What not to say to a girl: Things to never say to your girlfriend or wife

Know the things you should not say to a girl.
Know the things you should not say to a girl.

What not to say to a girl? There are certain things that you should never say to a woman, whether she is your high school sweetheart, college girlfriend or wife of many years. Regardless of whether you are trying to make small talk on your date or bring an end to an argument, beware of these commonly known blunders guys can make while talking to their partners.


1) Never say to a girl that her best friend is pretty

Even if you really find your girlfriend's friend to be cute in a platonic way, never ever tell this to her. Your girlfriend can jump to the conclusion that you find her attractive. Some confessions are best never made even if they are said in a most non-flirtatious way.


2) Don't tell her that what she wore yesterday looked better

Genuine feedback is not always good. You may be trying to help your girlfriend or wife with what looks good on her but it can actually be like dipping your hands in fire.


When you tell a girl that an outfit she wore the other day looked better, it will automatically imply to her that she doesn't look good today. Your attempt to help may turn into your attempt to save yourself.


3) Don't tell a girl that you want to see how she looks without any makeup

Girls have a love-hate relationship with makeup. While saying anything related to makeup, boyfriends and husbands should choose their words carefully.


A girl may think that you don't find her attractive with makeup on. On the other hand, she can think that you want to see if she looks ugly without her makeup. Either ways, a question along these lines can be damaging so don't say it to a girl.


Telling a girl that she is 'healthy' will leave a lot to confusion. She is likely to immediately start worrying that there may have been a subtle hint in your otherwise innocent words.
Telling a girl that she is 'healthy' will leave a lot to confusion. She is likely to immediately start worrying that there may have been a subtle hint in your otherwise innocent words. | Source

4) Don't compliment a woman by telling her that she has a healthy body

Telling a girl that she has a healthy body translates into you telling her that she does not have an attractive body. This is likely to go wrong even if you are saying it as a genuine compliment to her.


If you want to compliment a girl for her body, think of lines you can say that include the words sexy, hot, beautiful, stunning, gorgeous, hourglass, heavenly and curvaceous.


5) Never compare a girl's cooking with your mom's

You should be very careful about commenting on your wife's or girlfriend's culinary skills. She may even know how to fry an egg or make instant noodles, but comparing her cooking with your mom's can annoy her and break her heart.


6) Don't compliment her by saying that she has put on some weight, even if she looks better

What not to say to a girl? This probably tops the list. Telling your girlfriend that she has put on some weight which is actually making her look better has the potential to send her head into a tizzy.


On one hand it could mean that she was skinnier earlier and she didn't look good. On the other hand it could mean that she has gained weight and you are sugar coating her weight gain by saying that it makes her look good.


7) Never question a girl if she is PMSing

Don't ask your girl if she is PMSing when you think that she is having a mood swing. You will invite the wrath of an unhappy woman whether or not she is actually PMSing. Just erase this word from your dictionary because it can make her very angry and frustrated if it is said at the wrong time.


8) Don't ask a girl if she is pregnant

Husbands beware, don't say this to your wife even if you both are trying to conceive. Your wife is likely to be sensitive on matters on pregnancy and open ended questions like these may sound hurtful. Your comment will be more insulting if she is not actually pregnant because it will passively indicate that you think she has gained weight on her tummy.


9) Don't tell a girl that she is predictable

Never tell a girl that she is predictable. Women don't like to be predictable and often love doing things spontaneously. Telling your girlfriend or wife that she is predictable is like telling her that she is boring and mundane.


Women generally associate the word deodorant with body odor. Don't take that chance and use words like perfume and fragrance while suggesting a new brand to a woman.
Women generally associate the word deodorant with body odor. Don't take that chance and use words like perfume and fragrance while suggesting a new brand to a woman.

10) Never suggests a deodorant to a woman

Never use the word deodorant and your girlfriend or wife's name in the same sentence. For women, deodorant is synonymous with body odor caused by sweating.


This means that if you tell her to try to a new deodorant, you are implying that she has body odor. If you want to suggest a new brand to her, replace the word deodorant with perfume or fragrance.


11) Can you read out your cell number for me?

Where is the need to remember phone numbers when you can have loved ones on speed dial? Don't use this seemingly straight forward logic with your girlfriend's or wife's phone number. For her it will only mean that you don't remember her number by heart.


12) Never ask a girl her weight

Any sane guy will not ask a girl how much she weighs. Don't ask this question to your woman unless you want to give her nightmares about her weight.


13) Don't ask your wife the year of her birth

Don't be in a situation where you know her birthday and not the year in which she was born.


This applies more to husbands who have the knack of sometimes forgetting their wives' birthdays. Asking your wife's year of birth is like directly telling her that you don't know how old she is.


14) Never suggest to a girl that long dresses suit her better

Irrespective of how thin, voluptuous, curvy, fat or athletic a girl is, hearing that long dresses suit her better can mean that she does not have the body to carry off shorter dresses and skimpier outfits.


Regardless of your intention, you are likely to leave a dent in her self confidence. There may be better and indirect ways of telling your woman that a longer dress suits her body type better.


15) Don't compare her behavior with other women

Never ever create a hypothetical situation by telling your girlfriend or wife what someone else would have done if they were in her place. Remember that no one else can take your girlfriend's place whether it is your mother, your best friend who is a girl or your girlfriend's sister.


There is a candid dancer in every girl's heart. Don't insult your girlfriend or wife by telling her that she needs to take dancing lessons.
There is a candid dancer in every girl's heart. Don't insult your girlfriend or wife by telling her that she needs to take dancing lessons.

16) Never suggest to a girl that she should take dance lessons

It is every girl's secret dream to be able to dance well and carry off stunning moves on the dance floor. Telling your girlfriend that she should take dance lessons is an insult.


A statement like this will make her feel conscious and is likely to damage her self-esteem. Stay mum as far as she isn't embarrassing herself in front of others.


17) Don't tell a girl to learn from the actions of your ex

It is a very bad idea to bring an ex into the picture regardless of the situation you are in. Even if it is as simple as telling your girlfriend to ask your ex which books she read to pass her exams, never talk about an ex.


Bringing your ex into a conversation is likely to leave your girlfriend or wife in a bad mood. Topping it off by suggesting that she take a tip or two from your ex's looks, behavior, lifestyle or any other matter is likely to leave her fuming.


18) Don't ask a girl to pay the bill for a date

Asking a girl to pay the bill when you have gone out for a date will bring a crushing end to the date. Be a gentleman and pick up the check. Don't commit the blunder of telling your girlfriend to bear the expense of a romantic date.


19) Don't ask a woman if she wants to tag along

Tag along is not the correct phrase when you want to ask your girlfriend or wife if she wants to go somewhere with you. You can invite your girlfriend to come with you or ask for the pleasure of her company but definitely not tag along.


20) Never say to a girl that she eats a lot

Even a genuine worry about your girlfriend or wife having a massive appetite should be dealt with caution. Being direct about it and telling her that she eats a lot is likely to leave her worrying that you think she is gaining weight.


21) Don't tell a woman to not be emotional about something

When a girl vents out her emotions to you, it is a sign that she trusts you with her feelings and that she leans to you for support. Heartlessly asking her not to be emotional about an issue at a crucial time when she is looking for assurance is rude.


If you think she is getting carried away with emotions, look for other ways to sort out a problem for her.


Telling a girl that she can improve in bed will shatter her confidence. Don't do it.
Telling a girl that she can improve in bed will shatter her confidence. Don't do it.

22) Never tell a woman that she can improve in bed

You will deliver a big blow to a woman's self-confidence if you tell her about the ways with which she can improve in bed. If you want to try new moves in bed, tell your girlfriend or wife you wish to do so. But under no circumstances should you ever tell a girl that there is scope for improvement for her performance in bed.


23) Never say that a dress or an accessory is making her look older

No woman wants to hear that a particular dress is making her look older. If you say something like that, you risk making her doubt herself every time she tries on something new.


24) Don't suggest to a woman that she should join a gym

Telling your girlfriend or wife that she should join a gym is a bad idea because it hints to her that you think she's overweight. She may even think that her body is out of shape or that you don't find her sexy anymore.


25) Don't say that Valentine's Day is just another day

You and your girlfriend or wife may not you believe in becoming the ultimate romantic couple on Valentine's Day by planning a lavish date and showering each other with gifts. However this should not mean that you don't wish her or you say that Valentine's Day is just another day.


Your girlfriend or wife may not tell you but she will secretly hope that wishing her is the least you will do. Bring her flowers and tell her how much you love her. Top it off with a romantic Valentine's Day wish.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

So true you have made all the points here telling or asking a girl any of the mentioned will make her angry, offended or jealous


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JenIncognito 3 years ago

These are great points and some actually made me laugh because men I know have made these blunders and had some unwanted repercussions!Good job on giving these tips to men. I hope they take them to heart.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A great read and thanks for sharing.

Eddy.


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HaileyAdams 3 years ago

LOL Awesome hub. I enjoyed reading it, if only men follow your advice, sometimes it seems like they need a guide book on how to treat a woman haha.

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