What's Happened to The Phrase: "I'm in Love With You"?

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It shocked me also. Normally, out of respect for my wonderful followers, I will try and provide a suitable introduction to my hubs. I am not one to have the people who read my materials stumbling around in a dark castle without a flashlight. It's just not right.

The struggle I had was not the subject, but the headline. Should I have named this hub "All About Love," or "What's Happened to The Phrase: Being In Love?" In my amateur opinion, the latter would make more sense so that is what I settled on.

The years that this couple has spent are credited to the phrase, "I'm in love with you"
The years that this couple has spent are credited to the phrase, "I'm in love with you" | Source

Do you honestly think that "I'm in love with you," means as much today as it did in your day?

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In my time

You 've heard that before. But there's really not a sensible way to explain this subject to you in way that you can not only understand what I am saying, but actually feel, with your emotions, what I am writing about. No. Sadly, I am not a Vincent van Gogh who went insane thinking he could make his now-priceless paintings come alive. I am just that passionate about my topic.

In my time, when a young man or even an older man told a lady that he was "in love" with her, it was a big, big deal. Truthfully, the girl upon hearing the guy's heartbeats as these words, "Grace, I am in love with you," roll off of his quivering lips, she eventually sped to her girlfriends and her news was the fodder that lit whispered gossip among them for weeks.

Being in love in my time was that serious. If I might use this analogy: If the same young man and woman had made physical love it would not have been more taboo to the girl's gossiping friends.

Pure love. True love.
Pure love. True love. | Source
Former CBS News anchorman, Dan Rather, now retired
Former CBS News anchorman, Dan Rather, now retired | Source
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Love, like justice, is blind to age, creed and color | Source
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Love has inspired books. plays, songs to express someone being in love | Source
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Pure unvarnished love | Source
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Someone in this photo is telling someone that they are in love with them | Source
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In love and dancing | Source
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Kissing to "seal the deal" | Source
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Nothing compares to being in love with someone special | Source
New Jersey governor, Chris Christie
New Jersey governor, Chris Christie | Source

Changing views

Obviously. I can tell you here and now that not too long ago, I was talking to a mutual girl who is a friend of my wife and I, and just for test reasons, I said nonchalauntly, "Hey, I've been in love with you for years," to our female friend. Know how she reacted? She laughed. Then replied, "appreciate it." Appreciate it? Isn't that what one says to a car or insurance salesperson for giving them a great deal?

Hey, dear followers, I must either have a serious problem or have been place in a time warp by those of higher thinking (C.I.A.) or both, for obviously I am missing something here. If you are brave enough, would you admit to thinking that something has happened to the serious phrase, "I am in love with you"? You know that "misery loves company," and I would appreciate your company.

So now let me humbly ask . . .

What's Happened to The Phrase: "I'm in Love With You"?

My four thoughts on this controversial subject are:

Pressure From Secret - - social sources and I mean those with power enough to make one phone call and close down Brooklyn, N.Y. No, I am not referring to Gov. Chris Christie. But something who deals in etiquette such as etiquette guru, Amy Vanderbilt. This is a long shot, but I had to start somewhere.

Retired CBS anchorman, Dan Rather - - had a lot of the viewers' respect while employed by CBS, but have you noticed that since he "retired," he is not as visible anymore? I could say the same about David Letterman the "only true" host of Late Night on CBS, but at least Letterman does show his face in public now and again. What would Rather gain from taking the power from a phrase as iconic as "I'm in love with you"? One can only guess that if he can weaken a phrase with such romantic overtones as "I'm in love with you," then what else can Rather change?

Underground Hippy Survivors - - from the "Free Love" 1960's era would be my "all in" guess. The rewards for this handful of social rebels would be great. My guess for their would-be scenario is: If by taking away the seriousness of "I'm in love with you," then we will be soon be a part or a spectator to another round of the "Free Love" social input that includes more wild music festivals (e.g. Woodstock, Aug. 1969), more drug usage in the open and more undisciplined physical love by the new members of the "New Free Love" movement. Wouldn't you say so too?

Mid-East Terrorist Links - - might be playing a "behind the scenes" role to go with the "New Free Love" movement about to go above ground. And with the ISIS jerk-o's, who can predict how much and how far these ya-hoo's will do when the term, "I am in love with you," is just another phrase?

Time to stand up

  • Friends, I will be brief. This is one time we cannot keep our "heads in sand." We need to exercise a good amount of boldness and pride, pretty much all of these two traits that we can muster to either stop how the individuals I named above are allegedly trying to make "I'm in love with you," just a common phrase we can use anywhere, anytime? What do you say?

We can get a government grant to help finance "our" defensive strategies which include:

  • Each time a member of our movement hears this phrase, "I'm in love with you," used in a nonchalant manner, they must immediately stand up and say, "if you cannot use respect and discretion with that phrase, I suggest that you keep your mouth shu
  • Print flyers (with our mission statement) for handing-out to shoppers in malls across our country and I mean this only for those of us who are serious about letting "I am in love with you," keep what integrity it has left. You might be shocked to see just how many people will join our movement who before we said something were totally unaware of how much damage has already been done to "I'm in love with you."
  • The members we have who have experience in speaking on radio or television can step forward and get the necessary arrangements made for them to appear on the nation's hottest radio talk shows and television news shows such as HLN Morning Express with the lovely Robin Meade. Pretty soon, we will have defeated the ignorant forces who do not know how to use the phrase, "I am in love with you."

So what do you think?

Good night, Destin, Florida

"Thank you for taking the time to read my hubs."

Sincerely,

Kenneth

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Jodah 4 months ago from Queensland Australia

Interesting, Kenneth. "I am in love with you" was always the ultimate phrase one person could say to another. Some, in fact, would find it very difficult to make such a commitment as pledging their love. You are right to say that phrase was not used lightly in our time. Perhaps in these present times it is said too easily and lacks the depth of feeling it used to. I don't really know, but look forward to reading others comments on the subject.


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Cynthia Hoover 4 months ago from Newton, West Virginia

Over the years I've noticed the use of the phrase 'I am in love with you' shift from being a proclamation of ones affection and desire to commit ones self to another. To a statement used to serve an agenda based on obtaining the object of lust. Or many other selfish reasons that people spew a once longed for and beautiful phrase in order to serve their own purposes. Having nothing to do with commitment, actual love. The phrase is now tossed about freely without the depth and meaning it once held. People toss the phrase about so often (without even knowing each other) that I truly feel that it is no longer such a sacred proclamation as it once was. Indeed a very sad changing of the times.


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MizBejabbers 4 months ago

What a pity, Kenneth. But with two marriages (not simultaneous, LOL) and more boyfriends in the 10-year period in between than I will admit, the only way I've ever heard those words is in a joking manner and then only in my years of radio. Like you take a cup of coffee to the disk jockey confined in the control booth and he says, "Oooo, I'm in love with you." Seriously.

My present husband was no slouch, though. the first time he ever said the 4-letter work to me, he said, "Don't you know how much I love you?" Well, actually, no I didn't, but it made for a long and continuing relationship.


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BlossomSB 4 months ago from Victoria, Australia

What an interesting topic to choose! We don't seem to hear the phrase so much today, but perhaps that's because we're older. I know at least one young person who is in the throes of trying to build up the courage to say it to the one being dreamt about. Commitment, or often the seeming lack of it these days may be what holds people back.


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faith-hope-love 4 months ago from Richmond, British Columbia, Canada.

This is a question I have been perusing over for some time. The complete wrong usage of the Phrase "I am in love". I have heard it used to speak about Drinks, Food, Cars, Planes, Cities, Houses, Dogs and Cats. etc. In my day it was used to describe a feeling about one of the opposite sex. And it was a phrase that enjoined celebration. I have recently heard a Grown Man say it and when I being (Nosey) checked he was speaking to a Horse. Big disappointment. So I am interested in the responses that you receive. I am with you we all who recognize the personal importance of this very strong and powerful phrase should correct any wrong usage. Well Done.

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