What are your strategies for coping with negativity?

Spiritual blossoming

blossoming in life in all dimensions
blossoming in life in all dimensions
being happy
being happy
at ease with yourself
at ease with yourself
and with everybody around you.
and with everybody around you.
Wherever you are, whatever you do, be in love.
Wherever you are, whatever you do, be in love.
Because all alone we are just stones but through love of others we become gemstones.
Because all alone we are just stones but through love of others we become gemstones.
Find beauty in every season.
Find beauty in every season.
Autumn becomes a second spring when every leaf is a flower.
Autumn becomes a second spring when every leaf is a flower.
Love is everywhere in the universe, if we can see it.
Love is everywhere in the universe, if we can see it.
It doesn't have to be placed only on one person
It doesn't have to be placed only on one person
or one thing
or one thing
that we think without it we can have no love.
that we think without it we can have no love.
Change is the only constant.
Change is the only constant.
And love is the ultimate possibility
And love is the ultimate possibility
each moment of our lives
each moment of our lives
love is the fire that transforms
love is the fire that transforms
It can bring joy
It can bring joy
it can bring pain
it can bring pain
even in the pain we can stay aware that love is limitless in the universe
even in the pain we can stay aware that love is limitless in the universe
and we can connect with it again...
and we can connect with it again...
Love as an external focus,
Love as an external focus,
exterior to yourself
exterior to yourself
always bring a sense of vulnerability
always bring a sense of vulnerability
always needing constant validation by someone or something.
always needing constant validation by someone or something.
Love as an internal focus
Love as an internal focus
projected outward is a constant flow of self-assurance...
projected outward is a constant flow of self-assurance...
 and of self-acceptance,
and of self-acceptance,
always striving to incorporate and project more of this blissful feeling of unity
always striving to incorporate and project more of this blissful feeling of unity
and harmony
and harmony
with all creation.
with all creation.

Plant your own garden, he said...

Raining all day

black clouds

full of water

spilling on

and disappearing

quickly

in the thirsty

red dirt,

washing away

dust from leaves,

I keep going

in spite

of the strong wind

that stepped in

on my path

shivering

dreaming

about

the warmth

of your arms

again,

but where are you?


Thousands of kilometres away,

will be months,

maybe years.

before I see you again.


Surrounded

by darkness

lonely,

cold and wet

lost among raindrops,

laughing

through the tears

calling your name,

waiting

for you

from the other side

of the world,

to answer me back....


I step inside the Adelaide

Botanical garden,

a lonely figure

of an old man

lost among the straight lines

of perfectly bright

decorative flowers

waves at me

and I hurry up

to shake his wet

but warm hand.


He looks at my gloomy face

and smiles,

no response yet?

"What if he finds someone else?"

I fight back my tears

while watching him to pick up weeds


"Plant your own garden,

and decorate your own soul

instead of waiting

for someone else

to bring you flowers,"

he said quietly.


"What do you mean?"


He brushes his wet white hair

away from his face

there is a big smudge

on his cheeck

I take a tissue and try to clean it up.


"You have to plant your own seeds,

look just like me,

and watch them to grow,

patiently,

give them time and space..."


He looks around,

lovingly

at the thousands of flowers

surrounding him right now,

" I can only bring them to life

but I can not force the buds

to open,

can I?

It reminds us not to force anything

for things happen in the right time."


The garden is empty in this awful weather

but suddenly an old lady

appears in front of us

hiding behind her brolly shyly.


My gardener takes a bunch of small flowers

he weeded among those

strong ones

and her wrinkled face

lights up in delight

when he places them

on her palm.


"You have made my day,

Mr Flower man,

you have made my day:"


He looks after her lovingly

when she shuffles

slowly

away.

"If you plant the seed of love,

it is you that blossoms,"

he says with a twinkle in his eye.


"Your boss will be not happy,"

I warn him,

"You are not allowed

to give

flowers

away."


"I don't have time to worry about

who doesn't love me,

I am too busy loving the people

who love me,"

he laughs suddenly and extend his dirty hand,

"Let me to clean myself and we go for a coffee,

it looks like you need one."


Sitting in a cozy cafe

sheltered from the wind

and rain

I open up

like one of his flowers,

telling him all

that is bothering me,

he is sipping his herbal tea

nodding his head patiently.


"One half of me

is a hopeless romantic,

that urges me to follow

my heart,

the other half

is so damn realistic,

the one that considering

the best friends' advice,

you know

that long distance relationships

never last,

my family expects me

to be more reasonable..."


He smiles with his sad eyes:

"We have all been placed

on this earth to discover

our own path.

And we will never be happy

if we live

someone else's idea of life."


Out of the blue,

I start to cry.

He lets me carry on

handing me his hankie:

"Cry as much as you want to,

but just make sure

when you are finished

you never cry

for the same reason again."


While I am drying my eyes

he looks at the quote

with a profile of an Q'ero Indian

hanging in an old fashioned frame

above our heads:

'Looking behind

I am filled with gratitude.

Looking forward

I am filled with vision.

Looking upwards

I am filled with strength.

Looking within I discover peace.'

"Lucky man, indeed,"

he smiles at me catching my last tear.


"Every day is the same colour of grey for me,"

I blow my nose and sigh.


"When every day seems the same

it is

because

we have stopped

noticing

the good things,"

he touches gently the china cup

admiring its introcate design.


"I don't know what to do?"

I suddenly cry out.


"If it feels wrong,

don't do it,"

he squeezes my hand,

trust your instincts,

never give up on your dreams,

don't be afraid to say yes,

but don't be afraid to say no,

be kind to yourself,

and let go of what you can't control."


"Look at these carefully,"

he picks up from his pocket few dried out seeds

and place them in front of me:

"If a seed is broken by an outside force,

life ends,"

he carefully wipes bits and pieces

and throws them in a bin.


If a seed is broken by

an inside force,

then life begins,

he gently caresses a burst out seed

on his palm.


He puts his hand on his heart

proclaiming solemnly,

"great things happen from the inside."


"One day I run away from all of this",

by one sweep of a hand

I am making a statement,

I am not going to surrender.


He laughs,

"One day you decide

to design a life

you love."


"But how, I have no idea how?"


"Listen deeply inside you,

within each of us,

there is a silence,"

the old man says,

A silence

as vast

as the universe.

And when we experience

that silence,

we remember

who we are."


After I finish my coffee

and we walk back

into sunshine

that came after rain,

he is holding to my hand

and I support his arm.


One ordinary moment

with one ordinary man

in an ordinary place,

and yet there are moments

which mark your life.

Moments when you realise

nothing will ever be the same

again...


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Comments 28 comments

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Ericdierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Very nice article. Keep spreading the love!


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ChitrangadaSharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

Wonderful poem and beautifully expressed with lovely pictures!

Nice and enjoyable hub!


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joer4x4 3 years ago from Philadelphia, PA

Interesting & Nice!

The best way I know how to deal with the negative is to not judge it. I remind myself it just another path to wisdom. It is a great stress reliever.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you for your kind comments my fellow hubbers and yes I agree being judgmental doesn't help with negativity at all:)


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

My goodness, this is a superb and thought-provoking piece here! Beautiful writing indeed and amazing imagery you have chosen.

Profound!

Up and more and sharing

God bless, Faith Reaper


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

So many useful lessons in this poetic piece. Age, the symbol of wisdom gives great advice, and the pictures are excellent. Thank you.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Beata, I love your story. The photos tell another story that parallels the advice of Mr. Flower Man. This is lovely, offering words we should all keep close to our hearts.


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epbooks 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

Beautifully written and I love the images!


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skperdon 3 years ago from Canada

Wow! wow! I love your hub, Beata! It has just the right balance of beautiful poetry and beautiful pics.

Love your allusions to Mother Nature and Human Nature, I can't seem to get enough of it.

I'm going to read it a few more times, just to experience the beauty of it.


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vkwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

Epic poetry!


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you so much my fellow hubbers again for your kind words and encouraging comments....all the best and keep hubbing, living, loving and take the example from our Mother Nature:)


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arksys 3 years ago from Adelaide, Australia

beautifully presented hub as always beata... I was chatting with a friend when i started reading this hub and got so involved in the story that i forgot my friend until i finished the read. some really great wisdom in the words of the old man in your story.


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janetwrites 3 years ago from Georgia country

So beautifully written and the images absolutely match with the story!


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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California

The pictures match up nicely, Bravo for a lovely poem.


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rebeccamealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Beautiful free verse full of deep meaning and wonderfully illustrated.Voted awesome, beautiful.


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mcwriter 3 years ago from Lawton. Oklahoma

lovely poem; expresses very well the human experience of love, falling in love and of disappointment too. the pictures are great too


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Marie Flint 3 years ago from Jacksonville, FL

Use the Violet Flame. Singing, walking, journaling--all great ways to cope with negativity brought on by doubt and despair.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Keep singing and walking on the path, the destiny prepared for you and thank you...love and falling in love, we all been there, some of us still are and we all remember....


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teaches12345 3 years ago

How beautiful! The photos alone are enough to drive any negativity from the soul.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you my fellow hubber it is kind for you to say so:) All the best with hubbing, loving and living....B


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old albion 3 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi Beata. A tear to my eye here Beata. Absolutely lovely. You photos are a delight.

Voted up and all.

Graham.


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Beata Stasak 3 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you Graham, you are so sweet:)....B


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

What are your strategies for coping with negativity? is an encouraging hub with beautiful photos and you said it perfectly.


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Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia Author

Inner peace is the key, with it the external problems do not disturb my peace and tranquility, then you my fellow follower, you are very kind:)


Vladimir Uhri 2 years ago

Awesome thought in your poem, Beata. Yes, turning negative to positive, this is the way of life.


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Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you Vladimir, very nice of you to find me here:) All the best from Beata


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CarolineVABC 2 years ago from Castaic

Lovely poem along with great photos, Beata! You were very fortunate to meet such a wise man! I guess, we need to look at things differently when we are confronted with negativity: look at the positive side that it brings because there is always that "silver lining" somewhere:-). Beautifully written with such exquisite photos that go along with it! Keep writing. God bless!


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Beata Stasak 2 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you so much Caroline for your kind comment, somehow I have been very fortunate in my life, every time I fell on my knees I met a kind person who has helped me back on my feet again:) We all need those kind of people around and I just hope to be that kind of person to people I meet in my life...be it my close companions or strangers I just pass by....

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