I wish there were a simple, get rid of these feelings fast solution, but, there isn't. The first thing is to acknowledge that you are in pain, that you are going through a break up, and that you need time to heal. Many people say "time heals all wounds", but I believe it's not the "time" itself, but what you do with the time. Take time to really look into the relationship and learn from it. Why didn't it work? Why did it work for as long as it did? Could I have done something different or could he have? What's most important to remember, is that you are not trying to "overcome" or get over your relationship. You are simply closing one door and opening another. Welcome your future and all the possibilities it holds. Do what YOU need to do to feel better. I was married for over 20 years when I got divorced. At first, I was devastated and couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. But, with good friends, lots of reading, crying and writing - I managed to come away with some very valuable insight about relationships. On those days you feel like just being alone to feel sad, then do it! You can't ignore emotions and expect them to go away. Experience it. And then you will find that you can move on. Focus more on yourself, and less on finding another relationship. You have to love YOU before someone else can.