Overseen Signs When To DITCH a Fake FRIEND

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When to end or keep a friendship...

This morning I received a mail from a best friend of mine telling me that her daughter is being bullied just because she is an achiever in school and she was complimented on by her teacher as someone who is "best in everything". The worst part of it is, she is now being bullied by her own friends for three years now.

This is just another issue of what true friendships are made of. And it is sad to know that not all of what we call a "friend" are REAL and not everyone has enough veracity in his heart to offer us the real essence of friendship..

Here are telltale signs of fake friends...

  • You are not truly comfortable with their presence because you have to be somebody who is not your self just to fit in.
  • They expect so much from you. Ask you to run errands, do home works or anything for them all the time. And after it all, they fail to appreciate the many good things you have done and make you feel bad whenever you can't measure up with your expectations.
  • They talk behind your back.
  • They don't feel proud of you and even are not happy for you when achieve something good. This may be manifested when they talk sarcastically as they compliment or congratulate you.
  • They make you feel bad all the time.
  • They act as if they are your mom and monitor every detail that you do.
  • They demand to decide everything for you.
  • They find glory in emphasizing your weakness and shortcomings.
  • They imitate all the things you do or even the brands you use.
  • They only approach you when they need something from you.
  • They can't be found when you are down, yet they are the first to arrive when good things come your way.
  • They meddle so much with your life that they fail to respect your privacy and choice to let them in or not.
  • They judge you without even knowing your side.
  • They become parasites in your life that they are the only ones benefiting with what they call "friendship"
  • They make you look and feel dumb and try every way they can to make you feel insecure.

Think twice...

Are you one of the fakes?

  • Sometimes.
  • Never.
  • Everyone is fake!
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Keep in mind...

Real friends may make you feel bad for telling the truth that you should know some times, but they don't mean to make you feel insecure. Real friends are sent from heaven... they come into our lives naturally. It's useless to keep fake friends when real ones are just around the corner waiting for us to tell us that we are stupid... but it's okay to be one sometimes.

Copyright by DjBryle Works, 2010

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cupid51 profile image

cupid51 6 years ago from INDIA

You have analyzed the characteristics of friendship very deeply. Thanks for the nice work.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thank you so much for dropping by, Cupid51. And for the kind words! =)


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Cris A 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines

Thank God I'm too old to deal with friendship issues, and besides all my friends have gown old with me and we all have mellowed. But it was a big deal indeed back in high school. But that said, thanks for the pointers...people keep changing.

A good read! Thanks for sharing :D


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

We're on the same boat Cris. lol! I also had struggles with friendships way back in my teen years. But times have changed and when we are already adults, we realize that it does not really matter if we don't have so many friends as long as we have a few real and enduring ones.

Thanks for dropping by, and most of all, for always having kind words to share. God bless! =)


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Peggy W 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

My mother always told me that if a person had as many good friends as the fingers on one hand, that person would be fortunate. REALLY GOOD FRIENDS are rare and to be treasured. Most are acquaintances that drift in and out of our lives.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

That's true Peggy... in fact, having one real friend is a blessing. Thanks for dropping by! =)


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Pollyannalana 6 years ago from US

Great hub< I sometimes talk of a couple of friends like that but I am sad to say one passed away with MS and I cannotfind the other, but I have the memories forever.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

That's true Polly, no one can ever take the place of a real friend no matter what life may bring, their memories will always be in our hearts...Thanks for dropping by!


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

Great info and sound advice on when to let a friend go. When I was younger I use to hate losing a friend, but now I understand that at times you simply outgrow a friendship. Thanks for sharing! :)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks MG! =) That's for sure... it really happens when we grow up... we realize that it is better to have a few real friends than having tons of fake ones. Thanks for spending time with my hubs! =)


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Mamelody 6 years ago

I had a friend who had all those qualities.. well our friendship lasted less than 24 hours as I couldn't stand her anyway lol great advice and good hub


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Eileen Hughes 6 years ago from Northam Western Australia

very interesting hub, yes friends are scarce, true friends that is. thanks for sharing this


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Mamelody: lol! =) Thanks for dropping by... =)

@Eileen: That's true, better to have few real ones! See you around... been reading your hubs too and I love them! =)


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Jayne Lancer 6 years ago from West London, UK

This is a very helpful Hub. You know, there are people who just can't 'see' that some friends aren't really friends at all, and go on believing themselves to be the under dog; as their 'friends' wish them to.


gwennies pen 6 years ago

I have had to deal with a bit of all these issues in so-called friends in the past. 'Some friends make better enemies', they say. Sad but true. 'A true friend sticks with you, even if you are a little cracked'. : )Just something to keep in mind.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Gwen: Thank you so much for dropping by! We are on the same boat... these friends from the past are one of the reasons why I remembered writing about this hub... lol! Anyway, we are so blessed for keeping real friends even though we are slightly cracked. =) See you around.


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A la carte 6 years ago from Australia

An excellent hub...and made me think. A lot of what you say is so true. Thank you.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@A la carte: Thanks for the compliment my friend! See you around! =)


hubpageswriter 6 years ago

Another good hub from you. It's important to realize the differences between true and fake friends. Hub up.:)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Hubpageswriter: Thank you so much for always dropping by and for giving kind compliments my friend! You're a blessing! See you around! =)


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

You know- ! -

I never know when,

to dump a friend!

But they have perfect timing,

When they have our friendship end!


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Micky: lol! That's true in most cases my friend... sometimes, we just have the feeling that we are growing apart with some friends and we don't really have to dump them. Thanks for dropping by! =)


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Mentalist acer 6 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

The parasite problem is one that can get a little hairy with adult friendships and you've provided a great list of attributes that young people can genuinly use,DjBryle;)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@mentalist Acer: Thanks for another thoughtful comment, and for the kind acknowledgment my friend! =)


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Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

I voted this hub up. Well written with sound advice. Thanks. Nice to meet you. :) I'm curious about the book you wrote and would like to know more. Let's talk, ok?


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Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

I thought this was a very well written hub, DjB, and I left a comment yesterday, but am not sure why it didn't show...I voted it 'up'.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Denise: Thanks so much for voting it up my friend! I am so glad to have met you at HP. Your comment didn't show up right away because I was not able to accept it faster... lol! Sorry for the delayed approval, I wasn't online when you sent your comments. Thanks for spending time with my hub, it means a lot to me! =)


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andromida 6 years ago

This is simply an outstanding hub.Everything is so true, and I must re-emphasis that the presence of fake friends really make one feel uncomfortable.I've twitter this to my friends.Thank you so much :)


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks so much andromida! Friendship issues are issues from the past for me, I stick to real friend s and I remain true to them... and I know that my life is beautiful. Thanks for sharing a friendship with me at HP! See you around! =)


hubpageswriter 6 years ago

I call these types toxic. When the time comes to ditch a toxic friend, never look back as by doing that, they'll tend to cause more trouble for the ones whom have been good to them. Not all are like that, but the chances are there. Enjoy reading this hub.


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Thanks for appreciating this hub and for dropping by, HPwriter! See you around! =)


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

I love reading your page.

My personal veiw on frienship is as follows...

I consider my self a really good friend, in everyway,

I do judge newcomer friends though I must admit, I work on the 3 strikes and your out, and I will tell you why.

As I said I really do know how to be a really good friend.

If I ever get to the third strike, I consider my self week If I allow a person to offend me 3 times, after all,

It's a very true saying,

The first time someone does something to hurt you, call it an Accident,

The second time, Call it a Mistake,

And the 3rd time, Call it a lifestyle, on their part.

There for not worth your effort or time.

The second time, you could call it an


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

@Debbie: lol! I love that view! Sure thing, you could give 3 chances, but thrice is enough... thanks for spendng time with my hub! See you around, my new friend! =)


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

Thank you for commenting on my page too,

As you can see I am new to all this, Ergo, The last line on the comment I left you DOH !

I Should have gome back to edit it.

Still, you are kind enough to see through that,

THANX FRIEND .


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

lol! It's human nature to make some mistakes sometimes, my friend. Thanks for dropping by again. See you around! =)


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gr82bme 6 years ago from USA

I am 52 and I have only about 2 people besides my kids and husband I call friend. Friend is a name you earn. You do not become a friend over night. Thank you for another great hub


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

I agree with you Gr8! Glad to meet you at HP. =)


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Maria Cecilia 6 years ago from Philippines

I guess I am fortunate to have real friends, and aside from them meeting people like you whom I just met because of my passion to write. Your reminded me of some scene in my life, remember our PMs at facebook? there are some people in your circle who will still find hole in your achievement...but those friends are dominated by the number of real friends around me... I am making a hub on friendship, di pa lang din complete ang supporting docs...


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DjBryle 6 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Sure thing miss Macel, I do remember our PMs at FB. Some people would really try to bring you down but it's okey. They just challenge us to do better... hehehe! Most especially that we are surrounded with real friends who keeps up with us through the good and the bad. And it is a fact that people can hurt and affect us as long and as much as we let them, so I decided to be numb with those people who just want to hurt me... hehe! I am so thankful for the friendship we share... honestly, I enjoy HP even more when I met you! Thanks and God bless you always! See you around! =)


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Thelma Alberts 5 years ago from Germany

Hi DjBryle! You said it right in this Hub. True friends are really hard to find. We have to be careful choosing our friends for they are our family we choose for ourselves. Thanks for sharing. This hub is voted UP.


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GmaGoldie 5 years ago from Madison, Wisconsin

GREAT hub! The traumas in my life - death and sickness are only overshadowed by the doors that I must close on fake friends. Very well done hub - very important life lessons. Thank you! Voted up!

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