Constructive is the key term here. Be aware of your language and your mannerisms when you argue. When you raise you voice; you create tension in the argument. Its important that you are calm and collected when you argue. Do not be overcome by your emotions.
It is important to state your point from the perspective of "I" ~ as in how you are feeling. Be consciously aware of yourself. Do not blame and by using the word "you" or by pointing a finger.
The most important thing is that you want the other person to be aware of how you felt. That is more important that making them know how upset you are at them. That defeats the purpose.
We want to avoid directly confronting the other individual in the argument. As he/she may take a defensive stand.
The situation can be further propagated when we use foul language and a demeaning tone. Such arguments are not constructive. Thank you for your question.