I try to be the type of friend I want, but it is difficult to satisfy everyone's expectations. Since each individual has a different concept of what encompasses a "good friend" based on their individual needs, it is a tall order. In getting to know different people, it is, unfortunately, personally too demanding, or, too compromising to come to terms with personalities that are entrenched in their own self serving concepts of friendship, or adversarial, confrontational individuals. In those cases, I find my idea of being a good friend is a source of aggravation for the other person and arguments in defense of who I am ensue, and I must bow out for my own self preservation. I have one, long-term best friend who I value and who values me. We have no ulterior motives, or hidden agendas, but value each other for who we truly are. It is wonderful.