When it comes to relationships there is no "right" or "wrong", only "agree" or "disagree". Ultimately we are all looking for someone that "naturally agrees" with us on the major things in life.
The rest of it comes down to (personal preferences) - height, body type, sense of humor, common interests, passion/romance, chemistry, goals/dreams. As the cliche goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". No one can tell you what you should be attracted to.
"The one" is someone who will also see YOU as being "Their one" in return. Life is a personal journey! Your first priority is to know yourelf!Stick to your own values. Always use your mind when making decisions concerning matters of the heart. You are responsible for your own happiness! Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. Be wise and careful when making your choice.
If you have to "change" who you are (at your core) in order to be loved by a specific person then they are the wrong person (for you). This is also true vice versa.
Everyone wants to be loved and accepted for being their "authentic self". You don't demand or negotiate for love and affection. (These things are given freely). You can't manufacture chemistry. (It's either there or it's not).
Each of us is entitled to create our own "Must haves" and "Deal breaker" lists. Your "list" will be different from mine. No two are identical. Everyone has their own "value point" system for the traits on their list. Not all traits are equally important.
In my opinion there are at least 6 traits that must be present to have a happy relationship.
The 6 traits are in this order: Honesty, Trust, Loyalty, Love & Devotion, Intimacy, and Emotional Security. If one of these are missing I wouldn't stick around.
Take it from me starting off with intimacy and attempting to work backwards seldom works. http://hubpages.com/relationships/therecipeforrela...