well its there for you, you just have to go out and get it! It seems that you just trapped in a certain way of thinking and you just need to re-align youself. Think, when you are an old man and no young woman will touch you what will you do then? What will you do when your friends are tucked away in their family, or passed on, you will be alone. There are many people in the world who suffer this fate, and you, right now have the opportunity to change it so the same fate doesnt hit you. Go out there and take control of your life, and seize your opportunity whilst you can! We only live this life once, so why not do it right? You say that you dream of this life with wife and kids, I do to also. of course being a red blooded male and young, you are going to want to sleep with a few girls (it's perfectly normal), but dont leave it too late to find that one. As you get older it will only become more difficult. And the idea of children will be less feasible.