Would You Care If I Didn't Care For A Moment?

THIS IS A GUY WHO REALLY DOESN'T CARE

ABOUT HIMSELF OR THOSE AROUND HIM WHAT FREEDOM HE HAS. TO BE ABLE TO GO AND COME AS HE PLEASES. DO AS HE PLEASES AND ACT ANY WAY HE CHOOSES BECAUSE HE SIMPLY DOESN'T CARE.
ABOUT HIMSELF OR THOSE AROUND HIM WHAT FREEDOM HE HAS. TO BE ABLE TO GO AND COME AS HE PLEASES. DO AS HE PLEASES AND ACT ANY WAY HE CHOOSES BECAUSE HE SIMPLY DOESN'T CARE.
HOT GIRLS PARTYING IN THEIR FLIMSY UNDERWEAR. WHAT BETTER WAY FOR YOUNG, HOT GIRLS TO SAY, "I JUST DON'T CARE IF I WEAR CLOTHES TO HAVE A GOOD TIME."
HOT GIRLS PARTYING IN THEIR FLIMSY UNDERWEAR. WHAT BETTER WAY FOR YOUNG, HOT GIRLS TO SAY, "I JUST DON'T CARE IF I WEAR CLOTHES TO HAVE A GOOD TIME."
NOW I ASK YOU. IS THIS NOT A PHOTO OF A MAN THAT HAS HIT 'ROCK BOTTOM' OF THE NOT CARING ZONE?
NOW I ASK YOU. IS THIS NOT A PHOTO OF A MAN THAT HAS HIT 'ROCK BOTTOM' OF THE NOT CARING ZONE?
DIRTY SNEAKERS ARE SURE SIGNS THAT THE PERSON WEARING THEM SURELY DON'T CARE ABOUT HOW THEIR FEET LOOK IN PUBLIC.
DIRTY SNEAKERS ARE SURE SIGNS THAT THE PERSON WEARING THEM SURELY DON'T CARE ABOUT HOW THEIR FEET LOOK IN PUBLIC.
THIS GUY DIDN'T BOTHER TO TURN ON THE LIGHT BEFORE HE DISROBED. A SIGN OF NOT CARING WHERE HE PULLS HIS CLOTHES OFF.
THIS GUY DIDN'T BOTHER TO TURN ON THE LIGHT BEFORE HE DISROBED. A SIGN OF NOT CARING WHERE HE PULLS HIS CLOTHES OFF.
NOT MANY DRUNK MEN CARE ABOUT ANYTHING. SEE HOW THIS INTOXICATED MAN IS CLINGING FOR DEAR LIFE TO HIS GIRLFRIEND? HE WANTS HER TO THINK THAT EVEN IN HIS DRUNKEN STUPOR, HE STILL CARES FOR HER.
NOT MANY DRUNK MEN CARE ABOUT ANYTHING. SEE HOW THIS INTOXICATED MAN IS CLINGING FOR DEAR LIFE TO HIS GIRLFRIEND? HE WANTS HER TO THINK THAT EVEN IN HIS DRUNKEN STUPOR, HE STILL CARES FOR HER.
TODAY IN 2012, (SOME) GIRLS DO NOT CARE HOW THEY APPEAR IN PUBLIC. I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT THE HOT CHICKS IN THIS PHOTO. I JUST DIDN'T WANT TO PUBLISH A PHOTO THAT WAS DEMEANING TO FEMALES.
TODAY IN 2012, (SOME) GIRLS DO NOT CARE HOW THEY APPEAR IN PUBLIC. I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT THE HOT CHICKS IN THIS PHOTO. I JUST DIDN'T WANT TO PUBLISH A PHOTO THAT WAS DEMEANING TO FEMALES.
DO YOU THINK THAT THESE GUYS CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF HOW THEY ARE DRESSED? NOT IN THE LEAST. WHAT A RELAXED LIFESTYLE. I ENVY THESE GUYS.
DO YOU THINK THAT THESE GUYS CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF HOW THEY ARE DRESSED? NOT IN THE LEAST. WHAT A RELAXED LIFESTYLE. I ENVY THESE GUYS.

NOT TOO LONG AGO

I had a sensitive, meaningful conversation with a man on a bench in a Walmart store. I was drawn, and concerned about him due to his filthy, worn clothes, ragged shoes and the distant look on his face and glazed-over look in his eyes. I couldn't help but care for this stranger, for I perceive The Bible as saying "I am my brother's keeper," and by talking to this gentleman who was evidently down on his luck, I was doing that. "Being my brother's keeper."

"May I ask you something?" I said softy to this man. I didn't think he wanted any unneeded attention.

"Sure, bub," he replied without looking up at me.

"I hope I don't offend you, sir, but are you okay?" I asked, choosing my every word with careful, methodical and precision attention.

"Sure, friend. I have just learned that 'I do not care,'" He said in a semi-comical tone of voice.

"I don't understand, sir. You don't care about what?" I said, hoping to gain some clarity in his next answer.

"About myself, others around me, how I look, what I do, and what I say," he explained and in a tone of voice that gave me the answer to my original question.

"Oh, okay. I'm sorry, sir. I was just going to ask if there was anything I could do for you," I said before I walked away.

"Oh, I'm sorry, buddy. I guess you thought I was in bad shape by the way I'm dressed or how my face is dirty and unshaven," he said. "I have a good job, a loving wife, two grown, successful kids, and a handful of healthy grand kids. I have just realized that if I do not care that much, I will live a happier and longer life," he added with a wink from his right eye.

And with that bit of life wisdom from an unexpected source, I walked away a bit wiser. And a bit more careful in whom I approached to ask if I could be of help to them.

After a few days of serious thinking about what this man said to me, I stumbled upon a concrete conclusion. He was absolutely right in his philosophy of not caring too much. At first, my civil and human spirit reacted with disbelief and scorn inwardly to his very bold and honest remark. Then with some honest thinking, I saw life through his eyes. And you know what? This "stranger" whose pathway of life crossed mine but for a few moments, taught me more than any of my accepted, normal educated teachers in school ever dared to teach me. I know. This sounds rebellious. And anti-social. But I give you my solemn word. It's not.

In the weeks that followed my concrete conclusion about not caring, I took a long, hard look at my own life and the areas where "I" had made the honest-but-traumatic mistake of allowing myself to care too much and the end-result of becoming depressed, stressed, and not interested in the people and things around me. First I laughed at how I had been so foolish at caring too much. Then I wept a tear or two of grudgeful remorse because of my pride, I guess. But for some reason, I then saw myself in my past days as that of a fool. A fool who, without any cue or prompting, took a few severe "leaps of faith," and paid the painful price to a faceless piper later. And even in the painful results of my caring too much I thought that this was how life was designed to be. For everyone.

Until I met the shabbily-dressed man with ragged shoes who had a good job, a loving wife and a handful of healthy grand kids. Then my thought sequence and substance changed. And I began to understand how that not caring so such a burdensome amount, had, in many ways, made me the miserable person that I had become.

I was spiritually-inspired and had been given a new horizon by the strange man sitting on the bench at Walmart. I wanted to write songs (about not caring) that they would rival the popularity of "The Star Spangle Banner," "Over There (George M. Cohan)" and the church staple, "Amazing Grace." Book titles came magically to my mind. Books with sudden creative characters and the mysterious means of being bought by people of rich and pauper stations just rolled off my tongue without much thinking. I slept better. Ate better. Saw people who came by way in a different light. Simply because of the priceless wisdom shared with me, for free I might add, by the old man on the bench at Walmart, had sunken into my thoughts, spirit and most-important, my heart.

I was proud of the new man I had become almost overnight. I wasn't ashamed any longer to look at myself in the mirror. Nor did I shun the light of day like a vampire cursed in dark tales told by some elderly man long ago to some innocently-gullible adolescents who hung on his every word. I was proud of myself. For once. I wanted to dress better. Act better toward neighbors and even strangers. And even the animals, wild and tame that I encountered in my daily life. Yet, I couldn't express in words just how relieved and peaceful I felt as I began my "Journey of Not Caring," a fitting title to the short story I never wrote. And a good name for the next few miles of my life as a non-caring man who had been reborn from a grieving, over-caring man to an easy-going, peaceful and man with a deeper understanding of life. People. And my untold riddles about myself that I had never understood how to unravel.

In fact, I can say with complete confidence that . . .

There is a Lot to Be Said about People Who Do Not Care. Please allow me a few minutes to explain.

People who don't care are always happy. Even in the face of troubles, they smile, laugh, pick at children for fun and pat animals on leashes with friendly pats.

People who don't care are seldom seen looking into mirrors becoming even more careful and anxious about the worry lines on their faces put there by '"the silent tormenter," caring too much.

People who don't care somehow make the best employees, neighbors and friends who everyone with every type of tale and problem can confide in with complete trust.

People who don't care always make the best listeners. Simply because all these people do are listen. And not take-on the extra problems told to them that can lead to over-caring. More misery and a shorter life.

People who don't care believe this or not, make the best ministers, husbands, professional people, HUB WRITERS and servicemen and women. Why? Because they have mastered the level of caring about things in life. They do not, for any reason, allow themselves to be beaten, battered and pushed-around by needless over-caring for things that always, with enough time, seem to work themselves out.

People who don't care are always giving people, friends and strangers, a friendly word. A smile. Or the perfect conversation starter, "do you have the time?"

People who don't care are always the ones who pay respects at funerals, and not the ones being respected the last time.

People who don't care always know when to quit. And not keep "harping on the same harp," with their individualistic brand of ideas. Advice. And stories they have written. Because these special people do not desire for the people who are listening to them or reading the stories they have written to become what they used-to-be: Over-caring and troubled.

You Can Always Pick A Person Who Doesn't Care Out of The Crowd by Checking to See if They Fit This List of Descriptions:

A Person Who Doesn't Care has this look of seeing beyond the realms and borders of reality on their faces. Some call it a "glazed look" in their eyes. I have learned to call it just what I said. Looking beyond reality.

A Person Who Doesn't Care when approached by people with lots to wag their tongue about, somehow seem to be able to magically, and mysteriously, "look" as if they are taking-in every word but in all honesty, are just dwelling on some special song, story or fantasy in their ultra-relaxed mind. The tongue-waggers will never know the inner-peace these people who do not care have in their hearts for always having to tell people what "they" want to say. Never listening to others' tales of woe and success. Just wagging their worn-out tongues.

A Person Who Doesn't Care are often misunderstood by the ones they meet. "Oh, they are snooty and too good to talk to us," is what most people who misunderstand the non-caring people say to other people with the same attitude problem. What these petty-minded people are missing is the non-caring people DO care, but not to the extent of making every ant hill into a life or death mission to accomplish.

A Person Who Doesn't Care seldom is seen dominating conversations. Anywhere. Or anytime. They prefer the peace that their chosen-isolation from the crowd gives them freely and not be needfully-saddled by always having to come up with witty remarks, cute jokes and deep, interesting tales that would astonish Aristotle. The non-caring people are happy in their own quiet worlds.

A Person Who Doesn't Care will seldom be the victim of a guilt trip used by a lazy person who isn't willing to do the work themselves. A non-caring person tends to their own affairs, but do not "jump to conclusions." Most non-caring people will stop to help a stranger or friend who is in sincere need of help. But won't do or say anything under the guise of "help" that will enable that person to use others to get them the things they could get themselves. If they would.

A Person Who Doesn't Care is mostly seen whistling or humming a soft toned tune to themselves. They do not want, nor care, to be the one who always entertains the crowd with theri special talents. This can lead to being taken for granted. And always expected to do things they do not want to do. People who try to use non-caring people for personal gain have forgotten one priceless fact of life: Even a non-caring person has the right to say "no" to any outlandish request made by a person who feeds their own ego by pushing a non-caring, non-involved person into doing their cheap bidding.

So, friends. There you have it. "Some" of the valuable advice I am sharing about "Not Caring" and People Who Do Not Care."

I hope you can find the help you need in the confines of this piece.

I would share the rest of my valuable advice, but somehow, I just don't care to do that right now.








A GROUP OF MEN WHO DO NOT CARE

WHAT YOU OR I THINK OF THEM. THESE GUYS ARE ALL HAPPY. THEY PLAY POKER AND 'GUY GAMES' WHEN THEY LIKE BECAUSE THEY DO NOT CARE.
WHAT YOU OR I THINK OF THEM. THESE GUYS ARE ALL HAPPY. THEY PLAY POKER AND 'GUY GAMES' WHEN THEY LIKE BECAUSE THEY DO NOT CARE.

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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

Interesting. I enjoyed this hub, but it doesn't feel like either of you don't care. It feels like you are not attached to others opinions and they no longer affect your opinion of yourself...which is a good thing. Not caring sounds negative to me and your hub does not. You were gifted with a good life lesson and thank you for sharing it with your readers! vote up


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greatstuff 4 years ago from Malaysia

My initial impression of someone who doesn't care is that of an irresponsible person, arrogant and as picklesandrufus put it, a negative person. You hub somehow changed that opinion of mine. Well written hub..you sounds like Dale Carnegie, one of my favorite writer!


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lovelife08 4 years ago from United States

In reading this Hub, I have learned a very valuable lesson. Great job!


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catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

I can relate to caring too much and it causing nothing but stress. There is a fine line between caring and being a fool for someone. I have had to learn this over and over, even as recently as a couple of weeks ago! I still care about so many things, but am learning to only care about things that deserve my caring. Great hub Kenneth!


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

I think you wrote this with tongue planted firmly in cheek? lol..The thing is - while you may not care THAT much anymore - face it - you still care! There's a difference between not caring to the point of not sleeping - and not caring to the point where people don't want to sit beside you on the subway. I hope there's a difference between self pride and not caring? or..does the 'not caring' factor level across the board? lol voting up, cause i smiled thru it, whether i was supposed to or not!


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hoteltravel 4 years ago from Thailand

Caring is a word used in positive sense, but most often creates trouble for giver and receiver. It is easy to go overboard with caring. A person who says 'I don't care' is seen as egotistic and irresponsible. Through this hub you managed to give a new meaning to 'I don't care'. Excellent hub, kenneth. Voted up.


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April Reynolds 4 years ago from Arizona

This is one of my favorites, Kenneth. Good job. So how far should one take not caring? Should I still care about things like body odor, feeding my kids, following road rules, brushing my teeth...or can I let it all go and live in unworried bliss?


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

IM DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT. IM STARTING AT THE BOTTOM COMMENT AND PUTTING

AprilReynolds FIRST: No, moderate, and even a near-fiery caring is fine, but my hub was about how "I" have over-cared for some people in my older life and some things too. I only got burned and they got away unscathed. This was really a sermon to ME, not any of you.

Thanks for opening my eyes to what REAL caring is.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

HotelTravel, you are absolutely right. I know first-hand, the pain of caring too much. And the people I cared too much for, are happier today than ever. And when I should accidentally cross their pathways, they act as if I were a total-stranger. That hurts worse. And I am NOT an arrogant person by any stretch of the keyboard. My formula for NOT CARING is care without overdoing it. Thanks for the vote of confidence.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, my Friend, ImKarn . . .awwww, how did you know? You are very perceptive. And sharp too. I like that in a hubber. Take care and I will be more vague and illusive in my next hub. LOL!

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dearest catgypsy . . .thanks for your sweet comment. And I agree with you on caring too much and "getting schooled" on this harmful habit. I know that you and I are wiser from the fire too. I care, but I do not spend endless days, weeks and months in the wilderness without food, water or shelter just to show a person that I care for them. They should know.

Thanks again.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, next hubber: lovelife . . .thank you so much. Im glad that one of my hubs was useful for something. Care to share what you learned? Whatever it was, Im glad to have only helped. The overall wisdom you gained was all you, love. You are a wise girl.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

. . .a Big "THANK YOU," greatstuff! That comparison to Dale Carnegie is awesome. And hey, Im not Jerry Seinfield, the "king of pompus arrogance." Im me. Plain as dirt. Glad you saw through the metaphors in this hub. Very good.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, picklesandrufus,

A sincere thanks to you for putting my thoughts into real-life perspective. And you are right. This isnt me, but it is to a point. Or what Ive learned over the past few years. You are a great teacher, picklesand rufus...much like real-life, "the" grand master of teaching us to live like better people.

Kenneth


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April Reynolds 4 years ago from Arizona

Hey Kenneth, I was teasing you, trying to show the same tongue-in-cheek your hub reflected :) And I always love your pictures and captions, they are as much fun to read as your hubs!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

LOL, you got me, April! And good! I bit hook, line and keyboard on your comment/con. LOVED IT! And just guessing here, but by the tone of your writing, you are definitely a hot chick who cares about her appearance, but for one day, to enjoy, as you say, totall non-caring bliss, go without your deodorant and see how FREE that feels. I did one day last week. Went in public without my AXE and you know what? No one, even the cute girls, didn't mind. Or notice. See what total-non caring can get for you? But to be clear, I would go for weeks without any deodorant....bliss does have boundaries.

LOL!

Thanks, April. You have made my day!!!!!

Kenneth

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