Ways to find your soul-mate

Ever wonder what makes people click? It's like you talk to a person and say, "YES, her thoughts match mine, Yoohooo!"

Sure, that happens very rarely since; experiences in one's life can take people on different routes. But, rarely do we meet such people who have turned RIGHT when a particular incident happened just like you did. What a co-incidence!

I would grab that person and not let him go. Why?

Because life is all about compromises and we have compromised in many ways such as in our Relationship, Friendship, Siblings etc. But, to find a person who speaks your language. Who can complete the sentence you started, is mind blowing.

I would also think DESTINY has an important role to play in this. Those 2 individuals were destined to meet, and thus destiny found "ways" to make them meet.

"Ways" are however, invented by intelligent humans.

If those two individuals are of opposite sex then we gotta say that they have found their soul mate. Many people go through failed marriages just in search of their soul mate. As, it is said that, "Marriages are made in heaven" Soul mates are out there and we just outta look out for them. But, it does not happen with a click. We humans have to work towards it.

Below are a few strategies

  • Being at peace with oneself.

This feeling of resonance helps us attract other people towards us. IF I am irritable and have emotional instability then the opposite person can sense it and will avoid me. However, IF I have the sense of resonance then that helps me attract another person. This is a first step to click.

  • Being vulnerable in communicating with others.

Individual has be vulnerable in his communication with someone and only then will the other person respond back. The principle of reciprocity follows.

  • Close Proximity

Simply by being near someone, helps make a connection. Being near to that person helps spark a great deal of conversations. In this digital age where technology has gone overboard for our convenience, has brought our relationships into a dungeon. We tend to miss out on a lot of random talks amongst our special someone that it eventually hurts our relationship.

  • Similarity between two people can help mount up the pile for attraction.

The quantity in similarities makes a huge difference.

  • Joint Adversity helps in forming lasting bonds.

If people are from the same city or place; they go, "Wow" and have so many places to talk about. They will tend to share their memories of those places to the person who also has a common interest towards the place. A common environment sure, can help them bond.

So, single men and women venture out into this wild wild world with the above tips and go get your soul mate and start living this life on YOUR terms!

Good luck!

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makusr 4 years ago from India

Ruchira, I am finding a new streak in your writing. This hub is very good and tells about many things. The proximity is of two kinds. One is physical where you have to be present in person. Then there is proximity of ideas, where you are always close irrespective of the distance. This second one is on the fore in this virtual world. Your creativity seems to be on fire right now. Any cause? Do take good care.

With warm wishes,

MAKUSR

P.S:- Liked this line,

So, single men and women venture out into this wild wild world with the above tips and go get your soul mate and start living this life on YOUR terms!

Good luck!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Manoj,

I am glad you liked the above strategies ;-)

Physical Proximity is essential for any relationship whether it be a budding one or of many years. Since, many ideas/talks are lost in space.

Thank you for complimenting my creativity but, I was inspired by the above thanks to a friend who is going through a breakup. Thus, the below text which is making them fly high to go and meet the man of their dreams and live their life on THEIR terms!

THANK YOU for the read and precious comment. Loved it!


kawaljit kaur 4 years ago

Ruchira

Hi

Well said. well written hub. To build a relationship or to let a relationship go smoothly, it is very important that two persons must converse, share their views and comment accordingly. Two persons may not have the compatible temperament but being wise we may respect the other person's ideology. Some where conflicts arise due the ego clashes. Even being together, we must give space to the other persons, may be our friend or better half.

Thanks for making the readers to refresh themselves.


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

I believe "Similarity between two people can help mount up the pile for attraction."

Sorry to say but Close Proximity does not always work, being too close can sometimes be very painful. Usually I'm away from my parents, sometimes we meet in six months. But they are the people who matters to me most. There are friends with whom I meet everyday but I find deep connection missing.

I cannot generalize but even with partners, I have found close proximity little frustrating. (We need space, she always told me)

"Life is all about compromises," this one of my favorite lines. Thanks for quoting here.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Kawaljit,

I am glad that you agree with the above. Companionship is important in everybody's life and to be able to share your views about any issue, helps the other mate understand you better. Even IF he does not agree with it. It sure gives him a hint if/when that incident happens :)

Thanks for the read and valuable comment...appreciated it!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Vinaya,

Nice to hear your comments.

Parents are our blood and we will always be fond of them; no matter what! I also live far away from them and get to meet them once in year or so...but the bond is inseparable.

When a relationship is built then, I agree that distances makes one fonder of the other person. BUT, when we are building a relationship; distances can make the relation fizzle.

Loved your insight and thanks for the read and comment. Appreciated it!


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Ruchira - I think the dynamics of how relationships spark is really interesting. The first time I met my husband I called him a derogatory term behind his back:) lol. He was very sarcastic and pompous, I thought. But after I got to know him better because we worked together - I saw the real him:)

Up and excellent:) I enjoyed thinking about this.


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

I agree with your tips. I might add that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but not too long...


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

I agree with you Kelly. Even me and my husband started on the wrong note but, so far the music we create is wonderful to the ears...lol

Thanks for the read and constant support by your wonderful comments.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Ruby,

Yes, absence for too long can be disastrous esp with so many pretty women out there...lol

I am glad that you liked the above. Cheers!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Ruchira – this hub of yours contains a lot of profound statements and advice. I just need to react on your tip: “So, single men and women venture out into this wild world... and go get your soul mate and start living this life on YOUR terms...”

I hope Cyberspace is not included in your ‘wild world’, because looking for and finding a soul mate up here, is creating in advance tons of emotional pain for yourself and your apparent soul mate. S/he may be thousands of miles away from you and the chances that you will ever meet could be zero. And if you do meet, the chances to live together could be another zero. If you don’t find a soul mate within a certain reachable distance, rather accept your lot and enjoy your life without a soul mate.

Take five for this hub :))


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Martie,

Cyberspace is definitely a "NO-NO"

As you can see; my tips above are in terms of close proximity.

Cyberspace does not match those terms :)

Peace is good for mind and body and IF the so-called soul-mate does not give that then living without one is totally FINE!

Thanks for the read and your valuable feedback.

btw...the 5 you gave is out of 10 :))


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

No, the 5 is out of 5 :))) Lol!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

thank goodness...lol


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Hi Ruchira, I agree with your article. When we are at peace with ourselves, we start to attract good people. I experienced this and it really works. Thanks for great information. I enjoyed reading it. Voted up.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Ruchi,

Am glad that you liked the above and I guess what better way is to experience it.

Thanks for stopping by with your support/comment.


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makusr 4 years ago from India

Ruchira, Well the face behind the Diya is finally out.

"Wo agar mil jaye to kya kijiye,

Woh tamanna jo umra bhar na poori ho,

Woh tamanna kijiye"

Manoj


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Manoj,

Yes, the pix behind the diya is here to stay.

did not know you do shayari too...wah wah wah :)


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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

I am glad someone knows something about this. Thanks for sharing these tips.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi mckbirdbks,

Glad you enjoyed the above hub. Always a pleasure to hear back from you.

Thanks!


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub. I love your thought about this topic and I hope I can get many clicks...amen. I believe that every hubbers dreaming of this. Well done and rated up!

Prasetio


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anglnwu 4 years ago

One in a while, I meet a person I can connect immediately. It's a wonderful feeling and it's almost mutual--that's the beautiful part. Thanks for sharing and rated up.


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neeleshkulkarni 4 years ago from new delhi

most times the connect is situational. you may connect with a person in the office but try meeting the same person socially and you might find him to be a bore. i have lovely connects with people of my theater group when we r staging a play but when meet some of them in another context and suddenly there is not much to say.

many times the connect can be delusional- it may be instant but not worth building upon.

the instant connect to my mind is highly overrated because it is situational, can be manipulated ( do the best flirts make the best friends?)but yes in many many cases the connect stays undefined and yet is a source of great happiness and pleasure. i have been blessed with many relationships where i have a connect which develops into nothing more ( it is not supposed to)and yet lies dormant giving rise to much happiness when interaction takes place.

complex? yes but so are all human relationships.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi prasetio30,

I think you are referring to clicks as if hits on a hub? That is not the case here my friend; this hub talks about being able to find a true friend :)

Thanks for stopping by!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Well said indeed Neeleshkulkarni. I am so happy to hear from you, my friend. Your insights towards life are so informative yet at times entertaining (look-a-like comment)

Relationships sure have been known to be complex. I also feel the same. Friends to whom I instantly clicked; no longer have that connection. Maybe something changed, dunno.

But, the bottom line is that I could create memories with that person...now whether they were good or bad is another topic of discussion :)


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neeleshkulkarni 4 years ago from new delhi

the look and like comment??? but i did not comment on your profile picture at all!!!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Neeleshkulkarni, by your entertaining comment...I was referring to the comment you made on "A Tale of 2 girls" whose theme is look-a-like. It was a humorous one :)


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epigramman 4 years ago

....I suppose I try and write about this very subject in my writing - sometimes in a funny mode and sometimes in a bittersweet or serious tone - we will never fully know or understand human nature or the laws of attraction - but what makes writers write - well reading something like this (your grand hub and your solid world class effort here) and from someone as wonderful as you.

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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Anginwu,

Apologize for not replying back to you. Don't know how I missed it out.

Yes, sometimes I too get that feeling of instant touch/click. It's like that person was waiting for you :)

Cheers & thanku so much for stopping by to read and put in your comment.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Epi,

Such a pleasure to see you :) Yes, humans are complicated and so are their relationships thus, it is hard to write and simplify the above.

Once again, thank you for your wonderful and uplifting comment. Always feel blessed to hear from ya!

Cheers!


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

I met my partner in cyberspace, neither of us were looking but I purchased something from him on an auction site. We got to talking/emailing about poetry and got to know each other quite well and grew close before we actually met 3 years later. When we did meet we just clicked and have been together now for 4 years and have a wonderful relationship, we are soul mates. Ususally on auction sites, the deal is done and forgotten, so something drew us together, something made us want to get to know each other. So think soul mates are drawn together even through cyber space.

I really enjoyed reading your hub.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

Ruchira , As a man and knowing all the preconcieved notions of gendre , I understand and yet am dissapointed by the amiount of times a simple smile or "hello,how are you today " comment isn't returned. In a city I suppose I can understand it , But I live in a very rural area . I will say this ,there is nothing as pleasureable to me as when you meet someone with a genuine smile and they speak a greeting! As to the "connections" of the opposite sex, it truely is magic when the eys meet, the smiles connect ,and something happens inside! Great write here!....:-}


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Rosemay50,

Beautiful story. I actually believe that soul mates are made in heaven and HE has a plan on how to unite us. Humans, try to bring out plans and strategies to find theirs in this wild wild world ;-)

Thank you for the read and your precious comment. It was truly appreciated. Cheers!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Ahorseback,

yes, I understand what you are saying...sometimes a genuine hello could be mis-understood. haha

And sometimes, when people click...it's like voila...all those questions pop up...how, why, what!

I feel that there is also a theory of destiny which embeds well on when people click. That theory could apply for our hubber community as well :) Cheers!


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Ruchira, this is a thought provoking hub. Agreed we click well instantly with those people who are on our wavelength. As far as friendship is concerned, I think then the distance factor does not matter much in this age of computer and cell phone. yes when it comes to one's soulmate close proximity is a must to converse, discuss, care and be cared for, to bond well and click.

But if both friends and the better half are closeby it's like icing on the cake and I feel if one has bonded with someone then there is no compromise on anything because one values one's shortcomings as well as plus points as one himself is not perfect.

Great hub. Voted up and interesting.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Rajan,

I agree on all the theory you have stated above. I also feel that if destiny is determined to make us meet...we will meet. humans kinda complicate with such hubs :)

Thank you for the read and comment. It was much appreciated!


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi Ruchira, what an interesting read, I think there are a lot of instances when you instantly connect with somebody.

I know from my own life, that soul mates find each other eventually!

Voting up.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi MM,

Yes, I feel that the main reason for connection with the other person is that they both have had something to do in their previous life-time. That makes them instantly click.

Thank you for the read and stopping by...always a pleasure to hear from you!


Website Examiner 4 years ago

Please don't take this too seriously, but when I saw the title, I thought you were talking about how to get people to click on AdSense ads. Now I understand that it is something a little more important. It is a complex topic, well presented as far as the structure - first an appropriate structure, then some concrete listed items and suggestions. Well done!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi WE,

Thank you for the kind words. After reading your email/comment, I feel I should probably change the title to bring some clarity in the hub since; it's not a way to click with adsense ads :)

Thank you for the read and commenting...appreciate it!


Website Examiner 4 years ago

Ruchira, I like the new title very much!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Thank you WE :) Appreciate it!


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epigramman 4 years ago

...I think I may have found her but I can't tell you who it is - or the entire hub world will know - lol lol

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100ktrainer 4 years ago from Michigan

One of the most amazing things about your soul mate is the connection you have with them. They are so much like yourself.

They know what you are thinking even without you saying a word. They know what you are going to say even before you say it.

Being soul mates requires that 2 people are honest and real with one another as true love can only exist under these conditions.

Your soul mate is a reflection of all you believe about true love.

I like your strategies. Thanks for the share.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hello Epi, The man!

That's great news that you have found yours...Yipppieeee!

Time to celebrate and tell the world about it, my friend!

Sure, share the initials and let our hub community guess about it :)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi 100ktrainer,

I am glad that you liked the above strategies. Wishing you joy and luck in this venture, my friend!

Thanks for stopping by, appreciate it!


Website Examiner 4 years ago

Ruchira, Epigramman: This is becoming very exciting. The HubPages community will soon decipher those initials, I am sure. Full discretion guaranteed!


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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

Very helpful and clever idea for a hub Ruchira :) Frank


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Frank,

I am glad you liked the above. Thanks for stopping by to read and comment!


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emilybee 4 years ago

Similarity is good, and helpful in a relationship. If both persons share some similar personality traits than it makes a relationship so much easier on them both, same with being from the same city, or in my case, the same college town. Great hub :) Voted up.


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Interesting hub. I'm not sure that people can go out and find their soul mate, as I really believe what is meant to be is meant to be as you say destiny.

Have you read my poem Story Poem About How I met my husband?

I agree 100% with being at peace with oneself.

Enjoyed reading your hub and found it thought provoking.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Emilybee,

Yes, similarities sure bring 2 people together and helps so much in the day to day stuff.

I am glad you liked the above. Wishing you joy, my friend!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Susan,

Sure, what is meant to be will come our way but, we gotta walk a path to be seen around ;)

I will stop by to read that precious hub of yours...although it does ring a bell.

Thanks for your precious comment and your vote of confidence!

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