Working wife vs. homemaker!

‘Sometimes when you are a great mom, you're not so great at your job. And then when you're good at your job, you're not so great of a mom or a good wife. It's a dance that never stops. But it's beautiful.’ –Gisele Bundchen

The debate whether a homemaker is better than a working wife or whether the working wife has an upper hand continues to this day. There is one section of people who say that family needs a woman to be at home to look after her husband and children, while there is another section of people who feel that a working woman can make her family more financially secure.

A homemaker feels that a working woman is very lucky to escape the tiredness of doing the never ending household chores. But a working woman has a different story to tell! She feels that a homemaker has all the time in the world to relax and enjoy life while she has slaves in the work place as well as at home.

Let us look at the two diversified world of women!

The world of a working woman!

You feel you are more valuable than a homemaker. ‘I have to work and feel tired and famished by my hectic life style of long working hours and coming home for yet another load of household chores. But a homemaker can do anything she wants at her own sweet time’. You are sure that you are more worthy!

Being a working woman has given you the confidence to face life with assertiveness. You contribute to the betterment of your family and you buy your children the best things available in the market. You help your husband financially and the earnings of both make you afford many good things the world has to offer.

You have a say in family decisions and get equal rights from your husband. But the negative point is that your tiredness makes you lack the energy to interact with your husband or your children. With your nerves crawling alarmingly in fatigue you tend to yell at your spouse and children without reason.

The world of a homemaker!

‘Well, she might work, but I also slave at home. She is paid for her work, but there is no remuneration for me. I have to maintain my house with the income my husband brings and it is nerve wracking to make two ends meet’.

You are right that you do so much of service for the family without expecting anything in return. You are there at home when your children return from school\college and you spend quality time with them. You cater to the needs of your husband better and he loves you for it.

Now who is better?

The homemaker or a working woman!

Let us see the pros and cons of both sides!

What are pros of a working woman?

  • You contribute to the financial well being of the family.
  • You assist your husband in maintaining a good standard of living.
  • You are respected by your in laws and your husband because of your assertiveness.
  • Your children need not crave for good things in life as you can afford it.

What are the cons of a working woman?

  • You become too independent and do not want to listen to your husband.
  • You are heated up by work related tension and find it easy to start arguments with him.
  • You do not spend quality time with your family and your children long for your presence.
  • There are lots of ego clashes between you and your husband.

What are the pros of a homemaker!

  • You take care of your family with more sincerity
  • You look after your children in a better way.
  • You do not have that much of ego clashes with your husband.

What are the cons of a homemaker?

  • Your children yearn for good things which you could have afforded if you were working.
  • Your husband struggles to maintain the family within his income as he is the sole contributor.
  • You feel you are being taken advantage and your husband treats you with scant respect.
  • You lack the confidence of a working woman.

As you can see both have your own advantages and disadvantages. It does not matter whether you work or not. It is how you make your marriage work that matters. You can be working and also be efficient enough to look after your family. You are indeed a treasure if you know how to balance between work and family.

A homemaker is selfless and more inclined to the family needs but the world as a whole has turned mercenary and you cannot afford to sit back and relax. You need financial stability to survive in this harsh world.

A working wife wins over a homemaker in certain respects. Unless there is money you cannot enjoy a good life style and the income of one person is not enough to maintain a family. You become more confident and assertive when you work and if you combine the good qualities of a homemaker you win the debate as the better of the two.

© 2014 mathira

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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

A housewife is a working wife in my opinion, often times working much harder. :)


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dashingscorpio 2 years ago

Not all housewives are married to men who can't afford to take care of the family financially. A woman who wants to be a fulltime housewife would be smart to find a husband who is rich or financially well off.

Life is a personal journey. Each of has the right to choose our own path. Whether a woman elects to be a career woman or housewife all that really matters is she is living her life on her terms.

One man's opinion! :-)


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean

No matter which role the woman is in, there are pros and cons as you rightly pointed out. The big deal is their contribution to the children. Not all housewives do justice to them; some working moms do very well. If each meets the needs of the family as best she can, Cheers to her. Good insights as usual in your article.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

billy, very true. I cannot even hope to do the work of my grandmother. She had four children and fifteen grandchildren to feed when we all go there for vacation. I never saw her grumble.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

Yes, MsDora, it all depends on the individual and as you say lots of working women do justice to both family and work.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

dashing scorpio, thank you for your comments and yes, life in indeed a personal journey and there can be no generalization.


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daydreamer13 2 years ago

I really like this hub.I can appreciate both sides. Both women have important and tiring jobs but they both also have their rewards. It really comes down to what works best and makes them happiest for their families. As always mathira, well done!


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

I received a refrigerator magnet from a friend that says, "All mothers are working mothers!" I agree wholeheartedly! One is not necessarily "better" than the other, they both have their challenges. No matter what a woman does, as long as she is a wife and mother, she has many demands on her time and energy. There is no right or wrong answer here. Every woman must consider her own situation, along with the assistance of her family, to determine an appropriate course of action.


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MG Singh 2 years ago from Singapore

Nice post. I agree with you


Neckie 2 years ago

This was an interesting article. I have to disagree on a few points, however.

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You have a say in family decisions and get equal rights from your husband. But the negative point is that your tiredness makes you lack the energy to interact with your husband or your children. With your nerves crawling alarmingly in fatigue you tend to yell at your spouse and children without reason.

* I am a SAHW and actually make most of the family decisions alongside my husband.*

The world of a homemaker!

You contribute to the financial well being of the family.

*Stay at home wives do this as well! we have one car for example. I cook from scratch 99% of the time! pack his lunch! and do all errands freeing up my husband's leisure time and most of our weekends.*

You assist your husband in maintaining a good standard of living.

*see above response*

You are respected by your in laws and your husband because of your assertiveness.

* I am a stay at home wife who is generally more assertive than my husband. My husband respects me immensely as I do him. Moreover, Earning the respect of my in-laws has never been an issue for me. They may or may not like me and that is none of my concern.*

Your children need not crave for good things in life as you can afford it.

* we don't want kids, but the "good things" in life differ according to ones values.*

What are the cons of a working woman?

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What are the cons of a homemaker?

Your husband struggles to maintain the family within his income as he is the sole contributor.

* this seems like a definite possibility with kids.*

You feel you are being taken advantage and your husband treats you with scant respect.

*Never! This would be a problem only for a woman who married a man who doesn't respect her, or is abusive. It has little to do with career choice.*

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