Is marriage a joke now?

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   tHErEDpILLposted 12 years ago

   Is marriage a joke now?
   
   News just reported that Kim Kardashian will be getting married to the newest athlete she's sleeping with, but wait theres more.  She will be allegedly filming her wedding for her reality show, complete with product placement.  I could come up with a million questions attached to this "woman's" name but, I'm going to stick to this one: Has our society took the dignity and importance out of marriage?

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   onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

   Some of us have respect...............for our elders, for our classrooms, for the courthouse, for our marriages, and  sadly, some of us do not.
   
   The act of disrespect, does not diminish the value...........of our classrooms, our courthouses, our marriages, or our elders.
   
   It tells much about, the person that we are.
   
   I adored my Grandparents, respected my teachers, valued my Dad, and would lay down my own life for my husband, as he would for me...............
   
   I am not " old", rather, old enough to understand, respect, committment, and sacrifice.
   
   As a modern woman, I am my own self, yet, I would never,   bring shame or embarrasment to my husband.  Those things are not what he chose me for.  Those are not the things that he vowed to protect me from.  We so vowed to "honor" one another, not to   dismiss, not to challenge, not to combat, not to struggle against one another, but to work together.
   
   Marriage is the agreement to a partnership................read the fine print.
   The world at large would prosper by teaching and passing these  values on.

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      Harishprasadposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wish the world at large have a look at the wisdom and understanding shown by you, onegoodwoman. All right thinking persons should make every efforts to prevent this sacred instituion from turning into a trivial thing and restore its dignity again.

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   psycheskinnerposted 12 years ago

   Is Kim Kardashian the only person on the planet who matters? Is she some perfect example of the average American female? Is there only one acceptable way to live your life?
   
   In the United States marriages are lasting longer and are more secure than they have been for years. I see no reason to be either disparaging of how she chooses to live her life or to assume it means anything at all about the rest of us.

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   tHErEDpILLposted 12 years ago

   Onegoodwoman, you are one good woman.  I wish there were more good woman like you in the world. 
   
   As for Psycheskinner's question, no Kim is not the only person that matters in the world, but right now she is a part of pop culture and unfortunately pop culture has a strong hold on our society's youth.  If you think that she has no affect on young females or the public in general then you are either in denial or out of touch with reality.  In fact, this was a top news story tonight that should be enough said.  I would have no problem with her living her life if it was not being displayed on TV 24/7, and if it was also not aimed at America's youth.  She is saying to young girls that sleeping around with a different athlete, rapper, or movie star every other week is cool.  I think young girls have it bad enough without having to attempt to keep up with this "Devil in a Blue Dress."  Did you go to high school?  Do you remember how it felt not to fit in.  Well right now being like her is fitting in, and no one likes to be an outcast.  Next time research a person before you stick up for them.  I rest my case.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   No, I don’t think society in general considers marriage to be a “joke”.
   They may consider “celebrity marriages” and “reality television” shows such as “The Bachelor”, “The Bachelorette”. “Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire” and a host of other dating/relationship shows to be a joke. The vast majority of people who get married do so (not planning) to get a divorce or have an affair down the road.
   
   I read that Kim Kardashian earned over $6 Million last year from her reality show alone last year. In many ways she is following in the steps of Paris Hilton. These are people who actually have no real "talent" to speak of but have managed to use a "sex tape" to launch a career in "entertainment".
   I suspect girls in high school have (always) wanted to date the "coolest", "most popular", "best looking", or "wealthiest" guy they could. The Kardashians just happen to be doing so in a media/high tech era.
   
   Truth be told a lot of guys strive to become "successful" in order to attract so called "hot looking" women. In their minds dating "attractive women" is one of the perks or trappings that comes with success.
   As I was growing up it was not uncommon to hear an older man tell a young man, "If you get good grades and make something out of yourself, you can have any woman you want!" Women like Kim Kardashian rarely end up marrying the manager of the shoe department in Macy's. On some level I believe both men and women not only "understand" this but they also "accept" and expect it. One of the reasons we're seeing a rise in the "mail order bride" business is because it's one of the few ways an "average joe" can attract a woman whose looks/appearance would otherwise be out of his league. He knows she just wants to come to America but in his eyes it's a worthwhile trade off.

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   Torch Harrisonposted 12 years ago

   Marriage is a joke because folks don't treat it as a serious, life-long commitment.  It's the 'wedding' not the marriage that's important!  It doesn't matter if two people decide on divorcing when there's no children....because no one will be affected by their decision.  But we have millions of kids who are adversely affected by divorce in this country because men and women refuse to grow up and be responsible!

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   pajamazzonposted 12 years ago

   Whatever's worth , i still believe in true love and being married with the one you love forever and ever. That's why i want to wait for the right man to come along and sweep me off my feet.
   I don't believe in divorce, i want to be devoted with my husband and dote him for the rest of his life.
   
   I think the media gives unrealistic expectations on marriage, and whats should be like,a lot of people are focused on what media dictates a perfect marriage should be like. It's all fake.

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   Emily Sparksposted 12 years ago

   Yes, marriage has turned into a joke for most people.  Many, not all, marry for self, money, or publicity.  More than half of marriages end in divorce.  What ever happened to sticking together for better or for worse?

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   justamberposted 12 years ago

   I know people who won't get married because tax benefits of remaining single are way better. It's ashamed.

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    acewebdesignposted 12 years ago

    Yes sadly its become a joke. People get bored of each other..money and other few things take priority..there is cheating! and things like that. Wish there was a good solution to it.

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    davenmidtownposted 12 years ago

    marriage has always been,  with few exceptions, a relationship between two people.  How they deal with that relationship is up to them.  A deep and committed relationship through marriage is something that does not have equal.  There are many jokes in society today but I feel like marriage is not one of them.

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    homesteadboundposted 12 years ago

    I do not feel that marriage is a joke. When a marriage fails many lives are affected negatively, and that is no joke. I have been married for 31 years to a wonderful man. I can't say that things are always easy but we are committed to each other and to our marriage. I think that the auctual marriage is a joke when both people in it are no committed to each other and committed to making the marriage work. It's a give and take, many times more give than take. But there has to be a commitment to work through the bad times ...

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    Gregoryyposted 12 years ago

    The world aint what is used to be. I think its simpler to stay single. You save money,drama,and stress all these things come with marrige. Even the bible specifacly notes that it is best to stay single, it is not bad to marry but if you do your life will have troubles. If you marry you focus on pleasing your partner. If you stay single you focus on pleasing god and making the world a better place.
    
    Another trend i notice now adays is that people usauly marry for security, instead of love. People sometimes want to marry so they can put there incomes toghether to buy a house. Sometimes people marry just to marry.
    
    Another thing people dont stick to their vowels/promises. When you make that coomitment for beter or wosrse, thats bassicly a lifelong commitment regardless of how bad your life gets togheter. If you make the vowels, your supposed to stay toghether forever.

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    shannajsposted 12 years ago

    I think marriage has become a joke because it is now too easy to get out of it. Watching celebrities jumping in and out of marriage, from one bed to the other has made society to feel like it's ok. Sadly, we are a society of followers. At a local business in my area, all of the women who worked there were divorced or in the process of a divorce within month's of each other.
    
    Another problem, I feel, that is leading marriage is "husband bashing" or "wife bashing". When women get together or men get together, it is become much more common to point out your spouse's flaws because it starts out as avoiding conflict but not telling the spouse what is wrong, but then turns in to a deeply inbedded feeling that festers until it becomes much larger than his snoring keeps her up all night.
    
    We watch others around us jump around from person to person, relationship to relationship, and a slight part of us wonders..."if only I wasn't married" and if we aren't comfortable with our marriage, it becomes an obsession more than a wandering thought.
    
    I once had a somewhat sexual dream about one of my husband's co-workers and really close friend, and instead of being mad (like a lot of individuals would) my husband laughed about it and we still joke about. He turned that in to an opportunity to "spice things up" with us, instead of having the feeling that I have some deep attraction to his buddy that I may act on.
    
    Trust has been last among people, so instead of getting hurt, people avoid a deep commitment to someone and treat marriage (a union of two people) in to a dating game.

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    AUPADHYAYposted 12 years ago

    Yes, to the extent, if the marriage is supposed as an entertaining game.

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    moneycopposted 12 years ago

    joke depends on personality and not on issues, if a person is sincere even he will take a joke seriously.And if he is not sincere every thing will seem him a joke. As towards your question we are creating now a new awareness of selfishness. We know that all are selfish and to fight for our selfishness this marriage is joke. But being in true love means to serve your lover you can be respecting marriage too.

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    alphagirlposted 12 years ago

    that depends on your perspective, your expectations, your values, and what you want to give in a partnership.
    
    The media has given people with no talent, star status. Funny, tho, I won't remember them for anything significant. Its all about the ratings and profit for media. The more trash, the better. Sad.
    There is no such thing as privacy and dignity today.

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    Nspeelposted 12 years ago

    Statistics do not lie unfortunately but there is a higher percentage divorce than there is couples staying together.

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    tirelesstravelerposted 12 years ago

    Just read Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas.                              Most people marry for what they can get.(me 35 years ago)  The joke is on them. Marriage is what you can give to your spouse and children if they come along.  You can divorce without children and still have a hole in your life from the years you spent with your ex. Media makes the joke out of marriage and Kim.  25 years ago you couldn't find a gay person who wanted to marry, They called married persons,"birthers" while sneering. 25 years ago you wouldn't find people willing to pay more for a wedding than a house either.

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    Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

    Our society hasn't - just the "circus acts" have.

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    vjwillisjrposted 12 years ago

    For people who think that marriage might be a joke, it is. Too many people have forgotten what it means to give your word. Taking wedding vows is a voluntary action. Why would you volunteer to make a commitment, then not keep it?
    
    No body forces you to marry someone. If you don't plan to make it "until death do us part" don't do it!

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    fernando d.posted 12 years ago

    I don't think so! but mine last only two week, she left with the best men.

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