The love of my life thinks about quitting his job for me because he thinks I'm u

1. 60

   ShakethaM07posted 12 years ago

   The love of my life thinks about quitting his job for me because he thinks I'm unhappy with
   
   his schedule (true), but I understand that he works most of the time 10hrs a day. 6days a week. I've tried explaining to him that all I want is for him to put in a little more effort to come see me (he's in TN. I'm in Ga). After all he is the co-owner & manager of the store & has closed it for a day or 2 before simply because his employees needed a break. Why can't he do that to come see me? I don't want the distance to come between us but at the same time I don't want to sound selfish & jealous of his job. I haven't seen him in months now. What should I do?

   replyreport
2. 61

   nightwork4posted 12 years ago

   not to be rude, but that doesn't sound like a marriage to me. it sounds more like a person who is left waiting until the other person finds it convienient for them to go see . i'm not saying it's right or wrong because i don't know all the details, but i run my own business, work more hours then that and i always make time for my family.

   replyreport
3. 0

   ExoticHippieQueenposted 12 years ago

   It sounds as though you are not married.......and if this is true, please don't get married while you are living so far apart from each other.  This is the very reason I don't begin dating anyone who is long distance. It's very, very difficult to maintain a relationship when you are so far away from each other.  If he has closed his business to give his employees a break, but will not close it to come see you, then I would begin to wonder if the relationship is lacking something, mainly from his side.  You seem to be interested in seeing him, but it doesn't sound as though he is as interested. I am taking into consideration that he is working a lot of hours per week.  Can't you move closer to each other, you move by him? Sounds as though it would be harder for him to move by you.  But first make sure that the relationship is sound before taking such a drastic measure. If that's not possible, I would talk with him about how you can build in some kind of regular visits with each other to nurture your relationship.

   replyreport
4. 60

   ShakethaM07posted 12 years ago

   We aren't married and we are moving in together but not until may of next yr because the things I'm doing here but I don't want to wait until then to see him and I feel like it might be. He keeps saying he's coming but then something always comes up. I really want us to work. We are engaged to be married in 2 1/2 yrs but I don't know what to do

   replyreport