How can I change my heart or actions to open the communication barrier again?

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   acalhoun05posted 12 years ago

   How can I change my heart or actions to open the communication barrier again?
   
   My husband and I seem to be disagreeing about the silliest things the last few months. We used to be so great at communicating, and the last 6-7 months things have really started to go downhill. I don't want to upset him all the time, but I also don't want to feel like I'm walking on eggshells. How can I change my heart or actions to open the communication barrier again?

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   Bhanu.Jasposted 12 years ago

   Just start looking towards optimistic side of everything..Rather then thinking the glass is half empty see how your husband  want you to see it..And see it the  same way and slowly he will change..And also this help you both to develop more understanding.Start from small things and then carry on ahead..Bhawana

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   "the last 6-7 months things have really started to go downhill.."
   
   Do you suspect he is cheating? If the answer is "no" then you have to ask yourself did YOU change? If the answer is still "no" then you must look at him.
   
   Do you think HE is worried about "walking on eggshells"? Is he worried that he might lose you? If you said or did the same kinds of things to him would he  be "emotionally invested" enough in the relationship to want to (fix things)? If you answered "NO" to to any of these questions that means you are more invested in the relationship then he is.
   
   Don’t confuse “communication” with “action”
   Communication is not an “Ask and it shall be given” proposition. It’s simply expressing an idea and having the other person acknowledge they understood what you said. Just because you don’t get what you want afterwards does not mean there is a “communication problem”. You’re just with someone who has different priorities. Sure you could learn to "go along to get along" but (Ultimately we are all in search of someone who wants what we want.) Your life is the result of the choices and decisions you make. You are responsible for your own happiness! Best of luck!

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