Do you get jealous when your boyfriend/husband wants to go to strip clubs or pla

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   kayyluhposted 12 years ago

   Do you get jealous when your boyfriend/husband wants to go to strip clubs or places like hooters?
   
   I know I get upset when I hear he wants to go to hooters and strip clubs just so he can say he has. It kinda hurts my feelings. What do yall do in this sitatuation? I just worry about losing him not because i'm not confident with myself.

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   alisha4uposted 12 years ago

   Anyone would feel insecure if such and such thing happens. But, if you trust your partner, you need not worry.... Let them free...let them do what they want...cuz in the end, they'll come back to you only...

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   Klenaposted 12 years ago

   I'm going to answer honestly - I'm only jealous when I'm not allowed to go!
   
   I'm sorry that it hurts your feelings dear and I understand why! Your concern is "what if he sees someone prettier than me and decides he doesn't want to be with me anymore." Honestly, this is pretty much a pipe dream. Friends who worked in strip clubs don't want to date their "punters", they're too busy actually working!
   
   Your self confidence is something you need to work on. You don't have to be okay with him going to Hooters, but make sure that you express that in an adult way and try and explain why you don't like it. Don't strop and make a fight out of it and scream at him. There is nothing more likely to push him into doing it more.
   
   Remember, your partner's with you for a reason - he WANTS to be with you. As Alisha4u says, it's you he comes home to.

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   paxwillposted 12 years ago

   Going to Hooters and going to strip clubs aren't really comparable. Hooters employees are clothed and they're too busy working to do anything sexual with the customers--and frankly I doubt they're even interested in the customers. I've seen shoppers at Wal-Mart wearing less clothing than a Hooters server.  Anyway, he's more likely to get diarrhea than a hard on from eating at Hooters.
   
   Going to strip clubs is different, and it depends on what he's doing and how much money he's spending on strippers. You have a right to feel jealous that he's showering money and sexual attention on other women.  Your feelings are your feelings and no one has the right to invalidate them, political correctness be damned. But a lot of guys go once and find it pretty nasty and never go again, so, you could just let him go the one time and see how it pans out. 
   
   Ultimately you have decide if this is the kind of person you want to be with.  If it's a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker. Good luck.

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   pmorriesposted 12 years ago

   I am a man (I am forty), and I have never been to Hooters or a strip club. Now that I am married, I think it would be distrustful to my wife (to go to a strip club), but I am still curious about the whole experience. If one of my friends has a bachelor party, I might go, but I would still feel guilty (corny I Know). In closing, if my wife went because of a bachelorette party, I would let her go (like she would go and I could stop her), but I woulf be very jealous.

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