What's the best strategy for really getting over a break up and broken heart?

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   ThunderKeysposted 12 years ago

   What's the best strategy for really getting over a  break up and broken heart?
   
   What really helps? What really works? How do you know it does?
   
   

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   ninacrimaldiposted 12 years ago

   Time, Time heals everything. Although its unfortunate that  time is never in your favor.

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   Stephilibooposted 12 years ago

   You get over it in your very own way.. There isn't a time limit for it.

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   phoebe180posted 12 years ago

   I don't believe strategy works in matters of heart problem. I have experienced heart break many times in the past. And I thought diversions is the best solution...keeping myself busy and surrounding myself with friends...but it didn't help me at all. Just when I thought I have already moved on, fears and resentments haunts me. Again, the cycle repeats... I'm broken hearted again. Until one day, I turned to God for help. The best way to heal your broken heart is to reveal and surrender it to God. http://phoebe180.hubpages.com/hub/surrendering-the-pain

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   CrazyGataposted 12 years ago

   Don't mean to sound rough, but I'm just about to write a hub about how we have come to think being sad is like a disease... Broken hearts should feel blessed to have known love... Of course, is not a good moment to mention just that while the broken heart has just been broken... you know? life is an awesome frightening magnificent roller coaster man...  Sorry for the broken heart... just go with that flow and please don't tell it not to grieve doggone it!

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   Kari_24posted 12 years ago

   Time.  And even more time.  in 2009, I got out of a 5 year relationship and it took me about a whole year just to feel like myself and feel happy again.  I still think about him and wish the outcome was different.
   
   You can try to surround yourself with friends and family but you may still feel sad.  Try to heal in whatever way works for you even if that means staying locked up in your house for a few days straight just grieving.  Eventually you will need to get into a new routine.

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   seichepreyposted 12 years ago

   Drink.  Drink.  Drink.  Get a good long drunk on and ignore the world for a few days or a week.  Then pretend that the person is dead and move on.

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   renegadetoryposted 12 years ago

   Taking the time to grieve over the loss of your relationship and the person you gave your heart to. 
   
   Then going back to doing things that you love or make you happy (writing, artwork, etc.)
   
   I also find it helps to not spend too much time alone once you've had your mourning period.  Be with family, friends, people who can make you laugh and just get out of the house, even if its just for a short while.
   
   Get back on the horse so to speak.  Even if it's just meeting someone for coffee, it's better to get back out there and move on.  Not saying you should do this right away, but not to let too much time go by where all you do is sit around and think about the ex.  They've moved on with their life, you need too as well.

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   Through My Lensposted 12 years ago

   Accept that you will feel awful for a while. Surround yourself with the people who know you best and love you most. Allow yourself to be overwhelmed, but only for a short time. Force yourself to get out and do something outside of your comfort zone every day, a little at a time. Remember the activities that made you happy before and go back to them. Give yourself time. It's like the moon.... it waxes and wanes. This, too, shall pass. Good luck!

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    ligiaoglposted 12 years ago

    To get a new one, right the way! It worked for me when I was single...

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