My question, a much more important one, imho, is why? Why are you leading another person on, living with them, telling them you love them, when you still have feelings for your ex-husband? That is shameful, angel1985, I can't help but feel terrible for your partner who thinks that s/he is building a new life with you, when you're pining away after a lost love. Maybe you need to talk to a professional about this, take some stock / time to yourself and really think about what you want, because if you're not devoting your full emotional ties to your current partner, you're doing them a disservice. Sorry, I don't mean to come off as harsh, especially since I don't know the whole story, but I would be heartbroken to think that my fiance still carried a torch for an ex.