A Word Vs. a Sword - 4 Techniques to have your words for the benefit of you.

“Doing is better than saying”

Before, I misunderstood this proverb, so I was telling others, “don’t mind what I say, and mind what I do”.

And as the life gives me more experience, I discovered that this proverb doesn’t mean that sayings are not important & the proverb is there for some situations & not for all.

For example:

when you advice someone to do something, he’ll be affected by your doing more than your saying. So “Doing is better than saying” is working here.

This proverb doesn’t mean that you have the choice to speak with people the way you are satisfied with, even if you give them and do for them your best.

Sometimes, a word hurt more than a sword.

When you get angry, or when you are making jokes to let others laugh, when you are jealous, etc, maybe, you kill many with a word not with a sword.

Start from yourself, don’t you feel sometimes that the sword is more merciful than some words.

These words maybe said by near relative, the best friend, etc.

You’re doing same, try to remember.

Take time.

Have you seen how much you brought the pain for the people whom you do love from the bottom of heart?

Take care of your words, don't sharpen them. You can tell in a better way.

1- You can criticize harmlessly

One of the most important things you can do is make people feel good about themselves.

Your tone of voice often says more what is in your mind than your words do." Napoleon Hill

Think how and more important why are you going to criticize someone.

One gay on Twitter tweeted “I'm doing this for you baby, my way of saying I'm sorry!”

Sure he had pain because he likes to hear nice words from his Dad/Mam.

Another Tweeted “you know that it’s not my words that affecting me. It’s your words that affecting me NOW!”

2- Don’t Promise something you can’t do for someone
You gave him the hope & he will wait for what you promised.

Between saying and doing many a pair of shoes is worn out. Italian Proverb

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mohandas Gandhi

3- Say the truth respectfully:
Like this you be happy & let others same.

Well chosen words mixed with measured emotions are the basis of affecting people. Jim Rohn

4- Stop blaming others:
“While you complain and blame, you remain the same.” - Hakim Muhammad
I know it’s difficult but you can find a way.
It is not easy to change your way of speaking, but it worth your effort.
Mr. Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Success is finding a better method”. And remember if a mountain is smooth, you wouldn't be able to climb it.

Hope to hear from you.

Do you use your words like swords?

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VISHNUMOORTHY KAMATH 6 years ago

DEAR TALEB

UNBELEIVABLE MAN...I THOROUGHLY ENJOYED YOUR ARTICLE...I CAN BE SURE NOW THAT YOU READ A LOT AND GAIN LOT OF KNOWLEDGE THROGH READING...I WAS THRILLED TO SEE YOU MENTIONED MOHANDAS GANDHI'S QUOTE...HE IS FATHER OF OUR NATION...AND I FEEL PROUD TO SEE A SYRIAN NATIONAL QUOTING HIM...

THANK YOU FOR A LOVELY ARTICLE.


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Taleb80 5 years ago Author

Dear Mr. Vishnu

Thank you so much for this nice words, actually Mr.MOHANDAS GANDHI was a wise man, I like his quotes.

All the world should be proud of him, he gave the peace.

Hope to listen from you again.

I don't forget that you're the person who pushed me to start blogging & Hubbing.

Thank you again


zaheer ahmed 5 years ago

realy nice article daer i proud your one of ucs staff

please continue ... Allaha bless you


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Taleb80 5 years ago Author

Dear Zaheer

Thank you for the encouraging.

Hope to hear from you again & again.

Allaha bless you too.


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Doc Snow 5 years ago from Atlanta metropolitan area, GA, USA

It is harder than one might think to bring saying and doing into harmony!

But I'm still working on it.

Thanks for the reminder.


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Taleb80 5 years ago Author

Doc Snow, Thank you for stopping by.

As you try & try, you will succeed.

hope to hear from you again.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Taleb-wonderful hub. I loved Gandhi's quote-it is something I strive for in my life, although I don't always achieve it. I also like Emerson's words. I've followed him from when I was a teen in high school. Your hub has much to offer. Rated it useful and beautiful. Nice job.


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Taleb80 5 years ago Author

Dear Mrs. Denise

I highly appreciate your stopping by my hubs.

You give me incentive to do better like a great teachers do.

Thanks for your support.

From my side I see that you're living a good harmony.

Thank you for every thing you do to push me forward.

Greetings to you & your great family.


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Jo_Goldsmith11 5 years ago

Really well written. I appreciate the peaceful man I am sure Gandhi truly is. I love that quote and here is another one, I have cherished so much.."A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.--

Mohandas Gandhi

I wish you well..Blessings! :)


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Taleb80 5 years ago Author

Jo_Goldsmith11

It is a nice quote.

Thanks for encouragement & wishes.


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ReneeDC1979 3 years ago from Gaithersburg, Maryland

Nice tips on how we can communicate better with our words. Keep hubbing!


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Taleb80 3 years ago Author

Renne, happy that you find them nice.

Thanks for stopping by & comment.


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CandyTale 3 years ago from Valencia, Spain

I liked this hub very much.

On one way, I think that saying you believe something, or that you would like to do something has not really any value if you don't put it in practice. We usually critizice or /and suppouse we will do a better job, or we believe we would behave in certain way but at the time of the truth we dont' and take the easy path. Thinking and believing is important because it MAKES you do the right thing, but you shouldn't brag about your (pious, modern, progressive, . . . . . insert what you like) ideas and beliefs until you put them in practice. I believe they are empty until you "do as you say".

On the other hand, I think you shouldn't give advice or opinion, especially unrequested, before thinking your wording. I don't mean you should keep your mouth shut, you just have to choose the right words to avoid being hurtful or cruel.

Thanks for writing this hub! It's great food for thought.


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Taleb80 3 years ago Author

Candy

Your addition is very valuable, thanks for stopping by & commenting.

Happy you find the hub useful.

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