That is why being a virgin is such an overrated notion. We normally fall in love with one person and want sex with another. Romantic love and sex is not the same thing. You can throw stones or point your fingers at me, but at least I did not have to marry seven times.
Sex is a deal-breaker for me. I am not a quitter, I was married for sixteen years and I cannot compare our sex drives at all. Sexually we were not compatible at all. I had no desire. And it depends on a man, it turned out to be - we are not attracted to just any man/woman. He blamed me for his ruined sexual life at the prime of his life. I was cold. However, it turned out to be - I have a higher "appetite" - but it depends on a partner.
That is why I had to leave all of my 42 lovers. Joking. Some of them left me. But still calling...
My advice - not for the couples - I will leave it to the professionals - too sensitive a topic, but for couples to be married
test-drive everything that can be test-driven, sex and living together. Give it a year at least.
Sex can be such a nightmare. A pain - literally and figuratively speaking.
I expect to remain in minority, as always. For honesty and open-mindedness. Comes with the territory, I suppose.
Yes, before I push the "Submit Answer" - yes, men are deluded - they have "high" drives. Not always. But my favourite statement:
- I am a good lover.
- Who told you? Your mother?