When we have loved and lost, seeing the ones removed one more time only makes the longing for them worse, unless they can remain with us. It is like opting to be hurt all over again. I would choose to see someone whom I never forgave for a wrong done to me. Many years ago, a man asked my forgiveness for a wrong he felt he did to me. He permitted my ex-husband to use his apartment to cheat on me. I do not know if he is still alive, but I would tell him that I forgave him a few years after he asked, and I would ask him to forgive me for not being strong enough to accept his request when he asked. I am at peace with myself because God knows my heart and I trust that He made everything all right with that man. If that man is mature in God, then, he should be at peace also.