Why Women Can't Stand It When Men Wear Lingerie
This is in response to a question from a reader, a question which asked: Hope, Why is it that women get so belligerent with straight guys wanting to wear lingerie and or any woman's attire/ I don't see what the big deal is and do you feel anytime soon it will begin to become acceptable? Younger women don't seem to care as much! Why is that?
Ironically, or perhaps not ironically, two women had answered it before me, one spouting the false belief that men who like lingerie must be gay, and the other claiming that she liked manly men and that she couldn't handle the idea of a man wearing lingerie. Fortunately, if you are one of the hundreds of thousands of men who love wearing women's clothing, you don't have to be with either of them.
Usefully however, those two responses say it all. One, most women are entirely ignorant of the fact that men who like to wear women's lingerie are usually straight, and two, many women view men as little more than ken dolls. As I mentioned in my last hub, these impressions are not limited to women. There are also plenty of men who think that a woman must be a lesbian if she doesn't dress in a feminine fashion and there are plenty of men who can't stand it if women don't make an effort to be 'feminine' in their dress. I would say simply that these types of men and women deserve each other and are probably very happy with each other. Problems only arise when the men and women of the 'you are the gender you dress as' camp, meet people from the 'I don't give a damn how I dress' or the 'I like to wear the opposite gender's clothes' camp.
The question notes that younger women seem to be more accepting of men wearing women's clothing. I think that is probably because younger women are more accepting of everything in general. Liberal opinions often come hand in hand with youth. However, having said that, I am sure that there are just as many bigoted young ladies who would sneer at the idea of a man wearing panties as there are open minded young women who don't care.
It's a matter of a value judgment. Do you value a persons freedom of self expression, or are you too wrapped up in how people are 'supposed' to look. Without mincing words, women who can't handle men wearing women's lingerie are shallow. It's as simple as that They try to put the blame back on the men by saying that they must be gay, or that its just not right, but we know very well that most men who like lingerie are straight and that there is no such thing as 'right' when it comes to fashion.
Fashion is always changing and morphing. People who think that 'mens' or 'womens' fashion exist in terms of right or wrong simply don't understand fashion at all. They're living in the bubble of the world as it is at this exact point in time and they have little to no understanding of history.
The title of this hub is a little bit misleading, because many women can stand it just fine when men wear lingerie. There's some who can't and to be honest, they're not worth wasting your time with. Find a woman who loves you for you and either loves the fact that you wear lingerie or isn't bothered by it. Life is too short to waste your time with bigoted women who will never make the effort to understand you. Wearing 'womens' clothing is already acceptable, right here, right now. It's just a matter of associating with people who agree with you, love you and support you, not people who want to tear you down because you threaten their limited ideas of 'right' and 'wrong'.
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