Why Women Leave Men Who Wear Women's Clothing (Part Two)
This article continues on from Part One, which I advise you read first, unless you take a Tarantino approach to reading, in which case go ahead and read this first.
Problem Three | Maybe It's Not The Panties
If you have a healthy relationship, no woman is going to leave you because you wear panties. If your relationship is plagued with many problems, then wearing panties can become a helpful scapegoat which both parties can use when avoiding the real issues at hand. The female partner declares the man a freak, and the man declares her an intolerant bigot and they go their separate ways.
I must stress this point again. If women are leaving you repeatedly, it is not because of the panties. It may be because of behaviors related to the panties, if you prefer to express a feminine quality and your partner is not attracted to feminine qualities on a basic level, then you may be a poor match for one another. There may also be other issues in the relationship, money issues, trust issues, daddy issues, who knows.
When the 'panty' issue comes up again, examine your relationship for what is really going on. Is she feeling left out? Unloved? (It's easy for women to start feeling unloved, some women, actually, make that most women need daily reassurance in the form of kisses, cuddles and the like to reassure them you are still tight.) Are you worried about money issues? Is one of you undergoing a quarter or mid life crisis. Remember: panties alone will not end a relationship.
Problem Four | Non Consensual Panties
If dressing in female clothing makes you feel vulnerable and passive, there is nothing wrong with that, but some men who wear lingerie for these reasons can end up engaging their partners in a role play that their partners never signed on to, agreed to or are interested in. This problem ties into problem two, identity issues, but takes things to a whole 'nother level. Be honest with yourself, have you found yourself trying to manipluate your partner into treating you in a more feminine way? Have you, without her consent or knowledge, tried to fulfil some panty related desire? Women are not stupid, they know what you're doing and they don't appreciate it.
If you want to play the girl, then talk to your partner about it. If she refuses to play, then respect that. It is very damaging to use your partner like some walking talking toy of carnal delights.
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