Who Are Friends

As children our friends are our ‘buddies’

I’m sure the word ‘friend’ has a different meaning in each age of life and/or to each and every individual. As children our friends are our ‘buddies’ those we play with, go to school with, be they relatives or neighbors. Within friendship we have those we hold closer than the rest, our good friends or our best friends. As we get older, sometimes we either add or subtract from our original list of childhood ‘friends’ and the meaning intensifies or develops into a word with much stronger meaning… a deeper definition with a heavier connotation.

Sam at 6
Sam at 6

we have our friends, chums we play with

As a young child, we have our friends, chums we play with.Our school buddies, our team mates in Little League all are just general acquaintances maybe at first until we bond and become friends.We compete in swimming class, flag football; very seldom do we grow to maturity with the same lot of friendships we acquired as children.Some times maybe one or two lifelong buddies become our friends, but more often than not we gain new friendships as we travel through life.Sometimes we marry our childhood friends, but mostly we form new relationships as we mature and move through school.College, the military, our jobs—our attitudes change as well as out circumstances.New situations normally bring new friendships.

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friends may or may not produce a lasting coalition or fraternity

These new situations and friends may or may not produce a lasting coalition or fraternity, and as in our childhood, these friends may also fall to the wayside unless something strong molds and bonds the relationships together.Childhood acquaintances were usually made visually when we first met, these playmates gradually grew into friends as they sat beside us in algebra class maybe or we played sports together.But today friendships are made sight unseen often times through the Internet, emails or even phone calls or faxes.We don’t get a chance to see if they are blonde or gray or even have hair at all for that matter.We call them by first name as if we know all about them and yet we couldn’t pick them out in a group of just two or three others.Some of our friends are halfway around the world in bizarre and exciting places.Yet we refer to them as friends, and rightly so because something joins or ties us all together, the internet.

...someone we will never see or meet yet still befriend

Business and the internet through web searching and social web sites have us conversing and asking and answering questions posed by like minded persons anywhere on earth as long as we have internet access. Our acquaintances we now call our friends.We really use the term loosely not knowing anything about our new ‘friends.’We say we ‘love’ our best friend… but do we love that one we send emails too, or the ones that read and comment on our ‘hubs’ that we’ve never physically met?

Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loveth at all times…” Can we say that about someone we’ve just met through the Internet?Is there a better word in the English language for us to use for someone we may never see or meet yet still befriend?

© 2010 SamSonS

Comments 28 comments

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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

Great Hub - It's good to have friends, but we must have discretion. No man is an Island. Best Wishes.


dreamreachout 6 years ago

Wonderful hub highlighting one of the most powerful emotion of human life!! I liked your last paragraph so much because here on hubpages, I have a group of dear friends and imagine that I am here only for the last five months!! Your first commentator on this hub is a very dear friend too!! True that we shall never meet but these friends are so dear to me!!

Cheers!!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks Lady_E & dreamreachout, for your friendship, your visit and your nice comments...


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tonks21 6 years ago from V-Town

so true! me and my childhood friend have known each other for 18 years!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks tonks21, sadly, I reminisce...


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billyaustindillon 6 years ago

Sam I am blessed to have some wonderful friends through good times and bad - I am a big believer you truly only find out when the times are tough. Some you thought would be great friends turn out not to be it is those surprise you that make it special.


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks billyaustindillion, for your friendship, your visit and your comments. So true, we need to choose wisely; I think many of us have been hurt by so-called friends - 'once bitten, twice shy'


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sarmack 6 years ago from Washington

Friends are such wonderful people to have in our lives. Thank you, friend, for your kind words on my hub! I, also, have voted you up and beautiful! Friends are Forever!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks sarmack, for your friendship, your visit and your kind remarks...


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Lgali 6 years ago

good hub we all hubbers are also good friends


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks Lgali, for your friendship, your visit and your comments...


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Laura45 6 years ago from Pennsylvania, USA

Good to remember we will have friends at different points of our lives..and that no matter what points of lives we make friends, they are our lighthouses for each other signaling beacons of friendship.


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks Laura45, for your friendship, your visit and your encouraging comments...


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BennyTheWriter 6 years ago from Northeastern U.S.A.

Very cool hub! You're right, "friendship" means different things at different times of our lives. I'm not sure how much I follow the concept of online friendship, but I know it can be incredibly fulfilling, just like any other human connection. In any case, I love getting to know good people, whether online or in the real world.


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drpastorcarlotta 6 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

GREAT HUB!!! For sure we know that God is our friend!!!! YES!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks BennyTheWriter & drpastorcarlotta for your friendship, your visit and your nice comments...


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matt6v33 6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

hello young man,

very nice "Food For Thought" u have truly been blessed with a great awsome wise Heart, in my subjective bias humble view. Keep Writing Sir. We Need U out here! I tell you for sure!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thank you matt6v33 for your friendship, your visit and your kind and gracious remarks...


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Ray Thoughts 6 years ago from The East Coast

There is an old Christian song that would fit this hub, "Friends are Friends Forever if The Lord is the Lord of Them." I'm sure that is not the title, just part of the Lyric. That was a good hub. Thanks!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thank you Ray for your visit and your comments...


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torconstantino 6 years ago from Maryland

Fantastic hub and very thought provoking. Very well done - voted up and awesome!


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samsons1 6 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks again Tor, your comments are most gracious as are your ratings...


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ValerieH 5 years ago

Very nice hub and it really made me think about my childhood friends and where they are now...a couple have died and most of them have gone their separate ways and I probably will never see them again. But our experiences with others especially good friends always leave great memories for us when we are feeling melancholy. Great thoughts here. Peace.


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samsons1 5 years ago from Tennessee Author

thank ValerieH for your visit and for sharing your reminisce and thoughts. The one thing that can not be taken from us are our memories.

peace and blessings to you...


Website Examiner 5 years ago

Indeed, the friendship concept has been somewhat inflated. Calling someone a "special friend" or the like on a comment on a hub just isn't my style, and never will be. This said, the absence of hostility of any kind is something that many people value to such a degree that they're eager to add to their list of "friends." Let's call it the Digital Stone Age Syndrome. Observant article.


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samsons1 5 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks Website Examiner for your visit and and for your insightful comments. I concur with your definition...


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debbie roberts 4 years ago from Greece

A thought provoking hub. The ease in which the word friend is used these days is something I am slightly uncomfortable with. It takes me quite sometime before I class someone a friend, that goes for people I come across on the internet too.

I like the fact that HubPages has followers and not friends. A true friendship takes time to develop, it's a mutual respect and understanding of one another, whether it's in everyday life or on the internet. I'm sure it won't be long before there is a word for people we befriend on the internet, I'm sure.

A good hub that I enjoyed reading. Thank you for sharing.


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samsons1 4 years ago from Tennessee Author

thanks so much debbie for stopping by and also for your comments. I too feel we tend to use the word 'friend' rather loosely as we also use 'love' in English. We 'love' another person and also 'love' chocolate ice cream, duh! We tend to use words 'lightly' sometimes, rather than with considered intention or interpretation...

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