What Women Want In The Bedroom

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courtesy hgtv.com

When it comes to the bedroom, we all have something to say, men and women. Ladies, if we want men to behave in a certain way inside and outside of the bedroom, then we have to let them know. We can’t leave it up to them to figure it out.

People frequently say to me “Chris, you’re a straight up, tell it like it is kind of gal and I like that”. Well then, step into my boudoir and let me tell you what women want. Just read and listen, please. Men we want the ambiance too. That means good music. Play some music and turn me on then.

  • Number one on our list is a good lover. A good lover should encompass all of the other areas that I will mention below. We still want him to be tall, strong, hard bodied, sexy, sensuous, sensitive and patient. Something in us yearns a little for that tough, rugged, devil may care attitude too. He has the right size package and knows where and how to touch us, to touch all the places in us that have lain dormant. Wake up!! That’s only in your dreams Chris. Maybe!

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  • Hard, taut body

Truly, that‘s what we’d like. If he doesn’t have a six pack we’ll settle for good care of his body. Part of taking care of his body includes clipping around the package area to enhance it. You know, like a freshly mowed lawn and how good it looks. You want to stretch out on it right away. Make it look enticing. After all, it could make for interesting conversation. Included in that should be underarms and fingernails and toenails.


  • Responsive to their needs

Women don’t need a mind reader or magician but if you have the talents then work them. If you can see that she does not like the position or what’s happening between the two of you then adjust it. Ask her opinion. Find out. This is a team sport.

  • Fun to be with

The same boring position, in the same place equals snoozeville. Shake it up a bit! Try different positions, not all at the same session mind you. Try it on the floor, table or outside. Try some toys. Let your imagination go. Let yourself go.

  • Seduction/Romance

We don’t expect to be seduced or romanced every time. Sometimes though it would be nice to surprise her with a bottle of wine, strawberries, handcuffs, blindfold, chocolate, sexy underwear, soft music or whatever works for you. Spice it up!

Let’s not dress this up. During team sports you must warm up and stretch the muscles before the game begins. The game does not begin until then. If you need some help with that see my hub on how to kiss a woman. Get her properly warmed up and she'll be all over you.


  • Communication

Keep eye contact. Talk to her and let her know how you’re feeling. You don’t have to keep up a running commentary but neither do you have to be silent. You’re supposed to be having fun.

  • Reciprocity

If you show me yours and let me touch it, I’ll let you play with mine. Seriously though, we like giving and receiving and so should you.

When the fun is over instead of falling asleep on her, snuggle until you do.

There's more to this list but I have some good ones here. I hope you enjoyed them all. Remember, play nice and you'll be a winner every time.

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thevoice 6 years ago from carthage ill

terrific terrific hub write very true thanks guys learn when they get older its not one two three thank you mamm


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@thevoice, I'm glad that you enjoyed it. Thanks for dropping by. I hope they are learning as they age.


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maven101 6 years ago from Northern Arizona

Excellent advise and suggestions to maintain and enjoy a healthy sex life...If you run out of ideas get the Cosmo's Kama Sutra with illustrations...some very interesting positions in there...Although, being in our 70's, we may be a bit over-challenged getting into them...and then getting out of them...Thanks for this, Chris...Larry


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

Thanks for telling it like it is. I appreciate your candor. And, I appreciate the great pictures.

Namaste.


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@Larry, maven 101, I think I have that book somewhere or have read it. Took a look at Cosmo's. Yep, gets you going for sure. Thanks for stopping by.

@Deborah Demander, count on me for sure, lol. Thanks for your comment.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Yo Chris Eddy! Could I take a class?

I'm all talk love! I do love you though. I do sometimes wish I were still alive!


poetlorraine 6 years ago

nice hub.... Micky come alive


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entertianmentplus 6 years ago from United States

Very well done glad you shared this with us.


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@poetlorraine, Thanks.

@entertianmentplus, all good. Thanks.

@Micky Dee, you know I love you boy!!


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epigramman 6 years ago

I thought what women wanted during sex was a shopping expedition - lol lol lol.

It's Colin here aka epigramman: 'irae' 'rice and peas'

Toots and the Maytals - Desmond Dekker - King Tubby

Steel Pulse - Blue Mountain coffee - ganga - Peter Tosh -

Black Urhuru - Easy Dub All Stars - "ONE LOVE"


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@epigramman, Colin, I'll take the shopping spree after the good loving though lol. That's some good choices in music too. One Love.


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callmefoxxy 6 years ago

Excellent hub Chris! I'm BIG on #1, Seduction and Reciprocity!!! Yeah, Yeah, Yeah!

Um can I add... women want a great spot to make love in... aka a great, luxurious and inviting bed (like that pic up top)! NOT some rundown, cheap-ass hotel room bed, not your mama's broken-down, plaid couch, nor your roomie's cluttered with clothes, dorm room floor, lol. I'll take that shopping expedition now please, lmao...

callmefoxxy, my pen is a mighty sword!


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@callmefoxxy, I hear you girl. Guys I hope you do too.


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Keith Risden 6 years ago from Jamaica

Hi Chris, just want to say I enjoy your writings even the ones I don't comment on. Classically pictures, we need more to work with to enhance the presentation of our hubs. Keep writing


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@Keith Risden, thanks for your encouragement and I'm glad you left your comments.


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alphonsians93 6 years ago from Cebu Philippines

This is amazing and truly a great info...for new ones!!! Keep it up man!!!

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keep it up man!


Rookie70 6 years ago

Nice hub, and very inspiring. You gave me some ideas for my own topic. Thanks.


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

alphonsians93~ Hey Thanks.

Rookie70~ Good to know and thanks. Guess I'll have to drop by to see what you came up with.


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wdlangchicago 5 years ago from Just outside of Kansas City, Kansas

Excellent article.

While I may not have a Vin Diesel kind of body, I do take care of it. Including the grooming.

And the comment about listening and communicating with your lover: Very important at every stage of a relationship.

Thanks again.


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SleeplessnLaJolla 5 years ago from La Jolla, Ca

Awesome! Well put!


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Chris Eddy111 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@wdlangchicago,nice!

@SleeplessnLaJolla Thanks.


Oladeji remmy. 4 years ago

Thanks 4 d write up,bcos,it realy help a lot of pple out dere.like me.

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