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   krjpublishingposted 12 years ago

   Should you share your passwords (Facebook/Cell phones, etc.) with your partner if they ask?

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   Jackie Lynnleyposted 12 years ago

   I see no need in sharing passwords. All partners are not created equal and we are the ones responsible. I would see no need to ask anyone for their password for any reason.

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   molometerposted 12 years ago

   It depends on what you are up to. The question implies that you are not completely open and honest in your relationship and need to keep secrets. I could be wrong but why would you want to keep such things private? What have you got to hide?

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I have no secrets so I could care less if my husband knows my passwords.  I would however be very surprised if he asked because it would indicate there was a trust issue and a question about what I do online.
   
   So if the partner asks is the first red flag that there is no trust.

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   Oppieposted 12 years ago

   No, I think they shouldn't have that info.  If they are your friend on your page, then they would know what you are doing anyways, except what emails you are passing back and forth between other users.  And emails are considered private.

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   Mercia Collinsposted 12 years ago

   no. It is not a matter of having secrets. Being open and honest does not mean being joined at the hip. A couple is still two people. My husband would not ask for my password, he trusts me, as I do him.
   
   I would question why one partner would want to know the other's passwords, it is not just a lack of trust, there is also a control issue there.

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   Attikosposted 12 years ago

   That's like opening your mail. In general, your partner should respect you enough not to do it. If she doesn't, then you have relationship problems far more pressing  than the issue of passwords.
   
   The argument I see in another post, by the way, that old one "If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear," is as wrong in personal as in political life. Essentially, it constitutes an aggressive demand for trust from someone who can't be trusted.

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   thecoffeewriteposted 12 years ago

   Only with a husband or wife. Most of time the only reason they would ask out of the blue is because they're a person who has control issues and knowing your every move is the only thing it will take to make them feel secure anyway, but I would rather a husband ask than a boyfriend.  A boyfriend would get the side eye and a hearty hell no.  I have only asked for what I needed when I needed or when asked to use it, but if there is trust in the relationship anyway one won't need to ask, the info will be offered at some point without reason.

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   Mindtrapzposted 12 years ago

   This is a delicate subject. For example, I love my significant other and have nothing to hide, but at the same time I like my privacy. I believe that if you share passwords, and your significant other has been in previous relationships where they have been cheated on that you could inevitably be put in the same category.

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    krjpublishingposted 12 years ago

    Interesting responses. I asked this question because it came up on a friend's Facebook page. My position is when you require all access, even on things unimportant, you're bordering on possession and obsession. Someone mentioned that it's like opening someone's mail, and I agree. As an example, your partner may be emailed, inboxed or texted some personal information from a family member or a friend that they'd like to stay between the two of them, but by you being insecure, you're now in someone else's personal space. In short, everything is not your business and just because your partner wants some privacy at times, it doesn't imply something underhanded or sneaky. In my opinion, whether it's just a relationship or a marriage, you've got to allow for some privacy or you'll have an implied mistrust. If both parties want this and feel it's healthy for their relationship, so be it. But if there's a demand for this, there are deeper issues that sharing a password or two won't solve...

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    smzclarkposted 12 years ago

    With my husband, I already have. With a boyfriend I wouldn't; If you split badly; ya'd have to change them all!

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    juiwei2000posted 12 years ago

    No, no, no, no, no, you should not share any personal stuff of this sort with anybody other then yourself!!!!  Not even your partner!!!!!!

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    Johnrr631992posted 12 years ago

    I would say its no big deal.. I mean unless you have something to hide, or unless you have trust issues. I mean typically your partner is not going to be on your facebook at all times, but it does build trust between you and your partner if you know each others passwords.

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    stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

    My boyfriend and I, actually also my sister, have all shared our passwords with eachother at some stage and it hasn't been a big deal at all.  We have shared our passwords for convenience reasons.  I'm logging on on her computer (Computer's password) or I'm wanting to make a call from his phone.  It's never been an issue, we're sharing for the convenience but not to go snooping, certainly I don't want to read their emails or Facebook Messages or emails etc.

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