When it's Over, Let It Go (Adams' Mistake)

When a Relationship Ends - Let It Go!

This article is dedicated to a true friend. It’s directed at men but applies to women as well.

The biblical story of Adam and Eve suggests that Eve’s disobedience to God introduced sin to the world which ultimately led to the downfall of man and mankind. It is a story repeated over and over again in the Christian arena. It’s the first story a child learns which attempts to explain why there is so much suffering in life. It is a story which puts the burden of death, destruction, disobedience, and suffering at the feet of Eve, Adam’s wife, or as the Biblical writers describes her – Adam’s Help meet.

While the story of Adam and Eve is true, according to the biblical writers, it is an unfair and unbalanced story which excludes Adams role in this great epic drama. It is a story which fails to identify the solution which could have saved mankind. It’s a story which describes the most common mistake even men of the 21st century make. It’s a story which, if Adam had his priorities straight could have had a different ending.

According to the biblical writers God creates man from the dirt of the earth in a garden which is described as a peaceful, beautiful place comparable to heaven itself. He later creates from the ribs of Adam a woman described as Adams helpmeet. God then gives them dominion over the earth and instructs them to eat of all the fruits of the garden except the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden least they shall die. The biblical writers then shared the story of Eve being tempted by a serpent who convinces her that she would not surely die and that the consumption of this forbidden fruit would give her the knowledge and wisdom of God himself. Eve believes the story of the serpent and consumes the forbidden fruit. She then convinces Adam to eat of the fruit which Adam did - and this was the begining of Adam’s mistake! Adam’s concern was not fearing God, but losing his woman. It was a mistake men would make for generations to come. He did not understand that the God who gave him the first Eve would have given him a second, much improved Eve. But he must be willing to let the first Eve go. Adam did not understand that his faithfulness to God - and not his woman - would have saved them both, and eventually mankind from a world of pain and sufferings.

But Adam, like most men - felt a sense of entitlement, ownership, and dominion over his Eve. Adam felt that he had invested a lot in Eve and she was the only woman for him. His limited vision, and faith prevented him from following a set of instructions which could have prevented pain and suffering for genrations to come. Adam chose the flesh and subsequently lost his peace, his joy and eventually his life.

This entitlement mentality still haunts men today and the outcome is the same. Men need to understand that there is no entitlement when it comes to his Eve, his woman. Men need to understand that the days of slavery and human ownership have long passed and when his Eve decides to go a different direction he need to learn to seek guidance from God and if its God's will that she leaves - let her go. It's unquestionably very hard, difficult, scary, and painful, particularly if you’ve been with your Eve for a number of years. It’s even harder when your Eve leaves with a sense of entitlement in the form of monetary rewards - and her decision to leave brings an end to your financial and social stability, possibly causing you economic ruins. It’s challenging, painful, and very frustrating particularly when Adam believes that he has dedicated his entire life to pleasing his Eve and building a Garden of Eden around her providing comfort , security, and stability - and even more painful when Adam feels that he's been faithful to his Eve. It’s a troublesome situation but men need to understand and appreciate Eve’s decision no matter how painful it may be. Men need to voice their concerns in a respectful manner and then - let go! Do not verbally or physically abuse your Eve. Do not threaten your eve. Do not attempt in anyway to make your Eve’s life difficult by seeking revenge. No Eve or Adam is worth your sanity, your freedom, or your life!

If possible, sat down with your Eve and pray with her and wish her the best, even if her best comes at your expense. It’s a hard but necessary task and it will ease your pain and prepare you spiritually for your next Eve. Adams can climb the highest mountain, swim the deepest sea, and build a rocket ship to the moon. Adams can fight dragons and conquer territories. He can build a business from scratch and watch it grow to a fortune 500 company but Adam can not handle his Eve leaving or forsaking him. It strikes at the core of his ego and his sense of security, stability, and manhood. If a man attempts to hold onto his eve even when its clear that she's leaving he can easily become another Adam - following the flesh instead of the will of God. In order to move to the next level a man (Adam) must learn to let go, despite how much it hurts, angers, or upset him.

LIfe is unfair. What was once sweet can become sour. A millionaire can become poor within the next hour. A poor man can become a millionaire in the same time frame. We're all one second, one minute, one hour, one decision, or one day from the unexpected. In the case of a relationship when the unexpected happens - deal with it with maturity and understanding that the situation is only temporary. Don’t be another Adam. When it’s over, it’s over - let it go! The sooner you let go the sooner the second, more improved Eve will appear. The sooner you let go the sooner you'll find the inner peace to forgive and forget. The sooner you let go the sooner you'll realize and accept your contributions to why your Eve may have left. It is through this process that you will discover the wisdom and compassion to begin building a more peaceful, a more beautiful, and a more secure Garden of Eden.

If the biblical writings of the story of Adam and Eve is true, then Adam must bear the bulk of the responsibility for a sinful world. Break the cycle. If she chooses to disobey God - let her go! If she want to leave - let her go! No woman, or man, or human is worth your peace, your sanity, your freedom, or your life. The sooner she/he walks out the door the sooner you can begin to apply the wisdom found in the book of Philippians 4:5-7:

"Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."

Live, and let live - Let it go!

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opinion duck 7 years ago


If it were not for my statement about the serpent that I posted in your other hub, I would pretty much agree with most of this hub.

This is not a story about a merciful and forgiving God. While it is true that Adam was guilty of the same act as Eve, the serpent was the only reason that it happened. It was not like Eve went to Adam and said let us do what God told us not to do without the conversation with the serpent.

The whole scenario for mankind in the Garden of Eden should have been focused on the act of the serpent, and not Eve. We have no idea what Adam and Eve would have done with the Tree of Knowledge had there been no serpent.

With the serpent, many questions should be asked about God and his intentions for Adam and Eve. Also, why was Eve not created from the same dirt that created Adam. I maintain that it was consistent with the human authors that believe women are subservient to men. They were for thousands of years.

It also seems strange that the tree was called the Tree of Knowledge, in light of the early stage of life on Earth. Doesn't it also seem that knowledge should have been on their daily diet?

God is no where to be found when Adam and Eve are doing their misdeed. Why was Eve without Adam when the serpent told his tale. Adam would have been equally guilty if he were present with Eve when the serpent did his con.

There were no Angels present in the Garden, only evil.

We don't know what God's purpose for Creating Adam. From the beginning, Adam was human, he need to eat and he needed to sleep. Had Eve not eaten the fruit, then the Garden would have been their home forever. That means that they would never go to heaven to be with God. There would be no one in hell, other than devils.

It is not reasonable to believe that the Devil would punish people for not following God. God is the direct enemy of the devil and winning people from God is a good thing for the devil. When did the Devil work for God. The devil should be rewarding those that follow him, instead of God. It is really God that would want to punish them.

God is treating the Devil as an equal, waiting for some tally of souls before crushing the Devil. The wrath of God should be directed at the Devil and not the humans that they use to keep score. In essence, this game is the same as Eve in the Garden. Don't listen to the serpent, listen to God. That game has been played and replayed for thousands of years, with the winner being the serpent.

People have not really changed for the better since Eve and Cain. With all the accounts of the bible, we have no physical evidence that it really involved God. For example, if Moses didn't destroy the tablets from God, then we could have scientific proof that man didn't create them. But as it turns out we have nothing, no tablets, no Ark, no body, nothing.

People of different cultures and societies have always worshiped some form of God. The Old and New Testament just puts a better documented and well written story to it.

We can't disprove the existence of God, but at the same time, we can't prove the existence of God.

Even though we may differ philosophically about the subject of the hub, they are well written.

Thanks for letting me visit.

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America Author

opinion duck - actually I agree with your perception of evil. The emphasis of this hub was more on Adam than Eve and evil. The intent was to emphasize to men that when a relationship is over - let it go. Adam and Eve was used as an example of how we often put the flesh before the word and as a result we end up losing everything. I truly enjoyed you response and you're right on the mark.

Thanks again.

opinion duck 7 years ago


Thanks again for the comment and I am now aware that I misused the intent of this hub. I believe it happened because of your invitation to me to read this hub when I commented on another hub.

Looking now at your original intent for this hub, I totally agree with your view and conclusion.

Looking forward to reading your new hubs.

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America Author

opinion duck - no problem and thanks again for the comments.

Audacious Shelley 7 years ago

Thank you for this hub. I guess coming from the womanly perspective, I never saw it this way. I was going to make another comment about woman using her supposed intelligence (elements of the soul- logic, reasoning, imagination, emotion) but now that I realize the intent of this hub was to address relationships, it would be misplaced.

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America Author

Audacious Shelley - thanks for stopping by and commenting. Yes, the hub is more about (failed) relationships than anything else. It would be great to read a hub from you on your original intent. The female elements of logic, reasoning, imagination, and emotion on the subject would be a good read.

Audacious Shelley 7 years ago

I have posted one hub about the garden of eden, and two more are in progress which cover some different aspects of what went wrong in the Garden.

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America Author

Audacious Shelley - Great! I will stop by for a read. Thanks for the info.

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Shaz123 7 years ago

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America Author

Shaz123 - thank you. I will foolow up with my request. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

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Jude Wilson 7 years ago from Texas

Okay so I have another take on "letting it go" -which I recently realized with the parting of my five year relationship and my passion for God. (I have to set the stage here) Last year I knew in my spirit (after much prayer) I was going to finally get my long awaited basset hound. Two days after I came home from vacation my landlord was on my steps telling me "go get my dog" (prior to that he told me numerous times "no pets!") Well it wasn't that easy I was turned down by the three basset hound rescues (for different reasons) then when I finally found another rescue to adopt a little guy out (I wanted another male) I would have had to drive 7 hours to get him and 7 hours back in one day. I covered my schedule and planned on leaving bright and early the next day. That night I was not at peace with going the next day. This internal "Knowing" that I should not make the trip was so strong I canceled the trip and called the lady waiting to tell her I would not be picking up the three year old basset. This was very painful because I felt like I was giving up my dog to do what I felt I was supposed to do. (Obedience to God is extremely hard in the beginning) I cried in bed all day until later that night I checked my email. There was an email response about a 4 month old basset I had inquired about during my search. I was the first to email about the new pup on petfinder.com and she had so many responses she had to pull it. But I was first so I picked up my little Katy that weekend and she is the perfect dog. (I'm studying to work with foster children and Katy will become a therapy dog so the children can read to her). So now this brings me to "what this has to do with my breakup". I'll tell you; one day I was looking at Katy and decided that if I had gone to get the other pup I would have loved the other pup. I would have even been happy with the other basset hound. But I would have never experienced the joy of my Katy and her working with kids like I believe God has for us. This became an instant realization about the man I dated for 5 years. If he would have asked me I would have married him and I would have loved him forever. I would have never left him and I probably would also have even been happy. However, I would have never got to experience the true joy of a marriage that I believe is in my future with the man God has hand-picked for me. Therefore I choose to let Jamie go!

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America Author

Jude Wilson - It sounds like your decision about Jamie was a tough one and time will be the best judge. I love the story about the basset.

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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Wow, whenever I find myself wanting more weights over my decision, I will check on in here again. Reality nicely handed out. Thank you for this. I am not like the way I used to be when I want my own way in every situation in my life. Nowadays, I trust in the power that is behind it all these evolution in my life and the universe. I will have only to use wisdom in guiding my intuition and follow its nudging.

Thank you. More power.

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jxb7076 6 years ago from United States of America Author

Teresa Laurente - thanks for stopping by and commenting. I think life is too short for grudges. I've also learned that wisdom comes when one can accept reality and deal with it in a mature, spiritual way. It's difficult but possible.

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jacobkuttyta 6 years ago from Delhi, India

Very interesting hub


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jxb7076 6 years ago from United States of America Author

jacobkuttyta - It's a simple concept in theory but very difficult to implement. However, once a person exercise the theory, the implementation becomes the reward. When I applied the theory, I felt so relieved and was able to focus on more important things in life! I became a free man in mind, body, and spirit. I am 54 years old, my blood pressure is 125/78. I have no physical ailments. I work out regurlarly and my doctor gave me a physical analysis comparable to that of a healthy 24 year old.

It really works.

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