What You Should Never Tell Your Man

Your Man is Curious to Know

Women, if there is one thing your man lover is curious to know, it’s to know the men you have been with before him. The truth is that your man should not hear this because as soon as he gets to know it, the mechanism of jealousy starts working inside him. Whether you tell him good or terrible things about your former lover, and in as much he may want to hear them, those things will not make him feel good.

Used and Rejected

Your man lover may make the conclusion that you have lousy taste in men. He may also conclude that he should not be the one to keep what has been used and rejected by other men. Your man also feels that he is among the type of men you are talking about. Your man sees the angry, vengeful side of you and wonders if he is your next target. 

Am I Your Next Target?

Never tell your lover the men you have been with before him. Men are frightened by women’s angry and unforgiving part of their personality.
Never tell your lover the men you have been with before him. Men are frightened by women’s angry and unforgiving part of their personality.

Men You Have Been With Before Your Present Lover

Before you get very deep in your new love, discuss with your present man your needs and expectations for your relationship. Remember if you tell your man the men you have been with before him, he will never forget for the rest of his life. Any instance of disagreements with him in future will reflect heavily on the men you have had before him

Your Man

Angry and Unforgiving Part of Your Personality

When you rant and rave throwing your hands in the air about how terrible your former boyfriend was, you might think your new lover will feel happy that you dislike your former lover so much. The truth is your new lover is coming to reality face to face with the angry, unforgiving part of your personality. If there is one thing that frightens men, this is it.

Monster

Men are merciful too. Your man will feel merciful at you for being stupid enough to have let your ex-lover treat you badly. When you make your ex-lover sound like monster, it makes your new boyfriend angry and wonders what kind of a woman you are to have let such dog-of-a-man mistreat you like that.

Reunion Once More

Do not lose sight of the fact that in as long as you still feel anger and blame toward your ex-lover, you are still actually involved in a relationship in a way with your ex-lover. Your new lover knows that too and that chances are there for a reunion once more.

Use Your Intelligence Carefully

Ladies, this is one subject that you need to use your intelligence carefully. Try to sort it out with your counselor or talk it over with your girlfriends to help you heal these emotions. Your new lover should not be involved in this, but then on the other hand, it’s the same lover who is curious to know the men you have been with before him.

Your Needs and Expectations

Before you get very deep in your new love, discuss with your present man your needs and expectations for your relationship. Remember if you tell your man the men you have been with before him, he will never forget for the rest of his life. Any instance of disagreements with him in future will reflect heavily on the men you have had before him.

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Kulsum Mehmood 7 years ago from Nagpur, India

As always, a nice write-up ngureco. Keep it up.


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ngureco 7 years ago Author

Thank you, Kulsum Mehmood, for your interest in this hub. Thank you too for always being very supportive.


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Savvy Jones 7 years ago

One thing to consider when sharing personal information with your mate; who will benefit? Is your agenda to make yourself feel better or will the information strengthen the relationship?

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thehands 6 years ago

In my experience, all that baggage comes to light eventually. She can't hide it from me. If she feels like she truly wants to get close to me, the confidences just come tumbling out. If not, I assume she has huge emotional walls she needs to get over.


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NiaLee 5 years ago from BIG APPLE

I do agree for a lot of men, though some may be avle to understand that we had a life before them and may even be thankful that we have experienced different things to be able to have a better relationship with them or at least appreciate them more! Women are the same, they may play the coquette and pretend they don't care but I know that I used to be curious now I know I don't want to know, most of the time my intuition is great when it comes to a woman who wants or has been with my man. He can lie and run around he ends up telling the truth. But as I said I accept the fact he had a past, a present and a future like me and enjoy the relationship we are building everyday, our children and don't really waste time on thoughts like that.

May we all be able to appreciate our current relationship, enjoy and value ourselves, and be at peace with the past.

Love and peace

One last thing, a man that has been with many women is not different from a woman who did the same...for me and my kind of people at least!LOL


luxe 3 years ago

This is so true. I was about to get engaged to this man after 3 months of dating and knowing the we connected so well. Yes in India is pretty normal for people to get into arranged marriages. But for us it felt more like love at least to me it did. When suddenly my guy told me about his ex and his 4 yr realtionship with her and how he was insulted and left hurt. I told him i wasn't interested in his past and that i love him for what it has made him today and that is what matters. I was ok if he wanted to discuss more details but his idea of sharing limited details was just to act as a catalysis for me to spill the beans. I was uncomfortable and i told him the past doesn't and shouldn't matter, he was adamant that there should be transparency. and he said that what you have learnt from the experience matters not the experience it self. I thought he was very understanding and that if i told him he will still accept me. I was wrong! HE left me. he later revealed that he was virgin even though he was in a proper relation with his ex and he wanted to marry her, but i wasn't and he could not digest it. Leave that apart the grave mistake i made was to give him an autobiography. BAD MOVE! he says that he wont be able to get over it and he doesn't know when he will. His inquisitive nature destroyed our relation. THat is why one should not ask too many questions that have no significance in future. The past will only bite u in your back, until and unless u are strong enough and brave enough to accept it. I loved him so much and now he has left me :(

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