Would A Good Wife Let Her Husband Wear Lingerie?

We modern women like to think that we are emancipated and evolved. That we can have it all, be it all, do it all. But have we forgotten some of the traditional values that made us good equals with men? Does a wife ever have a right to complain that her husband is wearing women's clothing? The idea for this hub came from a comment left on one of my other articles on the subject of men wearing lingerie, in which a woman took the time to share her opinion on the subject of men wearing women's lingerie and surprised me with her perspective:


If my husband wanted to wear some pretty panties, I would be shopping for panties, He is a great husband and provider he works very hard and if that was his thing I would have to help him indulge. It might even be rather fun.

Because I'm not really your typical homemaker (though I do work at home whilst my boyfriend goes out and works,) I hadn't really considered the issue from a traditional female perspective before. When I say traditional female perspective, I mean from the perspective of a woman who views her husband as being head of the household, perhaps as a provider and certainly as someone to be 'loved, honored and obeyed.'

Women like these get a lot of flak from feminist types, but the reality of the world is that there are still ladies out there who want to be in traditional relationships. What I liked about MrsJDenim's approach to the issue of men wearing women's clothing was that she put her husband's happiness first.

How many so called emancipated women who want a man to be equal are still stuck in the trap of forcing the men in their lives into ken doll style niches and become wildly unhappy if they dare deviate from what these women deem to be 'normal' male behavior.

It is refreshing to see a woman who does apparently hold traditional views on a male's role in the home yet can still get her head around the fact that he deserves to be happy and that her role as a wife is not to judge him, but to facilitate his happiness where she can.

It sort of makes one wonder if feminism went wrong when many modern women view men as objects to be poked and prodded into matrimony, and thenceforth into fatherhood, taking out the trash and killing spiders without any regard for the fact that many men have a feminine side they enjoy indulging and that it is healthy for them to do so.

So kudos to you, MrsJDenim, for reminding us of what a real partner's role is. Not to judge, but to support. Not to tear a man down until he hides his true nature away for fear of it being ripped to shreds, but to build him up and love and honor him for all that he is.

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Comments 8 comments

Deke 6 years ago


Melanie 6 years ago

Very well said.

Don 6 years ago

What a great article. Thank you.

Billy 6 years ago


You have hit the nail on the head again, I might add that in a relationship both have to hold each other up and to build and support the dreams and the ideas of each partner to foster happiness and a unbreakable bond. As always Hope a great article.

chevy34_00 6 years ago

Yes. Great article and personal insight from everyone who is a part of this discussion.

Dick 6 years ago

There are a whole lot of us who wear lingerie not because we want to show off a feminine side or because we are cross dressers, but because wearing lingerie is much more comfortable than wearing traditional mens underwear. Unfortunately . we get lumped togeather with all the other men who wear lingerie for any number of different reasons. Comfort just doesn't seem to resonate with a great many men and women so they assume there must be something else going on. Well to all of you out there who hold to this belief, you are dead wrong.

Cheryl 6 years ago

I just now found this website and how great that the first article I read is a gem. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

john 6 years ago

loved it very nice hope

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