They've already come to their conclusions and they're not going to talk endlessly about it and go over and over it again. You know where they stand and you can make your decision accordingly. Now sometimes this is a problem because men confuse being forthright with being tactless. The difference between the two is that one will end in bed with their loved one while the other will sleep on the sofa. The tactful man knows that when it comes to asking him that eternally womanish question, “Does my ass look too big in this dress?” the experienced, tactful man knows right away to say, without a beat but with a straight face, “Of course not.” If the guy is not so experienced...he'll learn very quickly.
  • I like that men are decisive. They have made a decision about what is right for them in a situation and they go full speed ahead and there is no hemming and hawing. They focus on the goal and they go for it. Same thing when it comes to choosing someone they like. They've already checked you out and if they like the whole package, they're not going to get hung up over details. I remember one time when I kept fussing over something with my outfit because I thought it didn't look right and I was making us late. Finally my guy took me in his arms, looked deep in my eyes and said you look amazing and gave me a great kiss. To this day I have no idea what I was fussing over.
  • I like that men are brave. This was never more obvious to me than on September 11, 2001 when you hear of the stories of brave firemen, policemen, passengers on a doomed airplane. And these brave acts extend to include all those young men who continue to volunteer for our armed services especially during these times of conflict and even re-enlist for a second duty. On a personal level, there has been more than one time that I was glad I had a man to gallantly protect me when another man was being more than insistent with his unwanted attention.
  • I like that men have such confidence. And it shows because they talk out of their ass; they probably don't completely know what it is they're talking about but they think they can figure it out, give it a shot and see if they can get away with it. I noticed it first when I was in school. The guys, will give a viewpoint and talk about it – and it might be completely wrong but they don't care, they put it out there and normally the teacher gives them their due for their effort. When they get it right, they are so psyched and when they can't, they just shake it off figuring that they tried.
  • I like that men look after their family. They work hard to make sure that their family has a roof over their head, three squares a day, and a little left over to enjoy things. One girlfriend confided in me that she found it so hot that her husband was talking about insurance to an insurance guy, because she felt so cared for and that he really wanted her and their children to be secure if something were to happen to him. Dependable, thoughtful men in this era of self-indulgent Peter Pans or swaggering, macho guys seems to be harder to find.
  • I like that men are good sports. They can have arguments, are competitive when it comes to team sports, bicker over which model has the best breasts, but after it's over, they are friends again, they don't make catty or snide remarks about somebody's pants or the tacky grille on another guy's car. They can play tricks on each other and they don't mind it. They can have a good laugh and not take it seriously. When it's over, it's over and there are no grudges. There may be some bad feelings but they deal with it on their own.

Relationships between men and women are so confusing nowadays because roles are constantly in flux. Women in certain occupations can earn as much or even more than men, a higher percentage of women go to college, there are stay-at-home fathers. Overall however, things are really the same. Men and women are looking for partners who they can feel safe with, can depend on, and can look forward to the future together. I've come to agree with Hermione Granger of the Harry Potter series of books. To paraphrase Hermione in one movie, “Books and cleverness! There are more important things – like friendship and bravery..”

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Hmrjmr1 6 years ago from Georgia, USA

Good Hub! Thanks for your confidence in my gender!


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hmrjmr1, women will always appreciate good men. Thanks for visiting.


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LRobbins 6 years ago from Germany

Great hub! Men are different from us and it's nice to celebrate their differences and what makes them so special!


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

So true LRobbins, that's what I had in mind when I wrote the hub. Thanks for visiting.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

Thank you! I am so pleased that somebody finally said something good about men! This is a great Hub. I enjoyed it immensely.


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

Flightkeeper I have to echo James sentiments here . Men and their roles have been so devalued in the last couple of generations that it is refreshing to have been reading a few hubs of late that have been actually giving us guys some props for a change ! And I like it even better that it has been hubs by all of you lovely women ! Nice job .


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi James, I'm glad you enjoyed it. I thought the topic was a great way to focus on the wonderful things about men that I truly appreciate.

Tony, thanks for visiting. I agree with you that there are many women who do overlook great things about men, but there are more women who love and appreciate the good men in their lives and I'm happy to let men know that.


lastwordlinda 6 years ago

I loved this article. All the things you like about men, I have been thinking for years. Good job!


Ghost32 6 years ago

Excellent list of solid reasons for a woman to like a (good) man. I've made a note to read this Hub to my wife tomorrow (she's sleeping at the moment), and I've no doubt whatsoever that she'll agree: "Flightkeeper got it right!"

And yes, I did remember to rate this Hub up; thanks for the reminder.


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Great mind think alike LOL. Thanks for visiting lastwordlinda.

@Ghost32. I'm honored that you want to read it to your wife. You guys have a great day.


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manlypoetryman 6 years ago from (Texas !) Boldly Writing Poems Where No Man Has Gone Before...

Real Men are Good People...You can Count on 'em! This was a different article..for a change...usually we end up...get-tin' fussed at for our peculiar and different male personality traits...But, here you celebrate us bullheaded menfolk...with a touch of class. It was a refreshing change of pace. Thanks for doing this Hub on "What you like about Men", FK...a very enjoyable read! Now...I just need my wife to read this...like Ghost put down...to help her recall why she puts up with her man! : )


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi Manly, we women do need a reminder sometimes but it doesn't take much to realize how dear our men are to us. Thank you for taking the time to read my hub.


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Yangtze 6 years ago

Wonderful hubs. Actually, men do better than women in many respects. What we should do is appreciate their good traits and learn from them sometimes. Thanks for your good sharing.


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

So true Yangtze, the media always comes out with so much bad news. Thanks for stopping by.


C.J. Wright 6 years ago

Boy oh boy the fema nazi's are gonna get you for this one! SELLOUT!!!!LOL, Just teasing, great hub!


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi CJ, all women appreciate the traits of good men :) Thanks for visiting.


mtsi1098 6 years ago

this is a good summary of us and I agree with your assessment...Honesty and family first...thanks


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JBeadle 6 years ago from Midwest

I like hearing the strong parts of being a man and agree with you although I don't think any of those qualities are exclusive. Knowing men are responsible for so much of the misery in this world sort of sucks as a man. I like the focus on our good points. Nicely written.


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floating mind 6 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

Very nice hub about men. A very direct description of (good) men. A pleasure to read.


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

@mtsi1098. I wasn't sure if men looked at themselves in the same way and I'm glad that a lot of guys agree with my hub.

@JBeadle. Keep in mind that Men are responsible for many good things that we have as well and it's not an all or nothing world.

@floatingmind. It's such a nice experience to hear from the men who enjoyed my hub. Thank you.


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Harita 6 years ago

I just became a member of hubpages and this is the first hub i'm reading.

Very cleverly said!

I had always wondered about the way guys in my class talk and make fun of each other.But the next day,they are fine with it.Whereas girls carry it always and gossip among themselves. The worst part is they start forming groups among themselves.('who are hurt' and 'who hurt')


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi Harita! Welcome to Hubpages and I'm very honored that my hub was the first that you read here. I like how men are good sports towards each other and it's something we women should be more but we are supportive of each other in other ways. Good luck on your hubs and I look forward to reading them.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

hmmmm, I agree with you flight, what else can I say, men are just misunderstood, if women and men alike will understand each other more, then the problem with relationship is easily fixed, wouldnt you agree?Maita


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AEvans 6 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I like that men have such confidence. And it shows because they talk out of their ass; they probably don't completely know what it is they're talking about but they think they can figure it out, give it a shot and see if they can get away with it. I noticed it first when I was in school. The guys, will give a viewpoint and talk about it – and it might be completely wrong but they don't care, they put it out there and normally the teacher gives them their due for their effort. When they get it right, they are so psyched and when they can't, they just shake it off figuring that they tried. This part made me laugh but I can tell you this, you certainly know about men ! Sad but true you speak the truth and I see a lot of my husband in this hub, lololo

Wonderful hub! :)


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

I like that men aren't catty like some women, but I don't like the fact that men are often political animals in the workplace and don't care who they step on to get into power.


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Eldritch Elegy 6 years ago

... "Dependable, thoughtful men in this era of self-indulgent Peter Pans or swaggering, macho guys seems to be harder to find."

I'd say try impossible, but maybe there are still one or two... on the entire planet.


Millionheir 6 years ago

Females spend so much of their time bashing men and questioning the male nature..this article is so rare to find and thank you for writing it... hey here's a another reason to like men....I LIKE MEN CUZ THEY ARE...simple...!


susan 6 years ago

I really enjoyed this. And everything that is included is exactly why we women love our men . . Men are from Mars and women from Venus. . and that is the way it is meant to be!


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Ladybird33 6 years ago from Georgia USA

This is a very good article and extremely positive. I like that and I think you did awesome expressing that, very unique. Way to go!


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itakins 6 years ago from Irl

Refreshingly positive hub-well done.


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ocoonocoon 6 years ago

Hey nice hub! Nice to hear something good about being a man . . doesn't happen often?


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rls8994 6 years ago from Mississippi

Great hub. We women do love our men. They really can be amazing sometimes.


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

So many compliments! Thank you so much.


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DanPowers 6 years ago from Tokyo

This is a nicely inspiring hub! I will make sure my girlfriend know we have plenty of insurance lol.


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Sara Tonyn 6 years ago from Ohio, the Buckeye State

This is a wonderful hub! Bravo! :)


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi Dan and Sara, thanks for the compliments!


sophs 6 years ago

Great hub Flightkeeper, I enjoyed this :)


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi sophs! Thanks for reading me.


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Uriel 6 years ago from Lebanon

great hub! can't wait to read more :)


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epigramman 6 years ago

..but do they listen, can they be trained and do they understand to leave the toilet seat down!!!!


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Flightkeeper 6 years ago from The East Coast Author

Hi Uriel, thanks for the kind words.

Hi epigramman, LOL!


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

In this day of male bashing it's refreshing to read a tribute.


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Flightkeeper 5 years ago from The East Coast Author

Thanks for reading Pamela, I do get tired of the gender bashing by either side.

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