Why Do We Always Hurt The Ones We Love?
HURTING THE ONES WE LOVE - WHY ?
No one wants to be hurt in life, but for some reason, I ask, "why do we always hurt the ones we love?
It seems really odd that the ones we love get hurt and may suffer with inner pain and then unfortunately some may suffer physical pain. Many of us may not even realize that we are hurting those we love and a lot of times I see complete strangers being treated better than the ones we hold so dear in our hearts.
Why do you think this happens? When you really think about it, it makes no sense and the fact that so many families have disagreements and arguments, but than again so do the stranger and you have the same. The difference is I think we think we can get away with such hurting in our families lives and with the stranger we seem to hash it out and end it .
Lets just take for an example: The alcoholic or the drug addict. Many of them, including myself, live in a world of addiction and most of us live in denial. The sad part about it is we don't even realize what we are doing to our families and friends. We are hurting the ones we love and not even realizing it.
They love us and want the best for us, but we the addicted don't see the true love and care from our loved ones all do to being blinded by our own addictions. As each drink is drank and each drug that's being used, we not only put one more nail in our coffin, but we put one more hurt in the hearts of the ones that we love and don't even realize it, or do we?
THINK BEFORE YOU DRINK
Before you head out to satisfy your addiction, stop and look around at the ones that love you and care about you, then ask yourself, "do I really want to put these people in harms way by my actions and addiction in my life?"
Do I want to hurt the ones I love by doing things that can be totally avoidable? If only I had the power to surrender and to stand up to this horrible addiction I have life will be so much better for myself and the people I love and hold close to my heart.
Your family and your friends are yours and my life and they can never be replaced. The problem is that many alcoholics and drug addicts replace their families and friends with alcohol or drugs, and by doing, these folks are suffering right along with the alcoholic or the drug addict. Think about it, is it really fair to hurt the people you love all over an addiction?
HOW MUCH DO YOU REALLY LOVE OTHERS
Many of us do really foolish and harmful things, and by doing so, we hurt the ones we love. Think about what you are doing, and who you doing it to, before you do whatever you may be thinking about doing, such as that next drink or the next high from your drug.
Look right into the eyes of the people you love and are hurting and you will be able to see their inner hurt and their cry for help for you to surrender to your addiction.
These things we do that may hurt the ones we love can be avoided if we only think about what we are about to hurt these people. In some cases, unfortunately, that person that you are about to hurt may not have even seen the light of day and is being hurt by our selfish and stupid actions. We all know exactly what I am speaking of just by looking at the photo to the right.
An innocent and precious child that is about to be born doesn't even have a chance at a clean life all because we as adults don't think before we drink or use. Think about who you are hurting before you do something you may most likely regret in the future.
Life is precious and so are the people in your life, so please act responsible in ever move you make so that you will not hurt the ones you love.
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