Worst Ways To Break Up With A Woman

Have you decided you want to end your relationship with her? Well, Here's a few examples of what not to do and the worst ways you could break up with a woman.

If you don't want a bad break up - one involving fights, ongoing drama's and insults, please DON'T break up with your girlfriend these ways...

The Worst Ways You Can Break Up With A Woman:

  • When you tell her or imply you don't want to continue the relationship because there is something physical about her that you don't like.

For example, by saying she's put on too much weight, or you want a girl with larger breasts - This has the potential to cause long term self esteem issues, diet problems, body issues. She may also think that if she diets or gets a breast enhancement you would then take her back. So, she may be back for another try once she's hit the Gym for a month... Blaming her physical characteristics for causing the break up is extremely nasty. Just think, you wouldn't want something like this said to you so don't mention it to her (Even if her physical attributes are part of the reason you want to end the relationship).

  • When you don't say anything and just go missing.

The woman hasn't got a clue what to think, and is most likely going to freak out! Maybe for a long time. She may also end up contacting all your friends and family wanting some information about what is going on with you, she may suspect the worst such as you've had an accident etc. She will be so worried that something terrible has happened to her man. It will deeply affect her, at home, at work, with friends. The "Silent Treatment" breakup may initially relive you of having to face her for a while, but she will eventually succeed in tracking you down, and it could be at your work place! Or even your parents house. This is a bad break up choice! Please don't consider it!

  • When you've decided to break up with her, but avoid telling her, instead you remain in contact with her somewhat but keep your distance. She only finds out when she sees you with your new woman!

You're bound to cause drama! And possibly a cat fight! It will give your new woman a bad impression of you, especially if she sides with your ex when she hears from her, herself that you are still in a relationship. This is called two timing. You won't look good in any one's eyes. You will cause drama in your new relationship.

  • When you tell her you're leaving her because you've met someone you like more than her.

She may just try to find out who this girl is that's apparently much better than her. She may also accuse you of cheating. She may try to contact you (and/or her) on Facebook and via SMS when she's having an angry moment fantasising about what you may be doing with her. You have given her nightmares as well as breaking her heart. You will make her angry, with you and your new partner, and there will be a thousand questions over the next few weeks - When did you meet her? Did you kiss her while the two of you were still technically a couple? Are you with her tonight? You don't need to be bothered by all of this drama while you are trying to move on, so that's something to keep to yourself. It's not her fault if you decided to pursue a new relationship, so don't involve her in it.

  • When you announce you want to break up on a special occasion.

When she's already bought your favourite things and wrapped them up under the Christmas tree, and you open them up and begin to celebrate the day with your friends and families, and after your great day of festivities together, you tell her you want to break up. Leaving her with a devastating Christmas (or Birthday, or Valentines Day). Even next Christmas she'll remember what a horrible day she had. Maybe even the following year. You don't need a 'special event' to remember your break up by, so don't wait until then to end it.

  • When you tell her friend/s that you're going to break up with her, before you tell her.

Don't involve third parties in your breakups! It does NOT help ease her pain, it will only embarrass her! And you'll be potentially creating a whole group of enemies by doing that, as her friends will ultimately side with her. Rarely could a friend keep that kind of information from her too.

  • When you decide to tell her it's over by changing your relationship status on Facebook (or any other social networking site) BEFORE you actually tell her.

This can cause a lot of contact and gossip from 3rd parties, ie: your mutual online friends (or even friends of friends) some of whom may be relatives and/or work colleague's, which could lead to some unwanted online contact and comments left on either of your profiles. Besides, it's just not classy! It's better to update your profile status, after you've deleted her from your friends list (And any of her friends who will notice the new status and pass the news on to her in seconds!).

The end of a relationship is rarely easy for both parties, but you can make it easier on yourself and your partner just by finding the courage to speak about your feelings and by acknowledging each others feelings too. You should behave with dignity and respect for the other person when you're going to end your love relationship with them. This goes for both males and females when ending a love relationship.

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Comments: 26 comments

julia 4 years ago

my second day of having a broken heart :(


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msorensson 4 years ago

This is soo funny "When you decide to tell her it's over by changing your relationship status on Facebook (or any other social networking site) BEFORE you actually tell her."...indeed people do this..

Your hub rings true..so funny.


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stricktlydating 4 years ago from Australia Author

OMG. Covering himself with a blanket. And I'm wondering what song he had on? Just wonderful. Right.


The Commenteer 4 years ago

I have one to add:

You come home to your partner after spending time with your family. You walk in the apartment and it is dark and there is music playing. You find him sitting on a couch with a blanket over his head (in the dark). You sit down and ask him "what's wrong?" He turns to you and says "I feel trapped."

Then he breaks up with you telling you he's doing it for your own good--so that you can be stronger without him.

Wonderful.


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stricktlydating 4 years ago from Australia Author

I agree RedShoeRmablings, disappearing is so cowardly. The least you can do is say you're going missing before you do! JoshuaDR I've never tried acting like a complete jerk but maybe it's been done to me and I didn't realise, I just dumped him, Oh my!


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JoshuaDR 4 years ago from Charleston, SC

Maybe the worst is when you decide to break up with someone and instead of just telling them you act like a complete jerk until they break up with you.


RedShoeRamblings 5 years ago

Disappearing is a cowardly act.


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stricktlydating 5 years ago from Australia Author

Me too, thanks ubanichijoke! I appreciate your comment.


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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

Thanks for this sound advise. I hope we all learn and if possible avoid breaking up at all. Thanks so useful


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stricktlydating 5 years ago from Australia Author

G'day Jennuhlee, thanks for sharing your breakup story, that one's quite a shocker! Lovely of you to comment ;)


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Jennuhlee 5 years ago from Pennsylvania

I once came home and checked my answering machine, "Hey Jenna, It's JB so..I don't think it's really working out between us, so uh I guess it's over...bye." That was something, lol of course it was in highschool, not that they change much after. This was a really great idea for a hub since so many of us can relate. Thank you for sharing!


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stricktlydating 5 years ago from Australia Author

I must admit Ebower, I've had the disappearing act happen to me at least once too! I agree I'd rather be hurt than confused too, and wish they had the courage to tell me they were leaving! I appreciate your comments! Thankyou!


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Ebower 5 years ago from Georgia

Unfortunately, I have experienced 4 of these! I think the worst one is just 'disappearing' without explaining anything. That's happened to me twice and I hate it! Why won't men have the courage to break up with me to my face; I'd rather be hurt then confused. Thanks for sharing this informative and very true hub! I voted it up and useful.


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stricktlydating 5 years ago from Australia Author

That's really sweet tnvrstar!


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tnvrstar 5 years ago from doha, qatar

I hate breaking up, I love only 1 girl and will love her forever.


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia Author

Thanks for sharing your opinion dashingscorpio!


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dashingscorpio 6 years ago

It seems like women never take any of these suggestions in consideration before dumping a "guy". LOL!

The truth is I don't believe anyone has a say in how they are to be dumped. There is no nice way to have your heart broken. You also can't control how another person will react to being dumped. Life is a personal journey and each of us are responsible healing our own wounds and finding happiness in our lives.

One man's opinion!


nhel 6 years ago

end a relationship in a right way


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thehands 6 years ago

So I guess this means you shouldn't just send her a text message when you break up with her, right? :P


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia Author

Thanks shinujohn2008 and habee!


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

Good advice - hope a lot of guys read it!


shinujohn2008 6 years ago

great ideas , are you a divorce specialist


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia Author

Haha, thanks akirchner! Yes I'd rather be the break upper-er!


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

Is there REALLY a good way to break up? I doubt it because someone always seems to get hurt but you have very great points. I love the don't mention something physical about her - actually that may get you killed! I figure the only way to have a good break up is if you are the breaker upper (is that a word?)..ha ha - Super hub.


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia Author

Thanks dredog03, it depends how long you've been together. If you've only been dating a short time, I think it's fine to end the relationship over the phone. At least I would prefer that than the guy just suddenly going missing!


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dredog03 6 years ago

breaking up on text messages or voice mail is pretty crappy, too.

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