Why older women like younger men: Reasons why women become cougars

Why do women like younger men? Why would an older woman want to date a younger guy? Why do women become cougars and what makes a woman fancy a toy boy who is younger to her by a decade? Answering these questions is not necessarily as direct as answering - 'why do older men like younger women?' This post looks at some of the deeper reasons why a woman in her thirties or forties may seek a relationship with a man in his twenties.


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1) Men of their age may not be as attractive and handsome

Age is not kind to anyone. Wrinkles and beer bellies are just some of the obvious signs of ageing which add years to a man's look. A woman may date a younger man if she feels that men of her age are not as attractive or handsome any more.


This applies especially to women who have not allowed the years take toll on their bodies by being motivated to work out and stay fit. They may feel that they are compromising by going out with a man who is their age, but looks at least a decade older. She would rather date a man who is a decade younger but looks almost her age.


2) Being in charge: Advantage of increased relationship experience over her toy boy lover

An older woman will have more relationship experience than her young lover. This makes the woman feel more capable of handling the ups and downs of a relationship. She will derive pleasure in knowing that she is in charge of the relationship.


A young guy may also not mind the woman taking charge in the relationship as long as her behavior does not come across as annoying or nagging. This is a win-win situation for the younger man and the older woman.


3) Advantage of taking the lead in the bedroom

A woman in her 30's or 40's could be married but living separately, divorced, or never married but been in and out of many relationships. In either of these situations, the woman is likely to have had much more experience in the bedroom than her toy boy lover.


Dating gets very difficult for women as they age. A woman may be able to confidently enter a relationship with a younger guy knowing that she has had more experience in the bedroom than him. There are no insecurities and the fear of not living up to expectations is transferred from the older woman to the younger guy.


4) Men of their age are generally married or in a relationship

Lack of choice is a real hindrance for a woman in her late thirties and forties. Many older women date younger guys simply because most men of their age are either married, in a relationship or not bothered at all.


An older woman may naturally start dating a guy who is younger than her because of this reason. Yet, she will be called a cougar because the term itself points to women who date men younger than them by many years.


The rut of life can frustrated any individual after some years. Dating a younger man could be a way of letting off some steam.
The rut of life can frustrated any individual after some years. Dating a younger man could be a way of letting off some steam.

5) To get the feeling of being young and youthful again

When a woman dates a younger guy, she is exposed to a life that she would have virtually forgotten about. The playful romance, romantic outings and youthful love can make her feel like she is reliving her twenties.


The presence of a younger man will also keep a woman updated with the latest trends, helping her become trendier. She will get to keep up with the latest in music, movies, fashion and media – something which she never had a chance while being burdened by the responsibilities of marriage, children and work.


6) Experiencing the thrill of dating a younger guy

Everyone likes to let off some steam after working hard or being stuck in a short rut. There are many ways of doing this and one of them is to do something that others don't approve of. This concept is similar to the mentality of a child or a toddler, who will always go for the candy that he or she is not allowed to eat.


The elusive nature of having a relationship with a younger man can attract an older woman who is looking for something that will thrill her and completely change her life.


7) The feeling of dictating matters of finance in the relationship

Cougars are typically shown in popular culture as women who have more money than their younger male partners. This is because the woman presumably has worked for many years and is in a very healthy financial situation.


She can buy her younger lover gifts, take him out on dates and even take him shopping. This thrill of taking the lead in money matters may be quite an exciting and nurturing feeling for the older woman.


8) Younger guys are less serious and more fun

Single men in their thirties and forties can be burdened by many responsibilities. Mortgage payments, alimony payments, pressure at work, credit card debts and children from previous relationship are just some of the things that take the fun out of an older single man's approach to life.


In comparison, men in their twenties have fewer things to worry about. This makes them more fun-loving and spontaneous. Younger men will be willing to go out for that midnight pizza without worrying about an early morning the next day or they will happily party on a weekday without fussing about a hangover on the next.


A younger man will also be relatively less occupied, making him readily available for impromptu dates. All these things make a relationship with a younger man a lot less serious and a lot more fun.


A relationship with a younger guy may be seen as a way of bringing the spark back in the bedroom.
A relationship with a younger guy may be seen as a way of bringing the spark back in the bedroom.

9) Bringing the excitement back in the bedroom

Dating a younger guy can spice things up in the bedroom. A woman who has just stepped out of a loveless marriage may feel the need to get the groove back in the bedroom.


While this is generally not the sole reason why older women like younger guys, rediscovering what it feels to be loved and cherished by a man can make a woman prolong her relationship with her toy boy.


10) To feed the ego and self-esteem: Proving that she still looks attractive

An older woman may look forward to dating a younger man to passively feed her ego and self-esteem. Knowing that she can easily attract a guy many years younger to her will make her feel more beautiful.


A woman in her late thirties or forties will obviously feel smitten when a man who is a decade younger compliments her for her looks. It will make her forget the age difference because she will fell like the prettiest woman in the world when a younger man finds her attractive.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Good reasons for why women become cougars, well in detail and informative tips


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bernard.sinai 3 years ago from Papua New Guinea

Does stamina count?

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