Why Do Married Men Cheat On Their Wives?

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Why Married Men Cheat?

Why do married men cheat on their wives?

Ten signs to look for if your man is cheating.


1. Time- is he spending more time away from you? he could be avoiding you because your relationship has changed.

2. Computer- Is he spending more and more time on the computer? does he delete the screen, he is on when you come into the room?

3. Phone calls- Is he getting strange phone calls late at night? Is he leaving the room to answer these calls? Does he have a phone calling card?

4. Chatting- Is he going into chat rooms in the computer, you may find this no big deal! Just talking right? Have you ever been in a chat room check it out and see for yourself if, Is it just chatting? Sure it is ?

5. Time- Does he come home late and have a time issue? Stuck in traffic Sorry I had to work late tonight honey. Lots of excuses of why he cannot seem to make it home on time? This is a sure sign that something is not right.

6. Defensive- Does he get really defensive and judgemental when you ask him questions? Does he put the blame on you?

7. Sex- Is he still having sex with you? Has his behavior in this matter changed. Is he too tired. Just not interested in making love with you? has he kissed you passionately lately?

8. Lying- are you catching him in lies and you feel like your going crazy?

9. Bills- Is he grabbing the mail before you get home. Is he making sure you don't get a good look at them.

10. Dressing- how is he dressing? Is he dressing better? Wearing cologne for a change. Is he concerned more about his appearance? Working out more? Has his habits changed in this regard?



Keep your man Happy at home


Listen up ladies look out for the signs and keep your man happy at home so he doesn't stray.

Things to do to make your man happy at home.

Men are easy ladies, they just want a few things from their women. Here is what they want most in a relationship.


1. Men are visual- Try and look your best. Don't let yourself go. Do your hair and make-up. Get rid of the granny panties and wear something sexy for them.

2.Sex- and lots of lovemaking. They are passionate too but they want to feel loved and this is number one on the list. If he is not getting it WATCH OUT!!! he will stray.


3. Support- They want their woman to be supportive to listen and communicate. No nagging big turnoff.They want your love and support. Listen to them if you don't, watch out because they may find someone else to pour their heart out too. DO NOTLET THIS HAPPEN!


4. Love- Show them! They like actions more than words. A nice back rub, a tender kiss on the lips it doesn't take much to show them.


5. FOOD- They want a nice Home-cooked meal. You don't have to cook everyday but at least 3 times a week is good. Get to a mans heart through his stomach.


6. They want a nice clean home to come home too!

Why do men cheat? The main reason is because they are lacking something at home that their wife is not providing. Some men are never satisfied and are pathological cheaters. Not all men cheat but when they become unhappy in the relationship they can become vulnerable to outside influences. The temptation and excitement of something new may make them stray. Keep your relationship alive. Men and women who have been married along time can get used to a routine. Don't get into a routine,keep it fresh and alive. It takes two to keep it going. It starts with the person in the mirror, when you start to change, your relationship will change.

Theseare just 10 signs to look for. Don't start accusing him, keep yourself a log. If he is and you ask him he might just deney it. If you want your man back, don't let your busy every day life prevent you from spending time with your man. Men are not hard to figure out. When you show them love and respect it will only come back to you as well. These are just some tips to help.


7. Don't spend all the money.  Keep a household budget in place so you don't put your man in the poorhouse.



Sincerely,


Sandy


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Comments 37 comments

Alex 6 years ago

Great job Sandy!

You got lots of common sense!

And you are right! We are not hard to figure out!


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

Thanks Alex


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elf_cash 6 years ago

Great hub! That second top 5 list is right on the money. If a woman can manage to do all of those things at the same time, she will have one happy husband.


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

Thanks! Well I think most women can manage if they want to keep their marriage to be a Happy one.


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PineappleLove 6 years ago from My mind

I loved it! Kept me interested the whole time. Great work.

PineappleLove


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

Thanks very much!


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

Oh I love it. This is so so true. Do not ignore the warning signs women out there. :)


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Ben Better 6 years ago from NORTH CAROLINA www.chain-writers.com

Good advice and interesting point of view. Would love for you to read my Hub and comment. thanks jim http://hubpages.com/relationships/INFIDELITY-IN-RO...


Bekah 5 years ago

You should never blame a woman for her husbands infidelity. A man is just as responsible for keeping the relationship alive as the woman is.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Iam not blaming the woman but a man will stray if his needs are not met. This is what to look for!


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DannyMaio 5 years ago from New York

Very good article! hope many people read it. Thanks


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Thank you!


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LeanMan 5 years ago from At the Gemba

I've always found that the main reason for straying is that women around me make themselves just too available!! Maybe i just mix with the wrong (right?) women!

But it takes two - there are as many women straying as men... or are all the men straying with the same woman??

However I am now old enough and mature enough to realise that my current wife is the best in the world and I will not risk losing her for a quick unsatisfying fumble..


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING! YOU ARE ABSOULTELY RIGHT! THERE ARE MANY WOMEN CHEATING TOO. LIKE YOU SAID WHY RISK LOSING THE BEST WIFE IN THE WORLD! YOUR WIFE IS BLESSED!


NOT A MAN HATER 5 years ago

I am so tired of hearing what all the woman has to do. The man made a commitment to you for better or worse. Just stroke there ego a bit, please. Its just an excuse for a man to cheat. Its all about making a choice to decide what is right or wrong. He can change his appears for another woman but not you?


mel 5 years ago

your article was informative but nothing new, however I wouild disagree with this is all a woman needs to do. I am in the divorce legal field and trust me, a man can have the most beautiful attentive wife in the world and if she throws aways his hard earned money he will divorce her. Also, what about the things a man needs to do, like hygiene, manners and help around the house that makes a woman want to take better care of her man. Marriage is a two way street to be a happy relationship. Both parties have to give 75 percent, not 50 to have a good marriage.


kellie 5 years ago

THis article is geared toward pleasing the husband but what about that wife tht stayed at home and raised the kids while he worked and later found out that he had been cheating on her in lieu of those "late nights at work". Instead of finding someone to do what he felt he was not getting at home, how about coming home and relieving her of Mommy duty for a while, maybe he is not getting what he needds from her bcause she is to exhausted by the time he gets home to stroke his eagle. ITS NOT ABOUT HIM, ITS ABOUT THE FAMILY HE HELP CREATE N HAS COMMITTED TO!!! just saying....


GiveMeABrake 5 years ago

So tired of hearing "What the woman can do". How about what he can do. He has the personality/moral deficiency. Why cater to his ego and the deficiency, isn't that what he's getting on the side. Not until therapists tell men to grow up,to not blame the wives, to be the men they're supposed to be,to not fall for all the flattery from women who are looking for $$$ (raise,job, status). Just think what it would be like if men just said NO. Then, wives wouldn't be told to act like the women who lure their husbands to fantasyland.


celiaeb@hotmail.com 5 years ago

Funny to find this article in the news....

there are opinions that forllow the article


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

I APPRECIATE ALL THE COMMENTS A CHEATER WILL ALWAYS PUT THE BLAME ON YOU WHEN IN FACT THEY KNOW THEY ARE WRONG. SOMETIMES IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW ATTENTIVE OR ATTRACTIVE YOU ARE. IT IS FOR BETTER OR WORSE BUT LET'S FACE IT, WHEN NEEDS ARE NOT MET THERE IS TEMPTATION. I THINK THAT IS WHY THE DIVORCE RATE IS SO HIGH.


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trusouldj 5 years ago from Indiana

Great blog Sandy. LL Cool J said it best, "I Need Love". Unfortunately some women feel "I have him now, so I don't have to do those things. He's not going anywhere."


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Good Point! Thanks for the comment!


disappointed 5 years ago

I am sorry but it does often come down to selfishness we went from sex 3 to 4 times per week in the first year of our mariage to 7 to 8 times per year. I asked if there was something i could do or if there was something I did and we had sex a few times then nothing again. I travel for work so the opportunity is always there and women are way more forward than men are. i have refused flirting and advances but i really am getting sick of it time to move on I am resentful and growing more bitter when I approached it again I was told if i didn't like it i had options. we have a teen and a preteen and i dont believe that gives me many options unless i am willing to risk my relationship with my kids. the other day she asked what was wrong and I didn't even say anything i just sighed and she said oh that again is that all you ever think about. I am not an adonas but I'm not a bad looking guy i have lost weight and am in pretty good shape. i also have a great career and am respected in my community for being honest forthright and hardworking. I asked if we could do counseling she said i needed counseling and i should let her know how it goes. She in the mean time has let herself go and doesn't really care its like she has already checked out not what I signed up for at all. Im stuck and i dont think she cares if i cheat or not. guess i should just have at it and say to hell with it.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Hi!Disappointed I can understand your frustration. Your wife sounds angry. Could she be resentful because of your job and the traveling? The career could be the reason. It's like the other woman even though you are hard working and doing nothing wrong. Work hard at your marriage and keep trying. Try talking and more communication find out why she feels this way LISTEN to her. Having an affair isn't the answer to solving your problem. Go to the counseling without her and hopefully she will see and this may change her mind. Trust me I have been there!


disappointed 5 years ago

we went to a marriage counselor i am exhausted. this is tough i found out that I should just give her time I think i have been giving her all the time in the world. We approached my career and this didn't seem to be factor my wife trusts me annd the counselor said that early in the session she noticed that my wife acted indifferent to my travel almost as if she liked when I was gone. She asked my wife where she felt she had developed her selfish attitude toward intimacy. She asked her to think about it before our next session on the way home my wife asked if the lady thought she was at fault. I didn't exactly get that read on it and i told her so but she said she didn't like her. She is just trying to help and do her job. she wasn't this cold when we met but she sure is now.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Hi! Disappointed I don't know your wife but it sounds like she has fallen out of love with you. Rent the movie "Fireproof" with Kirk Cameron it is a few years old and watch it with your wife. If she will not watch it, I suggest you watch it alone. I have been there and things will get better. You need to reconnect with your wife. Most people give up and get divorced. Remember your vows for better and worse. If you get divorced and have problems with someone else, than what? Another divorce? The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Keep trying. Please keep me posted. God Bless!!!


disappinted 5 years ago

we talked about cheating and she said she could care less if i found someone to take care of it she would be fine with it. i cannot do that i am not an adulterer. i will get divorced first.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Hi! Disappointed that it just horrible for her to say that. Did you rent the movie "Fireproff"? Feeling unloved and not wanted is not the way a marriage should be. Go to counseling for yourself and do things you enjoy get involved. Ask her, and if she declines go without her. Any woman would love to be with a confident self supporting man with a great career. I wouldn't stay married and have affairs it is considered adultry. If you do get divorced take time to heal and don't jump into a relationship. Take time for yourself.


Lissa 4 years ago

I'm newly married,5 months. Love him w all my heart Keep an immaculate house,nice dinners,sexy lingerie,give him a ton of attention and have caught him on dating sites. He gets furious,deletes the accounts,tells me he couldn't live without me.then a week or so goes by and he's hiding phone and I find him on another dating site. Any suggestions ?


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sandylongman 4 years ago Author

Are you intimate emotionally?? Try communicating more by text email have a date night.If this still continues I would have a heart to heart and tell him you will not tolerate his behavior and does he really want to be married? You should not feel like you cant trust him in only 5 months of marriage.


primrose_kate 4 years ago

hi there my husband cheated me in the first year of our marriage until now.. we are already 9 years married... but i always forgive him.. and now i caught him again, and he had a 1year relationship already with that girl.. he promised me again not to cheat on me again, and told me that i will help him also to change.. do you think he really want to change? how can i help him.. thank you so much.


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sandylongman 4 years ago Author

Hi! I think that it he is broken and only marriage counseling can help if you want to forgive him and take him back. You can't change him. He has to want to stay faithful if he truly loves you he should respect you and the marriage. Is he sorry? Ask yourself, when is it enough? Only you can answer this question. In the Bible it is justified if you want to divorce when your husband is cheating.


Dottie 4 years ago

I will not contribute to this question with out touch upon truth & truth has its orgin..so it returns to the beginning for all of us who answer this age -old question. Truth..so here it goes..

I strongly believe that each spouse should keep each other happy. See the key words there? Even during the engagement. I am a female, and females this is one way how you can ruin a marriage. It starts at the very beginning, when you meet. Lay out all the dirty things that you have done or are struglling with on the table and demand that the other must do the same before this can go forward.

Use you engagement to find out what this person is all about. DO NOT be naïve to actually BELIEVE that you will KNOW everything about your mate during this time. If your imperfect love is real, then BOTH of YOU will find it WISE to wait.

Another thing, keep your girl friends out of your business as well as for the spouse , keep your friends and family out of the marriage. If yu are marriage in a traditional format, then, be committed to that format. Whenever you ask for a pastor , it is for a reason. GOD is involved in this union. GOD is not someome who throws the rice or is some smiling pop on the side of ignorance.

Getting married is BIGGER than you first house, the wedding itself, or even the baby. In all of the information and choices that our own parents did not have, YOU have church, borders, counseling (all of your city), you have most resources that your parents or even your grandparents did not have. There is NO excuse for not knowing whether you are going to have a baby. Babies ARE PLANNED. You look at your reality and do not play "gee I do not want to hurt my spouse game" because that game explodes in your faces immediately. the "gee, I was only trying to make so-and -so happy" is called the COP OUT, it is a way for either spouse NOT to take responsibility for their own poor choices instead of thinking it through to the best of your ability in the first place. Babies do not just come. If any of you have been in high school in the last 30 years, you have been taught in sex education how the reproductive system works. Know how your body works and THEN have children,

Don't have children because you believe that you are going to produce a genius or that you want to fit in to the status quo. Your children were not born for your plan and your plan alone. Raise your children TOGETHER, set a plan together on how your children should be raised. Keep your expectancy at the minimum (2-3) just because you are makin a lot of money doe not mean to keep having children.

ALWAYS think of the possible future. The truth is that nothing lasts forever. Your job, your marriage or own life, your house NOTHING. If you believe me to be a pessimist or a wet towel , it is your choice, but the fact is, these things will happen.

Lying about who you are and how you spend your money or how lazy you really are will destroy the marriage. If you are over sexed, you are definitely NOT ready to be married. That pornograph (forget about the both of you "liking" it) WILL KILL the MARRIAGE. TEMPTATION is the NUMBER ONE LEADING CAUSE of the fact of why businesses do not work, friendships, and marriages.

The wedding: Ladies , sorry to tell you...IT IS NOT YOUR DAY AND YOUR DAY ALONE.

You have to be airheads to even go there with that. Keep believing that and your marriage will either end in death, misery, cheating and everything ugly than you can possibly imagine.

If you love one another, you will know that the wedding is about celebrating and sanctifying your commitment in PUBLIC. IT is NOT YOUR day. It is between you and your spouse. It is NOT about your stupid braidsmaid dresses or the cakes or any of that. sure you want this even to be beautiful and memorable, but the reality is that once you are married you are hitting the ground running.

TO The enegaged and the married had better clear this up now, if you have overlooked the MOST important nutrient in the marriage. HONESTY, COMMITMENT, LOVE , no stealing from the bank accounts, no lying about your job or what shift should be taken within the job.

Both people should be working and you PLAN to have kids at least FIVE years about the marriage. If your clock is ticking faster than you desire, make sure that the BOTH of you want this child and that there is not a hint of MOM manipulating a child to later get a divorce and take the money. Dad's this is not war games, do not use your child as a pawn because you are ticked at the out come of the marriage. Bottom libe, have children when you have plenty of love and time and means to give to this child. They did not ask for you to bring them into this hateful , unemployed, no privacy, derelict, school shooting world. THINK before you have children. Stop using television as your blueprint. Entertainment is just what you are getting. Use, alternative means to educated your children. Make learning extremely fun. Stop teaching your kids to compete, this will also destroy a marriage. ALL of these things are connected. If there is marital abuse, make a plan, a plan 1 year before the escape. Go underground. Tell people, record the events, hire a private investigator to watch what is happening in your lives. Tell friends and neighbors (if any of this is fake, you will go to prison, so try not to be crafty and use these emergency directions for harming a spouse you happen not to like.

Marriage is EXTREMELY sacred, you treat it that way until one of you dies and you treat the ones you remarry the same exact way.

Many of us do not deserve to even get married. It was never about that dress or that major send. This is just is a CELEBRATION it is not the MARRIAGE. A MARRIAGE and a WEDDING are TWO very different aspects of the union.

Save that money and make sure that your spouses share the very precise outlook on money. Set a limit to all of your money. Start a permanent joint accunt wher each spouse honestly invest 100.00 a month each. If you cannot afford that, decrease in denominations of 25.00.

If you are starting out, 25/month into the joint is fair (if you are younger than 30). ALways make it clear with a banker, a professional that your money has to be monitore because there is ALWAYS one spouse who either goes over board or lays 1000 rules why they had to sneak into the account. Paying it back is the dumbest thing because each spouse harms themselves if they have to "pay it back". The number oe destruction to a marriage is MONEY. It isn't because of the money itself, it has to do with respect and honor, and keeping your word, and planning for an uncertain future. MOST couples are dirt stupid about the importance of saving and investing and responsibility. OFTEN there is one spouse who destroys the plan, out of severe stupidity AND how they were raised. This is what the ENGAGEMENT is for. You can't hide who you realy are during the engagement. The MAX time for an engagemet is TWO YEARS.

MARRIAGE IS SERIOUS and can change your life for the better and for the worst.

ALL of us had better take that seriously right now. It DOES NOT MATTER what YOU AND YOU alone wants. Marriage makes or breaks the entire family (even when the marriage is between the three (you, spouse and GOD) When You take VOWS BEFORE GOD, do not play with these vows, even if you don't take them before GOD, you are messing around with a spiritual unity and believe me, if you do not take this seriously and you do what you want to do, THEN watch for how the marriage will take care of you. Keep your damned vows even when you do not feel like it. Stop being over sexed and reaching back to the good old days. If you cannot handle strife or disappointment (DON'T GET MARRIED). There is not such trash as "happily ever after" or "fairy tales" or mr. right and wrong, this is foolish talk that comes from a bunch of talking heads and books and junk stacks of old wives tales. GET WITH THE PROGRAM. The two of you will get old (you'll love each other or you won't) and if you only got married because of the appearance of another, you are in for another rude awakening. BOTH of YOU will age.


Dottie2 4 years ago

THIS IS RE-DRAFT FROM THE ORIGINAL SUBMISSION:WARNING, THE DIRECTNESS OF THIS COMMENT MAY ELICIT GREAT ANGER...AS TRUTH OFTEN DOES, PLEASE READ WITH DISCERNMENT AND CAUTION.

I will not contribute to this question with out touch upon truth & truth has its origin..so it returns to the beginning for all of us who answer this age -old question. Truth..so here it goes..

I strongly believe that each spouse should keep each other happy. See the key words there? Even during the engagement. I am a female, and females this is one way how you can ruin a marriage. It starts at the very beginning, when you meet. Discern and lay out all of your closeted imperfections that you have done or are struggling with on the table and demand that the other must do the same before this can go forward.

Use your engagement to find out what this person is all about. DO NOT be naïve to BELIEVE that you will KNOW everything about your mate during this time. If your imperfect love is real, then BOTH of YOU will find it WISE to wait.

Another thing, keep your girl friends out of your business as well as for the spouse, keep your friends and family out of the marriage. If you are marriage in a traditional format, then, be committed to that format.

Whenever you ask for a pastor, it is for a reason. GOD is involved in this union. GOD is not someone who throws the rice or is some smiling pop on the side of ignorance.

Getting married is BIGGER than your first house, the wedding itself, or even the baby. In all of the information and choices that our own parents did not have, YOU have church, E-books, counseling (all of your city), you have most resources that your parents or even your grandparents did not have.

There are NO excuses for not knowing whether you are going to have a baby. Babies ARE PLANNED (this message is for both white and black women--ALL races). There is no one race who behaves this way, this too, is an upbringing of the individual parents who , THEN, raise the same groups of people into believing a certain way of thinking. Believe me, this is my answer to the “why men cheat”. oh, and it gets better!

Look at your own reality(and stop COMPARING what your lives should be) STOP playing, "gee I do not want to hurt my spouse’s feelings" because that game WILL explode in your face immediately. The "gee, I was only trying to make so-and -so happy" is called “I-was-trained-to-be-irresponsible-by-one of-my parents”.It is a way for either spouse NOT to take responsibility for their own poor choices instead of thinking it through to the best of your ability in the first place.

Babies do not just suddenly arrive. If that is the case, how come we know to wear condoms and vaginal rings when we aren’t married and having casual sex before marriage? This is such the back end of wrong thinking, in fact manipulative and PG-13 thinking. If any of you have been in high school in the last 30 years, you have been taught in sex education how the reproductive system works. Know how your body works and THEN have children,

Don't have children because you believe that you are going to produce a genius or that you want to fit in to the status quo. Your children were not born for your plan and your plan alone. Raise your children TOGETHER, set a plan together on how your children should be raised.

Keep your expectancy at the minimum (2-3). Just because you are making a lot of money does not mean to keep having children. This INCLUDES every single race across the planet. No one group will ever be zeroed in on in this answer. There is no such thing as only this race behaves this way and on and on the finger pointing goes. I have travelled too much to know better than to actually with foolish glee to think that ONE race behaves this way.

ALWAYS think of the possible future. The truth is that nothing lasts forever. Your job, your marriage or own life, your house NOTHING. If you believe me to be a pessimist or a wet towel , it is your choice, but the fact is, these things will happen.

Lying about who you are and how you spend your money or how lazy you really are will destroy the marriage. If you are over sexed, you are definitely NOT ready to be married. That pornography (forget about the both of you "liking" it) WILL KILL the MARRIAGE. TEMPTATION is the NUMBER ONE LEADING CAUSE of the fact of why businesses do not work, friendships, and marriages. Stop gawking and calling every half-dressed body of someone young enough to be your sibling as “hot”. Gawking at others (both men & women) has gone FAR beyond “I’m just looking and it is innocent”. No one ever just “looks”. There is a stepping out of boundary in this activity. Who cares what the reason.

This is why men and women are getting killed for “looking” or having an “emotional” relationship with others. Even the Bible says that a man who commits adultery ruins his own life and there are no bribes to make it right. This is towards the end of Proverbs written thousands of years ago!

Yes, “hot” is right, because when you BOTH get burned, that fantasy will end in a litany of poverty, coldness and in a world where NO one care about the woes of your life because they are too busy being worried about their own lives.

The wedding: Ladies , sorry to tell you...IT IS NOT YOUR DAY AND YOUR DAY ALONE. This kills the longevity of the marriage, this is the disease of your marriage. This is your day, not “my” day. The ugly behaviors during the wedding is the beginning of the end. When the bride acts ugly and then we make programs about “Bridezilla” seems to allow the destruction of a marriage. Why do we allow a woman to act like a schizoid brat and to celebrate her bitchiness. Does it help the marriage? It plants seeds at the very beginning and when the bride acts this way and her family and friends think it great, she only destroys the rest of her own marriage to go on acting like that when the guests aren’t around. Men can feel hemmed it and even trapped and will do any thing to get out of this night mare. Cheating originates from many, many issues. It is usually from what two people are allowing from outside forces to interfere in the marriage and sometimes, there is a bent spouse (the man or the woman) who makes things to be unbearable for each of them. Also, the number one thing is LYING. Both men and women LIE and this can cause a man to cheat. This does not Justify a darn thing. These are the reasons and what to do to prevent them. Sometimes, the woman is unreasonable and materialistic and the man wants another woman who happens to be the opposite. Sometimes the spouse is bent. It can be many things , particularly things that the couple shoves UNDER the bed , rather than to talk about it before they go to bed.

You have to be airheads to even go there with that “I am innocent”. Keep believing that and your marriage will either end in death, misery, cheating and everything ugly than you can possibly imagine.

If you love one another, you will know that the wedding is about celebrating and sanctifying your commitment in PUBLIC. IT is NOT YOUR day. It is between you and your spouse.

It is NOT about your stupid bridesmaid dresses or the cakes or any of that. Sure you want this even to be beautiful and memorable, but the reality is that once you are married you are hitting the ground running.

TO: All who are engaged: Get Scared. Marriage changes every thing, even you and even your husband to be. Sometimes, you or the soon to be spouse has no clue why they have changed or what exactly changed them. The engaged and the married had better clear this up now, if you have overlooked the MOST important nutrient in the marriage. HONESTY, COMMITMENT, LOVE, no stealing from the bank accounts, no lying about your job or what shift should be taken within the job. In order to keep your finances straight and to obtain jobs, YES LOVE runs the whole marriage. Without real LOVE, you cannot keep the other issues in order, you just can’t. Love does bring in the money because when you Love , you care, when you care, you do your best, when you Love, your thinking is sound and you tend less to decide on idiot outcomes which lead you straig


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sandylongman 4 years ago Author

Hi! Dottie your very wise! Thanks for the comments!


disappointed 4 years ago

having fun i dont care about sex as i am having plenty of it my mistress is 2 years older than me and it is very hot my wife might actually know she just doesn't care. her friends ask her if we are even still together one of her friends even called me to ask if all was well i simply said yes great. whatever 2 and a half years and the kids will be in college. I will file for divorce and move on till then. Conselor in our last session said she felt we should try this and that but my wife doesn't care so i am discontinueing sessions. my suggestion for men is life is too short and it is good to feel wanted so get that feeling most women arent worth the one sided effort.


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sandylongman 4 years ago Author

That's too bad why cheat? Why not get a divorce now! I guess most people give up on marriage but I tell myself that my marriage is worth it. We have had our ups and downs but I know one thing is for sure I do love my husband and know that through all the storms that come through I will always be on top of the wave. When you cheat you are cheating on yourself. When problems come in people just file for divorce instead of solving their problems.

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