I have complete love for my child that is like no other feeling I have for any other person I know, including members of my family. I feel that I have no choice about loving him, I just do. It feels like he is a part of me, like a leg or arm, something that makes me, me. He affects the person I am, how I think and how I behave. However, I didn't feel that way for about 9 months after giving birth. At that point I had no emotional connection to him whatsoever.
I think that true love is an active choice that we make to be loving towards another person. There may be an emotional feeling attached but it is not necessary. It is easy to love someone who is loving towards you, but harder to do if they are treating you in a way you do not appreciate. There are people who are able to still behave in a loving manner towards people in the most difficult of circumstance, so I believe that love is more than just a word, it is a very important condition for human life.