When Should I Call A Woman?

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How Long Do You Think You Should Wait To Call A Woman?

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Many women would love to hear from a guy the day after she gives him her number. Unfortunately, though, most guys drag it out for 3-7 days. Just a quick "hello" the day after can let a woman know that you are interested in getting to know her better and cause her to view you in a positive light. It will remove the anxiety that comes with waiting for a call and cause her to look forward to talking to you again.

Do you know how to set yourself apart from other guys after you get her number? Are you asking yourself, "When should I call?"

Getting the phone number is a great first step, but if you don't create an attraction soon after you get the number, then you might as well not have the number at all.

If you want to make the process worth your while, there are a few things that you need to know.

Why Women Give Their Numbers Out

Some women are approached for their number a lot, and they do not always give out there number. If they are not really interested, then you will either get no number or a fake number.

However, there are a few reasons why they end up giving out their real number.

- They are attracted to you and want to see you again.

- They find you mysterious and want to know more about you.

- They feel sorry for you and don't want to hurt you feelings.

The reason is not always obvious, and you may think that if they feel sorry for you that you have probably already lost out, but that's not the case.

If you can create an attraction between you and her with that first phone call, then you are going to keep her interest and get the first date.

She Will Be Glad You Called

If she gave you her real number, then she expects you to call her!
If she gave you her real number, then she expects you to call her!

When Should I Call To Create An Attraction?

Have you heard about the one-week rule that many dating guru's commonly talk about? It is a widespread belief that waiting a week to call a woman will increase her attraction towards you and put you in control of the situation.

Unfortunately, this technique tends to tick off women and make them question whether or not they want to be with you.

The guys who get women do one thing right; they don't play games with women.

Calling a woman within a day or two does not hint at desperation. True desperation can be heard through your voice and your words when you talk to a woman no matter when you call her.

Calling a woman within a few days shows her that you are interested in her (which is hugely attractive to a woman) and that you are not here to play games with her.

If you wait too long to call her, you put her though a wide range of emotions as the days go on.

  • She is excited to hear from you and wonders when you will call.
  • She starts to wonder if you are going to call.
  • She starts to wonder if you really were interested in her.
  • She starts to form negative opinions about you so that she doesn't get hurt if you don't call.
  • When you finally do call, she has a bunch of negative stories in her head about you (you are a player, jerk, inconsiderate, etc...) which you are going to have to work hard at disproving.

Calling sooner than later is what will separate you from all the other guys out there listening to the 'gurus' advice. While they possibly piss her off, make her cry, and keep her in a state of anxiety, you get to be a man who keeps her negative thoughts at bay and show that you are interested in her.

In short, you will be a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to show it by calling and letting her know that you really are interested in her.

The Confidence Will Win Her Over

Think about this - Do you know a man who knows what he wants in life and exudes confidence? How do you act around him? Do you have a high amount of respect for him or a small amount of respect? Do you try to make him like you or do you try and avoid him? Chances are you try to make him like you in some way, and it is no different for women. They will try to please you, win you over, and consider themselves lucky to be around you if you are a man who exudes confidence.

As long as you are confident in yourself, you can carry this attitude through the first phone call to the first date and a woman will be attracted to it, no matter what she thought of you when she gave you her number. It's just a law of human nature.

In the end, the answer to "When should I call her?" is as soon as you can. You will not look desperate; instead, she will be glad to know that you really WERE interested in her. Just be confident in yourself and you will win her over.

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peachpurple 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

it really depends how you are attracted to the woman, if she is beautiful, 5 days, sexy, 24 hours!

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